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Hmm - do u think he will be sorry too at somepoint???
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Knowing people like that, and also knowing it probably isn't what you want to hear, I doubt he will feel sorry about it if he hasn't yet. While I know I can only go off what you've written, so based on that, his actions seem cold and calculated, he knew what he was doing, and people who do that usually don't feel remorse for their actions.

The only reason I can see him feeling any kind of remorse, or eventually feel bad in any way, is if his new relationship burns him. A case of "you don't know what you've got until it's gone." Though, honestly, given some of the sociopathic people I've known, and knowing people scorned by some I don't know, I'd wager even that is a long shot.

It is never a pleasant feeling, being hurt, especially by someone who did it intentionally and don't seem to care that you were hurt. It can be easy to harbor grudges and hope they learn their lesson, that they feel bad about their actions at some point, but holding on that sort of negativity will hold you back, hurt you more, in the long run than it ever will them. At least, that's my personal experience with it.

Trust in your faith, that in this world or the next, he will get what his actions have wrought, try and make peace with what happened, as difficult as it might be. Beyond that, I would think best thing you could do is try and let it go, and keep living life to the fullest.

Ultimately, learn from the hurt, but don't let it hold you back.

And apologies if this is an overly lengthy response to your question, or even not entirely relevant to your state of mind any longer, it was simply the response to your question that to mind.
 
Ala bidhikri- Allahi tatma-innul quloob. "Remember that by the remembrance of Allah hearts get peace and satisfaction"


Satan is our bad enemy. He will remind you the past again and again and will make you upset. Just start saying "laa ilha illa Allaho" repeatedly and don't give chance to Satan to remove your heart from the remembrance of Allah even for a second. Insha-Allah you will soon feel a great strength in your heart and body. Moreover, when you remember the past, at once start saying "astaghfirullah" for many times, realizing your sins and disobedience to Allah. This will give you great benefit and peace of mind while Satan will get discouraged and get away from you insha-Allah. Also you must start reading and understanding the Holy Quraan for your moral strength. Be hopeful from Allah WHO is our Kind Lord and will make your life in both worlds full of happiness. There are people (women) who get heart-broken after marriage when they see that the lawful husband is changed and has no love or sympathy with her and their children. That is really very hard. But when such a woman becomes patient with the rememberance of Allah, her heart heals quickly and she becomes able to earn for the children and do their bringing up in the best Islamic way as a single parent.
 
I dont get upset over what i did meaning i am and always will be remorseful but for some reason i am always thinking how he is so happy after hurting me and how allah hasnt punished him :( this stuff makes me upset and i know i shudnt be thinking this i know ..
 
Grudges will take you nowhere sister, nowhere. Besides the fact that we cannot question Allah swt, we know that there is justice by Allah swt. Leave it to Him. You carry on with your life sister. That is the best thing you can do right now.
 
I truly beliebe Allah will do justice in sha allah .. He will be sorry for breaking my heart.
 
Remember sis, we are nothing without Allah, we are nothing without Islam. We all need Allah, while Allah needs none.

Try to strengthen your connection with Allah, make friends with sisters, and keep up your 5 prayers, and recite the Qur'an. Allah will never disappoint you, so please don't disappoint yourself by doing nothing.

Take a step towards Allah, and remember Him, seek solace within Him. Humans will never satisfy you, a friendship without the consciousness and blessings of Allah, is devoid of any spiritual bliss..

What I am saying is, run towards Allah, establish a connection with Him, Allah will repair your heart. Only in the remembrance of Allah, will hearts find ease.

may Allah :swt: forgive me if I erred. Ameen.

Allahu alam.
 
I know i mean it makes me sad that i trusted him so much to the point i took so long to cut him off and i questioned allah why he did this ;( i feel so bad may allah forgive me and may allah show him the right path and make him a better person. I will no longer worry about him i have left his doing to Allah swt.
 
Are there any marriage duas? Also thankyou all for being so kind and advisable.
 
Hey guys, so i just wanted to share something ( mainly get it of my chest) as your aware of my heartbrreak (from my post earlier) my younger sister is getting married before me and believe me i am super happy for her but sometimes i keep thinking if only that guy hadnt wasted my time maybe i would of been married before? Sometimes i think i would of married young if ihad done things differently. Makes me very sad :( ..... Am i being stupid? Its not fair ..... Lifes not fair.
 
xa_xa786 said:
Hey guys, so i just wanted to share something ( mainly get it of my chest) as your aware of my heartbrreak (from my post earlier) my younger sister is getting married before me and believe me i am super happy for her but sometimes i keep thinking if only that guy hadnt wasted my time maybe i would of been married before? Sometimes i think i would of married young if ihad done things differently. Makes me very sad :( ..... Am i being stupid? Its not fair ..... Lifes not fair.
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I wouldn't call it stupid, just you being human. Most people have regrets, things they wish they hadn't done, had done, or had done differently. Just learn from it, so you don't make the same mistske again.
 
:/

..and..last post of the day.

it may sound patronising but you should try to move on.

...spending time thinking about something so negative will only make you bitter..

and that's not really how you should want it.

at the least you should count it as experience, how not to live..

and learn to give great advice to people who don't yet know how to listen.

and those mistakes you hold onto will only seem a hindernece to those who have not yet made them..

and you hope they won't.

or do as I do and remember everytime you have been wronged.. seemingly.

remember to make a list opposite of everytime you wronged.

tread on someone's toes. tripped someone. put in a bad tackle or fouled..

form is temporary.

..and...it's a gahame of two halves? o_0

but seriously maybe you won't change and just slap people everytime a name is mentioned..

don't add to that list.. it will make you look bad.
 
I am trying its really hard ...... Heartbreaks i guess are the worse sort of pain u can go through. Sigh
 
xa_xa786 said:
I know and your are absolutely right i was stupid to trust him. Biggest mistake of my life. I hate the fact that only im bearing the consequences of this mistake. He gets away with it and isnt even sorry.
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:sl: Ukthi

Be Sure Ukthi NO ONE CAN GET AWAY with their Mistakes particulary with Huqukul Ibad or the Rights towards the Humans . If you wrong somebody you will be repaying them ANY HOW SOME WHERE , If not in this 70-80 years dunya BUR SURELY IN AKIRAT when YOU & WE will be So desperate (as given a chance in Dunya ) to give all our wealth and family when we are at the peak of our times (not during death) JUST TO expiate THOSE SINS BUT WILL NOT BE ACCEPTED.

But I 've seen those Pious people who did sabur and patient on the zhulm or injustice people did to them ALLAH TOOK REVENGE and WILL TAKE REVENGE '' AL MUNTAQIM '' ( THE AVENGER) is an ATTRIBUTE OF ALLAH ALLAH , AL JABBAR BE SURE ALLAH KEEPS BY HIS ATTRIBUTES. AND YOU WILL SEE MY WORDS COMING TRUE SOONER OR LATER, INSHALLAH If YOU ARE REALLY A MUZLOOM ( a Victim )
 
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