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i do agree sister nadia but did anyone thought about a dominating husband and cruel.this is only a way given so that to please the husband,on the other side the way should be given so that how a husband should please his wife.a wife is as she is but not as slave for all his needs and submitting in however situation to her husband command.in islam authority has been favorised to the husband but to protect his wife and childrens.not to take advantage of it so that to be cruel and harsh to them.zombies is not the word to be given i think.cause both sides are ivolved either wife or husband unless doing good.
well done this is what i wanted to hear about,see my reply to nadia waheed. you will understand.thanks again
If anyone has an article of how to keep your wife happy, I will be glad to read it;D
And it would be helpful to marry someone who has a taste for interior decorating. I'm not only talking about someone who likes to decorate-I'm talking about a brother who is not afraid to say his helpful critique!
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Nice lists...here's a nice 'Gem' from the AlMaghrib class, Love Notes: Marriage and Family Life, that a sister at AlMaghrib forums posted:
Give us some room when we get angry :-\
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Ähmed;574511 said:
Give us some room when we get angry :-\
:salamext:
sometimes its nice when the wife does that cause it shows she cares so personally i wouldnt mind so this shows not all men are like that.
dont try makin me sound girly :anger: lol
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as salaamu 'alaykum
jazaka Allahu Khairan
some good points...likes number 15 about jihaad , but i think that it required so much iman , its a big test for wives
im sinlge bur reading this kind of post my conclusion is : be a wife is a beautiful but hard work , masha Allah
jazaka Allahu Khairan
some good points...likes number 15 about jihaad , but i think that it required so much iman , its a big test for wives
im sinlge bur reading this kind of post my conclusion is : be a wife is a beautiful but hard work , masha Allah
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Yeah good point. I agree, it would be nice sometimes because that would be because they care.
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How 2 make ur husband HAPPY
1. Beautiful Reception
After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you,
Begin with a good greeting.
Meet him with a cheerful face
Beautify and perfume yourself
Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested
Receive him with loving and yearning sentences
Make hard efforts for excellence of the food & having it ready on time.
2. Beautify and Soften the Voice
For your husband only, it shouldn't be used in front of non-mahram men (men who can marry you if you were unmarried)
3. Smelling Good and Physical Beautification
Take good care of your body and fitness.
Put on nice and attractive clothes and perfumes.
Bathe regularly and, after the monthly period, remove any blood traces or bad smells.
Avoid that your husband observes you in dirty clothes or rough shape
Avoid prohibited types of ornamentation, e.g. tatoos
Use the types of perfumes, colors, and clothes that the husband likes
Change hair style, perfumes, etc. from time to time However with these things you should avoid excessiveness and, of course only act as such in front of mahrem men and women.
4. Intercourse
Hasten for intercourse when your husband feels compulsion for it.
Keep your body clean and smelling good as possible including cleaning yourself of released fluids during intercourse.
Exchange loving phrases with your husband.
Leave your husband to fully satisfy his desire.
Choose suitable times and good occasions for exciting your husband and encouraging him to do intercourse, e.g. after returning from a travel, weekends, etc.
5. Satisfaction With What Allah (subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa) Has Allotted
You shouldn't be depressed because your husband is poor or works in a simple job
You should look at poor, sick, and handicapped people and remember Allah (subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa) for all that was given to you.
You should remember that real wealth lies in faith and piety.
6. Indifference to Worldly Things
You should not consider this world as your hope and interest.
You should not ask your husband for many unnecessary things.
Asceticism does not mean not to enjoy what is good and permissible (Halal), but it means that one should look forward to the Hereafter and utilize whatever Allah SWT gave them to achieve paradise (Al-Jannah).
Encourage your husband to reduce expenses and save some money in order to give charity and feed poor and needy people.
7. Appreciation
By the saying of the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam), the majority of people in Hell were women because they were ungrateful and deny the good done to them.
The result of being grateful is that your husband will love you more and will do his best to please you in more ways
The result of being ungrateful is that your husband will be disappointed and will start asking himself: "Why should I do good to her, if she never appreciates?"
8. Devotion and Loyalty
In particular in times of calamities in your husband's body or business e.g. an accident or a bankruptcy
Supporting him through your own work, money, and properties if needed.
9. Compliance to Him
In all what he commands you, unless it is prohibited (Haram)
In Islam, the husband is the leader of the family, and the wife is his support and consultant.
10. Pleasing Him If He Is Angry
First off, try to avoid what will guarantee his anger. But if it happens that you can't, then try to appease him as follows:
If you were mistaken, then apologize
If he was mistaken then:
Keep still instead of arguing or
Yield you right or
Wait until he is no longer angry and discuss the matter peacefully with him.
