Coping with Depression, stress and anger

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Re: Im so depressed :(

Grace Seeker said:
Tanya,

I know that what Muslim Sis has written to you will be hard, very hard to hear.

What Muslim Sis has suggested is a way for you to get through this. If you want your memories to be pleasant rather than raw emotion, I suggest you take a second dispassionate look at what Muslim Sis has shared with you. She is trying to lead you through a very difficult path in your life, one on which many people stumble. But she has provided a true path.

Listen to her. She has helped you more than you can realize at the present time.

May you find peace, sister.
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Peace and greetings Grace Seeker

Thank you for your understanding & supportive post.

It is hard to take on something said in the manner that I did. But if one can then it's for their own benefit. I've known many people who've made mistakes in life (including myself) and there comes a time when we wish we'd listened to the one's who had been advising us against something. At the time one thinks that no one understands you, or has no sympathy for how you feel, but it's only after getting into a mess that we realise they had only wanted to protect us - and then we wished we had listened.

I want to share something that my son said, for the benefit of all those facing testing times...

Like most 8 year olds, my son loves his x-box and loves the challenge of winning the games. The other night he asked me if this life is a dream. I said, life is like a dream because that's how we will feel about it on the Day of Judgement. He was quiet for a while.. thinking perhaps... before he said that life is like a game and we have to beat the devil and the bad things. :cry:

SubhanAllah! I was amazed at such wisdom from an 8 year old and so, so proud of him. That's why I feel that if more adults viewed life from that perception, it would somehow make it easier for them to fight their demons.

Tanya sis, I hope you take this on board and pass the tests of life with flying colours. I wish you the best.
 
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:sl: sis muslimah, soundz like ur doing a fantastic job as a mother! mashaAllah..
sis Tanya... inshaAllah I hope it works out for you, and that Allah guides you and grants you patience.. sorry I dont have any good advice.. not very good at this type of thing.. acutaully I'm not that good at all
Take care
 
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How will I ever find happiness after this treacherous heartbreak?
I'm being told time and time again 'things will get better 'time will heal''it's a test", but when or should I say 'if' I get through this test, I will have another test waiting for me, so really and truely the pain never ends, can someone give me an answer to that?
 
Re: Im so depressed :(

I'm depressed too over things. Suffice to say I had just gone through one of the worst crises in my life. Two things have helped me cope;

1. Prayer. Something you cannot dispense with. God is always there.

2. Constant reminder that there always people with much worse fate. Whenever I feel like I am about to break I always remind myself there are those somewhere in parts of the world who can't even find a crumb of food to eat, a loincloth piece to wear or even trees just to serve as rooftoops over their heads. But I still have rice, t-shirts, a car even, and internet access.

3. How bad can it be? I've suffered enough heartbreaks before, but I still live and I know people who love me, care for me. Most importantly, I have people who are willing to lend me shoulders to cry on. And I haven't found just the moment to do that. But I still live. Life goes on. A heartbreak cannot starve me to death.

You're lucky still to have friends here in LI to talk to. Just convince yourself that you'll make this one through.
 
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ASALAAM ALAYKUM SISTER!

Sister.. Just try your hardest pls to get over him find something to do. Join a sport club or join some muslim committies, anything that can help you get throuhg what you are goin through. And you were saying that you do not have a good education. As tomtomsmom said go back to school get a good education. then find a good job sister.. I am so sorry about what is going on in your life sister. I hate to hear when my muslim sisters heart pain cause no lie my heart starts to pain me. Soo sister I pray that your heart soon be at ease. But you dont need all that pain on you.. Just keep praying to ALLAH. never give up hun. ALLAH is always there listening. I will even make dua for you sister to get better. *Don't Give Up Hun*


Ma SALAAMA
ALLAH HAFIZ
KHUDA HAIFZ
 
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Islam_sister said:
ASALAAM ALAYKUM SISTER!

Sister.. Just try your hardest pls to get over him find something to do. Join a sport club or join some muslim committies, anything that can help you get throuhg what you are goin through. And you were saying that you do not have a good education. As tomtomsmom said go back to school get a good education. then find a good job sister.. I am so sorry about what is going on in your life sister. I hate to hear when my muslim sisters heart pain cause no lie my heart starts to pain me. Soo sister I pray that your heart soon be at ease. But you dont need all that pain on you.. Just keep praying to ALLAH. never give up hun. ALLAH is always there listening. I will even make dua for you sister to get better. *Don't Give Up Hun*


Ma SALAAMA
ALLAH HAFIZ
KHUDA HAIFZ
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Aw thank you so much for doing Dua for me :cry:

Please everyone, please pray I get through this and find happiness, please I have no hope. :cry:
 
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:sl:

Never lose hope in Allah swt sis, Allah swt is so great, we just cannot imagine. I probably cant relate to what you are going through, but just remember sis;
On no soul does Allah Place a burden greater than it can bear.
[Qur'an, 2:286]
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May Allah swt help u with your difficulties. Ameen.

:w:
 
Re: Im so depressed :(

I prayed Isha namaz last night and Fajar namaz this morning, I felt so much peace inside, Alhumdolilah.

