He prevented her marriage, and this was his reward

[Ummu Sufyaan]

Any girl? Biggest? Nope.

most girls then? oh come on, seriously ask most girls that, and that's what they'll reply with...

We all have "obvious" interest in dunya by doing various things, but not limited to it only, in the outside maybe it might look that way for many, but it ain't true.

im sorry i just dont get that. clearly the father prevented her marriage , for his selfish reasons...so, im not too sure what the ambiguity is here is all about?

Oh, islamirama can't read my post. Ah well.

ahh but i can and i shall reply on his behalf but funny, he replied months ago but you conveniently seemed to have missed it? pls explain...

He might just have been confused, extremly protective and whatnot. And she might not even have said that dua exactly word for word. oh:

no no no, reread the OP. its clear as day what the father intended.... i can tell you from being around Arabs my whole life and growing up with the culture, let me tell you- and i wouldn't be in the least surprised if most (if not all) Arabs would agree with me on this- that alot of Arab fathers ask for a huge amount---> to keep for themselves imsad

But I still stand by my previous opinion.

each to their own then

I don't get it why she made that aweful dua against her dad tho.

ukhtee, put yourself in her shoes i agree that the dua is harsh, but i will also state if someone prevented me from something i guess i longed for(as it sounded like she did), and without a good reason, then believe you me that person-yes, even if it were parents (not that they would, alhamdulillah)-would probably turn around do the same as she did...and not because im a harsh person (i hope im not :-[) but to me that person -after doing that to me-well i simply wouldn't see them as my parents, i would only see them as people who have oppressed me and that way the dua would become easy for me to say...

I Guess maybe he use to mistreat her too, so she learned to hate him due to the evil he showed her?

yh i think that'll be probably be it

How can preventing the woman from marrying, to the extent that she reachs the age of FOURTY years be best for her??

agreed!!! imsad

 

[Gia]

She was dying, and she asked that dua'a. This indicates how hard and miserable he made her life to the extent hat she, during her last moments, chose to ask that dua'a instead of anything else.

 

[Al-Zaara]

most girls then? oh come on, seriously ask most girls that, and that's what they'll reply with...

Aleykum selam we rahmetallahu,

Many girls, I can say. I just pointed out not all. I'm sorry if I meet several different kinds of girls than you do.

im sorry i just dont get that. clearly the father prevented her marriage , for his selfish reasons...so, im not too sure what the ambiguity is here is all about?

How do you know it was selfish? We know he wanted this and this amount of money, great amounts, but it could be another intention to it than what first meets the eye.

That is what I was trying to say in my previous post. I want a big house and a great job, I would like this and that. But why? I'd want my family to live with me. A good job so I can pay school for my youngest sister and help econimically the other, etc. At first, just saying how I wanted a big house and great job, might sound so "dunya:ish" oriented to you. But there are other intentions, more or less hidden.

We all have "obvious" interest in dunya by doing various things, but not limited to it only, in the outside maybe it might look that way for many, but it ain't true.

I do not agree with him doing it, his level was so high, I think that is misunderstood from y'all what I'm thinking of him, but from what I see there in black and white and NOT what is in the heart, the dua felt not appropriate.

ahh but i can and i shall reply on his behalf but funny, he replied months ago but you conveniently seemed to have missed it? pls explain...

You're being completely ridicilous and paranoid as you were when the thread was created and almost accused me for being attacking due to "Saudi" reasons. And this time 'cause a member is banned, which I first now even realized he is.

I have many threads to see and this one was not subscribed, oh I'm sorry I do not posses 50 pairs of eyes and completely browse with passion through the threads just to see what is happening to this one thread, which also doesn't possess great meaning, I believe it already has been discussed to its core.

each to their own then

Oh finally.

 

[^[AnKaBooT]^]

She was patient all the while and in the end she lost her patience
which makes me think she will get punishment for this or not
but it was also the dads fault for asking high mahr.so maybe god just warned him so he could give his wealth to poor people and ask forgiveness.

 

[Gia]

which makes me think she will get punishment for this or not

Allah does not punish people for hating to be oppressed, She was wronged and had to live a miserable life until she died.

The Prophet (SalAllahu 'alaihi wassallam) said: "Be afraid of the curse of an oppressed person as there is no screen between his invocation and Allah." (Al-Bukhari)

I think that her father forgot this, or was too selfish to remember it.

 

[Mikayeel]

I will close this thread, for one reason, its turning into a personal debate of different opinions.

The story does not clear state what had happened to the girl so we don't know why she made that dua, even though it may seem like a very harsh one!

All we know is Allah is the best of judges, so everyone will be granted his/hers justice!

Lets pray to Allah that none of the sisters will go through what she went through, and also lets pray to Allah that our relationship with our parents stays nice and pure!