How should he tell her that he wants to marry her?

[جوري]

JazakhAllah, I never said I was getting married well not any time soon anyway, lol the biggest step for me is to first convince my mum about it - which could take a few years

And Jesus who In the world would need 250 grand to survive a month oh:, a woman like that would need a slap

it is an exaggeration of course, but when I say she needs, I really mean it as management of the entire household not merely on her vanity (also assuming your wife isn't financially independent herself) nonetheless, It is a man's duty and obligation to cover, groceries, rent, private schools for the kids, Islamic classes, car insurance, trips to the doctor, clothing for everyone, a percentage to charity etc..
Also depending on the city or state where you live, what requires only $200 a week in one town can require $400 in another.. you see it isn't etched in stone.. there really is no baseline.. the $2500 sounds more realistic but my feelings are that at least double that is needed to support a family with all the needs given above plus whatever problems arise, and God knows do they ever arise on weekly basis-- that is why more often than not, you find two parties working instead of one.. although it is still the man's responsibility to secure all these for his family...

and Allah swt knows best

 

[جوري]

More money, more problems. I'm happy with what I've got (its a better than average salary too). Besides, if a woman needs that type of money thats kinda a telltale sign of a materialistic woman... and she wouldn't make it past the q&a portion of the courtship phase.

most divorces indeed occur an issue over finances.. I think people mismanage or have an unrealistic idea of expenses needed in a marriage and today's age.. and I am not even talking luxury, but just the bare minimum..

Consider you my friend whose aunt was diagnosed with breast cancer, she didn't have insurance and her family spent $37,000 out of pocket and I promise you, those were only to cover the bear minimum..

You just never know what curves life might throw your way.. indeed I meant the above as an exaggeration but they can be a very realistic financial burden to someone unprepared and not necessarily because your spouse is a greedy woman either...

So may Allah swt save us the ills of this world and grant us all righteous partners in marriage.. those of us who are married and those who are not

ameen

 

[Sahabiyaat]

it is an exaggeration of course, but when I say she needs, I really mean it as management of the entire household not merely on her vanity

phew.:exhausted

i thought u meant 250k for only her wardrobe and makeup lol. (indeed a woman like that would need more than one slap to put her straight!..im all for domesic violence here ) jokinggg..

 

[جوري]

Awww very cute!!!

indeed I regularly go through that website too, the moment I saw the question I recognised!!

JazakAlah!!

P.S this is my first post here!!! any ideas how to browse around? Its a very good forum

:welcome: aboard.. love your name