But one thing that won't let me rest is why he hasn't called me since I last saw him, I know I shouldn't be worried about that, but I'm going crazy thinking allsorts in my head wondering stupid things like what it is about me he doesn't like, what put him off me.

I know you must think i've gone mental, but I can't rest my heart I don't know what to do, I've never ever been this depressed in my entire life, not this much. The feeling of being madly in love with someone who stopped returning my calls and totally started ignoring me for no reason, it's making me go mental, if he called me just once it would put my mind at rest and i'd be so happy, just one call :cry:

I keep thinking what have I done to make him hurt me like this, I think he's found someone better looking and he thought I was ugly. I feel suicidal not knowing what it is that made him stop calling, the thought of him simply losing interest in me is killing me, why can't I just leave it and be in peace, i'm so so so hard but I don't know what to do anymore, there is no way out of this, only he can make me feel peace by calling me, just one call from him would make me so happy.

How can I let it go not knowing why he stopped calling me, this is pure misery and torture. I've lost interest in life, I can't do anything in peace, this is the hardest test i've ever had to face in my life :raging: :cry: how can I stop thinking about it, how on earth do I rest my mind??? :cry:
I can't even call him because he ignores my calls and that frustrates me even more. I try to stay busy at work and keep occupied, but I end up thinking about it again :cry: How will I ever rest my mind??? It's impossible!!!
 
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Lemme tell u sumthin sis. STOP craving for that bro k? If u want Allahs help u gotta turn to Him n dat guy cant help. And another thing, when Allah wishes to favour a servant of His, He tests him with difficulties so that i may reward Him. So why dont u turn to Allah and put this guy behind you because anything is possible for Allah and you have to pray to Him and believe that.
 
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Ayesha Rana said:
Lemme tell u sumthin sis. STOP craving for that bro k? If u want Allahs help u gotta turn to Him n dat guy cant help. And another thing, when Allah wishes to favour a servant of His, He tests him with difficulties so that i may reward Him. So why dont u turn to Allah and put this guy behind you because anything is possible for Allah and you have to pray to Him and believe that.
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But I can't rest my mind i'm going crazy wondering what he's thinking and why he ignores me, how do I put my mind at rest besides praying? :cry:
 
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i really think u r overeactin over this guy>Ur makin him sound like he's the last man on earth. Come on sis, let it go, ur not the only person in life that has been hurt, We all hav been hurt at 1 time in our life but we dnt commit suicide.U hav really low self esteem 2 think ur lucky 2 be wiv him. HJe's probably lucky 2 hav been wiv u and ! day inshallah trust me u will find sum1 beta and sum1 thats luvs u coz he obviously doesnt.
 
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It's so difficult to control my mind sis, can't explain this misery in my head. :raging: :enough!:

He walked out on me not really offering me an explanation....just left me to figure it out for myself. Its cruel and heartless!!

He's just moved on without an explanation or a thought towards me, leaving me with questions only HE can answer, yet he chooses not to. :cry:

This will hang over me for a very long time, i'll always be thinking...

what did I do?
what put him off me?
did he find someone much better than me?
what is it about me he doesn't like?

I hate this so much, I can't stop thinking and thinking my head is gona blow up with all these questions!!!
 
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Ive had this happen 2 me at 1 time, maybe ur cumin on 2 strong, maybe he doesnt luv u as much mas u luv him. Sometimes its hard 2 think why but u just hav 2 except it. I husband was murdered 2 years ago and ive had 2 deal wiv it.
 
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sis tanya I thought you said you broke up with him...?

forget him! firstly the whole thing wasn't Islamic and anyway he's not worth hooning over! ur not in his life- get him out of yours! he doesn't deserve being upset and love sick over honey! and yes Pray to Allah to heal your heart and read Quran for comfort
 
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hey listen to some awlaki lectures while ur browsing the forum-its cool masha allah he has a lot of knowledge- it'll get ur mind off things
 
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i wana no wot ahmedi is also!
Im sure its wen people believe in a nother man bein the last prophet otsumthin along those terms
 
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:salamext:


It's a group who claim to be muslims and say there's another prophet after the Messenger of Allaah, Muhammad (peace be upon him.) Even though Allaah says in the Qur'an:

Muhammad is not the father of any of your men, but (he is) the Messenger of Allah, and the Seal [Last] of the Prophets: and Allah has full knowledge of all things. [Qur'an 33:40]
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so why do these people believe in sumthin else wen it is clearly staed in the quran, it doesnt make sense
 
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Fi_Sabilillah said:
:salamext:


It's a group who claim to be muslims and say there's another prophet after the Messenger of Allaah Muhammad (peace be upon him.) , Even though Allaah says in the Qur'an:

Muhammad is not the father of any of your men, but (he is) the Messenger of Allah, and the Seal [Last] of the Prophets: and Allah has full knowledge of all things. [Qur'an 33:40]
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and what evidence do they have of that, i mean every1 knws that Muhammad (peace be upon him) was the last prophet so who is the 1 they beleive to be last, and where does it say that?
 

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