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greetings and peace be with you xa_xa, and welcome to the forum,
Hate what he has done to you, but try not to hate him, it will only make you feel bitter, and this eat away inside of you. The only way to find real peace for yourself, is to try and forgive him, pray that Allah will also forgive him too, even if he does not seem remorseful, it is still better to forgive.
We all need to be forgiven for our sins against Allah, your sin in going out with him in the first place may not be as bad, but like all of us, we need to ask forgiveness. If you can pray for his forgiveness, then it will be easier for you to understand how Allah can forgive you, and more so, for those who are repentant.
I am only 67, and I have learned that time is a great healer.
Blessings
Eric
I hate that he done that to mei hope allah deals with him
Hate what he has done to you, but try not to hate him, it will only make you feel bitter, and this eat away inside of you. The only way to find real peace for yourself, is to try and forgive him, pray that Allah will also forgive him too, even if he does not seem remorseful, it is still better to forgive.
We all need to be forgiven for our sins against Allah, your sin in going out with him in the first place may not be as bad, but like all of us, we need to ask forgiveness. If you can pray for his forgiveness, then it will be easier for you to understand how Allah can forgive you, and more so, for those who are repentant.
I am only 67, and I have learned that time is a great healer.
Blessings
Eric
To add to what Eric H has said, sister, if we only knew how much sins we ourselves have committed against Allah SWT, we would dread His punishment, in other words, we all have sinned and dearly needs His mercy and forgiveness, so it is always better to forgive, let go and move on with life, while trying to improve ourselves all the way.
Hi all, im posting under this thread as i cnt work out how to create a new thread using the mobile app.
This is different from the heartbroken post! I am now a little bit stressd out about getting married... Since my younger sis is marrying i have aunties pressurising me to hurry up and find someone ( its like they want me to pull someone out from thin air)
I dont have a mum ( she past away when i was younger whom can worry about getting me married off) and i tried myself (again as u can see from the heartbroken post) and i failed.
Im feeling very hopless now ;(
This is different from the heartbroken post! I am now a little bit stressd out about getting married... Since my younger sis is marrying i have aunties pressurising me to hurry up and find someone ( its like they want me to pull someone out from thin air)
I dont have a mum ( she past away when i was younger whom can worry about getting me married off) and i tried myself (again as u can see from the heartbroken post) and i failed.
Im feeling very hopless now ;(
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Jazak Allah Khair Brother
Hi all, i was doing so well over the past few days trying to forget the past and move on but then i saw the man i wanted to marry with someone else married and very happy.
It made me uoset thinking i wasted 2 years if mine and hes not even bothered about what he did.
Sometime i think why did allah do this? Allah is so fair they why this injustice for me ;(
It made me uoset thinking i wasted 2 years if mine and hes not even bothered about what he did.
Sometime i think why did allah do this? Allah is so fair they why this injustice for me ;(
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Don't say that sister, this is the Shaytan winning you. You don't want the Shaytan winning you over, don't let him win you over.
Dear sis his happiness and your sadness are both a test from Allah swt. Everything happens for a reason and happens for good, we just need to find and see that good in everything bad and in every pain.
"You may not like something which in fact is good for you, and you may like something which is actually bad for you. "Allah knows and you do not know"
May Allah swt make it easy for you. Ameen. x
"You may not like something which in fact is good for you, and you may like something which is actually bad for you. "Allah knows and you do not know"
May Allah swt make it easy for you. Ameen. x
@ regrets1 ... I think heartbreak like this is probs the worst thing you can go through but the swiftes way to get closer to allah. Im happy that im praying and close to Allah but i dont know i have alot of hatred in my heart for this man (not good i know)
I just hope Allah makes him pay for his wrong too
I just hope Allah makes him pay for his wrong too
Greetings and peace be with you xa_xa,
To have your heart broken is terrible, it will either make you angry and destroy you over the next fifty years of your life, or you find ways to let go.
People have the right to be angry, but it is how you deal with your anger that will help you ease the pain in life.
I listened to Glen tell his story, he had been signed up to play football with Leighton Orient, alongside David Beckham. He had an exciting life ahead of him, but he was stabbed in the back shortly after, he has now been paralysed from the waist down for the last 27 years. They caught the man who did this, he served four years in prison, he was then able to walk out of prison on his own two feet, and justice had been served.
By this time, Glen had learned to drive a disabled taxi, he learned where his assailant lived, and then stalked him with the intention of running him over. Glen said at that point he came to understand that true justice could not happen. Justice is not that two people should be crippled, rather, it is that neither of them should be crippled. He knew this could never happen, he came to understand that he had to let go of his hatred. If not, he would become worse than his assailant, because his actions would be premeditated.
He said he had to live with two diseases, being crippled, and the greater disease was the hate burning away inside him. Forgiveness and letting go of the hatred was a gradual process, his wheelchair has been a daily reminder of his past anger.
After we heard Glen's story in Manchester Cathedral, he was with us when we were asked to say a blessing and we were to keep in mind all the people that had hurt us, and who we had to forgive as we recited the words below..
In the spirit of striving to forgive
Eric
To have your heart broken is terrible, it will either make you angry and destroy you over the next fifty years of your life, or you find ways to let go.
People have the right to be angry, but it is how you deal with your anger that will help you ease the pain in life.
I listened to Glen tell his story, he had been signed up to play football with Leighton Orient, alongside David Beckham. He had an exciting life ahead of him, but he was stabbed in the back shortly after, he has now been paralysed from the waist down for the last 27 years. They caught the man who did this, he served four years in prison, he was then able to walk out of prison on his own two feet, and justice had been served.
By this time, Glen had learned to drive a disabled taxi, he learned where his assailant lived, and then stalked him with the intention of running him over. Glen said at that point he came to understand that true justice could not happen. Justice is not that two people should be crippled, rather, it is that neither of them should be crippled. He knew this could never happen, he came to understand that he had to let go of his hatred. If not, he would become worse than his assailant, because his actions would be premeditated.
He said he had to live with two diseases, being crippled, and the greater disease was the hate burning away inside him. Forgiveness and letting go of the hatred was a gradual process, his wheelchair has been a daily reminder of his past anger.
After we heard Glen's story in Manchester Cathedral, he was with us when we were asked to say a blessing and we were to keep in mind all the people that had hurt us, and who we had to forgive as we recited the words below..
Now may the peace of the Lord be with you, be with you
May the Lord bless you
May the Lord keep you
And may God's face shine upon you always
And give you peace
May the Lord bless you
May the Lord keep you
And may God's face shine upon you always
And give you peace
In the spirit of striving to forgive
Eric