Ok Kiro
I'll chip in my penny's worth
I think you have already come pretty far in your quest and excelled compared to a lot of others in your age group.
A lot of this comes from introspection and even the prophet saw used to retreat to his cave and occasionally remove himself from the constant hustle and bustle of society. Ardi has kids so we should listen to him cos he is most likely a lot wiser than a lot of us and I also agree with him. Good judgment comes from experience and experience usually comes from bad judgement.
You do have to go and live out in the world but at the same time I think it is a good thing you made this thread. The people can interpret it how they will but your thread could easily have been translated as what life lessons has everyone else learnt? It's wise you're trying to gain other people's insight into experiences you might not have been through because inshaAllah you won't have to make the same mistakes. Having said that your own mistakes will be most valuable.
There's a thin line. If you expose yourself, you are likely to make mistakes and it depends on how sensitive you are. Sometimes these mistakes can turn into a lot of regret and you can feel quite bitter as you reflect on why you made the mistake. If you are ok to this risk then go ahead. If it will scar you then personally I would avoid it. As a man however you have to don a heart of steel so maybe you will need to walk the dark path and come out stronger.
Observation is also key, you'll know the wise ones are usually the ones that remain quiet and take in all the information. They don't need to make a song and dance about it and are secure enough to not seek praise from others to increase their self worth. It's usually in the quiet ones you'll find a wealth of knowledge.
When I was young I would make a lot of dua for wisdom and firaasa (intuition) because these characteristics were ones that I admired. Your biggest source of wisdom will come from the Quran and studying it and reading tafsir and reflecting upon it. There is only One that is All Knowing so any knowledge we may have comes from one ultimate source, Allah swt.
[This is] a blessed Book which We have revealed to you, [O Muhammad], that they might reflect upon its verses and that those of understanding would be reminded. [38:29]
Be like a traveller, not too attached to anything but at one with his surroundings.
Learn to always think well of Allah swt no matter what trial or test you face because one of the biggest things people struggle with is contentment. As humans it's in our nature to want more and more but learn contentment. Learn to trust your Lord with an open and unguarded heart thinking well of Him at all times. If you fail in something trust that you are being redirected to something more beneficial. If you do not acquire what your heart desires despite putting full efforts into it, trust something better is out there. Never, ever lose this as you'll find when people reach adulthood this is one of the things that starts to fade once people face the constant let downs/betrayals by people they once thought highly of.
If you don't understand something and you have exerted your efforts, let it humble you that Allah swt is Al Aleem Al Hakeem, the All Knowing the Most Wise.
So yeh Kiro I'm feeling sleepy so don't know what else to add buttttt soak it all in. And good thread
