Re: Im so depressed 
I hope you don't mind me saying sis, but I think you 'love' this guy because he made you feel loved in the beginning and that's what you're craving. It's not love sis, but a need. If that need was fulfilled by someone else, you'd forget this guy in an instance. If you truly love someone, their happiness means more to you than anything else. That means letting them go if they don't want you and allowing them to find happiness with whomever they chose. If you can't live with that and give them that chance happily then what kind of love is that? Then it's a selfish need to fulfil you're own desires, not theirs.
I know it hurts when our dreams are shattered, but then again you're hurting because you're dreams are shattered not his. So you're feelings are for yourself not him.
And to be honest sis, no one is worth loving more than Allah. It is Allah who created you. He gave you the blessings of health and all your physical and mental abilities. Do you know when you wake up each morning, you're suppose to say alhumdulillah? Because Allah has revived you from a state of death. Do you know that your heart actually skips a beat when you sneeze, so you say alhumdulillah as the normal rhythm is restored again? Allah gives you enough food to survive on each day. Allah has given you countless blessings, so if anyone is worthy of love and praise, then it is He.
Anyone can read namaz - anyone can say 'I love Allah'. But until we show our love by appreciation, hope, devotion, gratefulness, worship and acceptance of His Will, we are only feeling an imaginary love.
You cry for a mere mortal, who has given you nothing but pain, but do you cry in remembering how much Allah has blessed you with? Have you cried and shook with fear in asking for His forgiveness for all the sins you've comitted? You keep saying Allah hates you and this and that while ignoring His blessings and constant chances for repentance. But you cry for this guy who gave you nothing but heartache? Allah isn't to blame for the situation you're in. Allah didn't say have a relationship before marriage. It was your choice and you can't blame Allah for decisions that were entirely yours.
You need to give yourself some self-respect sis. Who is worth crying for? A kaffir, who doesn't give a darn about you or Allah who doesn't let you down when you turn to Him? That guy doesn't care for you. He doesn't want you. He is NOT worth crying for. Learn to love yourself and those who love YOU. Don't put yourself down for those who don't. You're worthy of being loved and those who don't love aren't worthy of yours. Why should they be? Why should they deserve it? Hasn't your love got any value in your own eyes? Reserve it for who loves you. Don't humiliate such a precious emotion for them. Tell yourself over & over that you'll only love someone who loves you. Anyone else simply isn't worthy of it. Wake up sis, stop letting some loser break you. Be strong, love yourself, value your feelings and yourself as a person worthy of much more.
Love Allah - not pray without feelings. Love Him truly so much that you feel you want every cell in your body to disintergrate in His rememberance. When you learn to love Allah truly, He will make others love you.
I might've sounded harsh, but previous tactics have failed. I mean well and want what's best for you. I do not see you as a stranger, but with the same feeling as I have for my close friends, i.e. I care. And yes, sometimes I do get harsh with them when they continually refuse to see sense and keep making their own lives a misery then blaming Allah. Na udhu billah! I hope you didn't mind. But I'm not going to apologise for trying to make you see sense.
haha
Take care and if you need to talk, even on the phone, you're more than welcome to.
(hugs)
ur sis.
Why do I feel so depressed again this morning imsad
After reading everything you wrote I felt so much better, but I knew this would happen, I knew i'd feel like this again.
I'm thinking about him AGAIN, I feel like crying, I love him so much, I can't live without him, this is so so hardwhat am I going to do? I know I have to give it time, but I can't handle this, it's torture. imsad
I hope you don't mind me saying sis, but I think you 'love' this guy because he made you feel loved in the beginning and that's what you're craving. It's not love sis, but a need. If that need was fulfilled by someone else, you'd forget this guy in an instance. If you truly love someone, their happiness means more to you than anything else. That means letting them go if they don't want you and allowing them to find happiness with whomever they chose. If you can't live with that and give them that chance happily then what kind of love is that? Then it's a selfish need to fulfil you're own desires, not theirs.
I know it hurts when our dreams are shattered, but then again you're hurting because you're dreams are shattered not his. So you're feelings are for yourself not him.
And to be honest sis, no one is worth loving more than Allah. It is Allah who created you. He gave you the blessings of health and all your physical and mental abilities. Do you know when you wake up each morning, you're suppose to say alhumdulillah? Because Allah has revived you from a state of death. Do you know that your heart actually skips a beat when you sneeze, so you say alhumdulillah as the normal rhythm is restored again? Allah gives you enough food to survive on each day. Allah has given you countless blessings, so if anyone is worthy of love and praise, then it is He.
Anyone can read namaz - anyone can say 'I love Allah'. But until we show our love by appreciation, hope, devotion, gratefulness, worship and acceptance of His Will, we are only feeling an imaginary love.
You cry for a mere mortal, who has given you nothing but pain, but do you cry in remembering how much Allah has blessed you with? Have you cried and shook with fear in asking for His forgiveness for all the sins you've comitted? You keep saying Allah hates you and this and that while ignoring His blessings and constant chances for repentance. But you cry for this guy who gave you nothing but heartache? Allah isn't to blame for the situation you're in. Allah didn't say have a relationship before marriage. It was your choice and you can't blame Allah for decisions that were entirely yours.
You need to give yourself some self-respect sis. Who is worth crying for? A kaffir, who doesn't give a darn about you or Allah who doesn't let you down when you turn to Him? That guy doesn't care for you. He doesn't want you. He is NOT worth crying for. Learn to love yourself and those who love YOU. Don't put yourself down for those who don't. You're worthy of being loved and those who don't love aren't worthy of yours. Why should they be? Why should they deserve it? Hasn't your love got any value in your own eyes? Reserve it for who loves you. Don't humiliate such a precious emotion for them. Tell yourself over & over that you'll only love someone who loves you. Anyone else simply isn't worthy of it. Wake up sis, stop letting some loser break you. Be strong, love yourself, value your feelings and yourself as a person worthy of much more.
Love Allah - not pray without feelings. Love Him truly so much that you feel you want every cell in your body to disintergrate in His rememberance. When you learn to love Allah truly, He will make others love you.
I might've sounded harsh, but previous tactics have failed. I mean well and want what's best for you. I do not see you as a stranger, but with the same feeling as I have for my close friends, i.e. I care. And yes, sometimes I do get harsh with them when they continually refuse to see sense and keep making their own lives a misery then blaming Allah. Na udhu billah! I hope you didn't mind. But I'm not going to apologise for trying to make you see sense.
hahaTake care and if you need to talk, even on the phone, you're more than welcome to.
(hugs)
ur sis.
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