Getting married to someone less religious

_muslim_ said:
:sl:

Tell your husband about the importance of prayer.
Please read this: http://islam-qa.com/en/ref/12305/

Always encourage and remind him of the times of the prayers and pray by his side. At least during the beginning of the marriage, later he'll get used to it and so it becomes a habit inshaAllah.

Teach him "Dhikr" (ways to remember Allah by the example of the
prophet) in the morning and evening. For example:

- when he goes to bed : “Allaahumma bismika ahyaa wa amoot (O Allaah, in Your name I live and die).” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 7394),
- When the Prophet SAAS woke up from sleep he would say: “Al-hamdu Lillaah alladhi ahyaana ba’d ma amaatana wa ilayhi al-nushoor (Praise be to Allaah Who has brought us back to life after causing us to die, and unto Him is the resurrection).” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 6312).
-saying 100 times a day" SubhaaAllaahi wa bihamdihi"

Also I highly recommend lectures.
Pray to Allah to guide him to the straight path.


Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “No person earns any (sin) except against himself (only), and no bearer of burdens shall bear the burden of another” [al-An’aam 6:164].

May Allah guide him to the Straight path. Ameen.
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After this beautiful response and seemingly the only one that actually answers the question without judging or insulting, I suggest closing the thread before people start tearing the OP or anyone else to bits.

This is one of those instances when some posters become overly judgmental and frankly, nosy. She asked a simple question: What can her friend do to help her husband to be more pious because she recently became pious. She cannot get out it, so leave it at that! You people talk as though a woman can just pick up and leave her entire life easy like 1-2-3. Alhamdullah my parents are pious, but if they werent and they told me that if I dont marry who they tell me, I would be in a very critical and terrifying position. Im not saying the girl in this case is in the type of situation, but open your eyes! Not everyone understands religion or deen. Not everyone understands the rules and even those who do dont play by them.

RELAX when you answer sensitive questions like this, if you cant respond in a kind hearted respectful way, than dont respond at all! Many in here make it difficult for people to ask for advice because of the responses they will get from people who act as though they can judge a person. Avavavvvv....making my head hurt.
 
I have to laugh at something though, the way some people approach these threads reminds me of when I do student teaching. No matter how many times you tell the student to read the instructions and explanations carefully before answering the question they dont and answer the question completely incorrectly! Ha...
 
:sl:
if you can refuse, then refuse. if you cant, pray, pray and pray through your teeth that something occurs to prevent this horrible predicament.
 
AnonymousGender said:
like i said i only want advice on how she can influence her husband to be more pious. you dont need to know personal details about their lives. she isnt being held at gunpoint, she agreed to the marriage herself but now she has become more religious. cultural issues prevent her from ending it because of what could very well happen. thats all i say on that issue!

now please, ONLY ADVICE ON HOW to guide him to be more pious. he is already muslims and admires the religion...i must say i feel this wasnt the right place to come ask people ask too many questions and ont give answers
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I was only asking to reduce sounding judgmental in her case, because I felt bad for her.

I didn't expect you to give more information on the matter. Don't worry, I have no intention of finding out who she is.
 
AnonymousGender said:
:sl:
Im asking some advice for a friend who is marrying a man that she was arranged with years ago. His family is muslim and one of his sisters is covered so they are not completely in the dark but he isnt very pious as in he doesnt pray 5 times a day. However, her marriage to him is inevitable (two weeks away). What can she do to make it better? Is there ways for her to encourage him to be more religious without seeming bossy or rude?
Please any advice would be welcomed but please no advice on her leaving him because for sure there is no chance of her being able to break it off for many reasons I wont name.
Also, she would like to know if her husband not being pious enough is going to hurt her in the eyes of God even if she herself is pious.
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:wa:

Islam is following the 5 pillars, the teachings of our Rasoul(SAW) and The Qu'ran, of course. It is also "Akhlaaq" (good morals, decency, fairness, good heart and respectable interactions with others.

A man can pray 5 times and day yet lie, cheat, backbite, etc. We are in NO position to judge him, nor judge a man who is opposite to him (i.e. misses prayers, yet respects his parents, is fair and just, etc). Surely the five pillars come first, but how can they be accepted without good Akhlaaq?

I understand your situation very well, and my advice to your friend would be for her to make it clear to her future husband that Islam is the foundation of her life.

She should ask him what interests him in Islam the most, and start with that; she should not only tell him the rulings, but why the rulings are there, and tell him of the numerous benefits of salah, zakaat,etc... whether the benefits be in this life or the next.

As mentioned previously, lectures, videos, conferences, books, halaqaat (segregated gatherings where muslims talk about Islam and read Qu'ran) can all be very helpful. Good company and friends make a world of difference; therefore, if he has religious friends who attend these kinds of event, encourage him to go with them. If he doesn't, then surely she has a brother, a cousin or a friend's brother whom he could get acquainted with and go to the halaqa with.

I will leave you with a small reminder, that when a Muslim teaches another a good deed, (example, teaching him an ayah) he will get hassanats every time this person reads that ayah. Even if the teacher dies, and the person who has been thought recites the ayah, the teacher will continue to get hassanats.

It is one of the 3 ways to keep getting hassanats after you die. So if her future husband learns countless positive actions from her, she will insh'Allah get a numerous amount of hassanats.

As for the source, this is widely known and I have heard is at halaqaat, I won't go in depth since this thread is for advice and not religious teachings. if anyone has the exact source, feel free to share. Jazak'Allah kheir.


Best of Luck,

:sl:
 
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