If he was angry because of external reasons then:
Keep silent until his anger goes
Find excuses for him, e.g. tired, problems at work, someone insulted him
Do not ask many questions and insist on knowing what happened e.g.
1) You should tell me what happened!
2) I must know what made you so angry!
3) You are hiding something, and I have the right to know!
11. Guardianship While He is Absent
Protect yourself from any prohibited relations
Keep the secrets of the family, particularly intercourse and things that the husbands don't like other people to know.
Take care of the house and children.
Take care of his money and properties
Do not go out of your house without his permission and put on full hijaab
Refuse people whom he does not like to come over
Do not allow any non-mahram man to be alone with you in any place
Be good with his parents and relatives in his absence
12. Showing Respect for his Family and Friends
You should welcome his guests and try to please them, especially his parents.
You should avoid problems as much as you can with his relatives.
You should avoid putting him is a position where he had to choose between his mother and his wife
Show good hospitality for his guests by arranging a nice place for them to sit in, perfection of food, welcoming their wives, etc.
Encourage him to visit his relatives and invite them to your home
Phone his parents and sisters, send letters to them, buy gifts for them, support them in calamities, etc...
13. Admirable Jealousy
Jealousy is a sign for wife's love for her husband but it should be kept within the limits of Islam, e.g. not insulting or backbiting others disrespecting them, etc…
You should not follow or create unfounded doubts.
14. Patience and Emotional Support
Be patient when you face poverty and strained circumstances.
When you face calamities and disasters that may happen to you, your husband, his and your children, relatives or properties, e.g. diseases, accidents, death, etc.
When facing hardships in Da'wah (imprisonment, getting fired, arrested etc.
Be patient and encourage him to keep on the path of Allah and remind him of Paradise.
When he mistreats you, counteract his ill-treatment by good treatment.
15. Support in Obedience to Allah, Da'wah and Jihad
Cooperate with your husband and remind him of different obligatory and voluntary worships.
Encourage him to pray at night.
Listen and reciting the Qur'aan individually and with your husband.
Listen to Islamic tapes and songs individually and with your husband.
Remember Allah subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa, much, particularly after Fajr and before Maghrib.
Share in arranging Da'wah activities for women and children.
Learn Islamic rules (ahkaam) and good manners ('adab) for women.
Support your husband's activities by encouraging him, offering wise opinions, soothing his pains, etc.
Yielding some of your rights and a part of your time with your husband for Da'wah
Encourage him to go for Jihad when needed and remind him that you and children will be in the preservation of Allah, subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa.
16. Good Housekeeping
Keep it clean, decorated and well arranged
Change house arrangements from time to time to avoid boredom
Perfect food (preparation) and prepare healthy foods
Learn all the necessary skills for managing the house, e.g. sewing
Learn how to raise children properly and in an Islamic way.
17. Preservation of Finances and the Family
Do not spend from his money, even for charity without his permission unless you are sure that he agrees on this.
Protect his house, car, etc. while he is absent.
Keep the children in good shape, clean clothes, etc. Take care of their nutrition, health, education, manners, etc. Teach them Islam and tell them the stories of the Prophets and companions.
After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you,
Begin with a good greeting.
Meet him with a cheerful face
Beautify and perfume yourself
Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested
Receive him with loving and yearning sentences
Make hard efforts for excellence of the food & having it ready on time.
2. Beautify and Soften the Voice
For your husband only, it shouldn't be used in front of non-mahram men (men who can marry you if you were unmarried)
3. Smelling Good and Physical Beautification
Take good care of your body and fitness.
Put on nice and attractive clothes and perfumes.
Bathe regularly and, after the monthly period, remove any blood traces or bad smells.
Avoid that your husband observes you in dirty clothes or rough shape
Avoid prohibited types of ornamentation, e.g. tatoos
Use the types of perfumes, colors, and clothes that the husband likes
Change hair style, perfumes, etc. from time to time However with these things you should avoid excessiveness and, of course only act as such in front of mahrem men and women.
4. Intercourse
Hasten for intercourse when your husband feels compulsion for it.
Keep your body clean and smelling good as possible including cleaning yourself of released fluids during intercourse.
Exchange loving phrases with your husband.
Leave your husband to fully satisfy his desire.
Choose suitable times and good occasions for exciting your husband and encouraging him to do intercourse, e.g. after returning from a travel, weekends, etc.
5. Satisfaction With What Allah (subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa) Has Allotted
You shouldn't be depressed because your husband is poor or works in a simple job
You should look at poor, sick, and handicapped people and remember Allah (subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa) for all that was given to you.
You should remember that real wealth lies in faith and piety.
6. Indifference to Worldly Things
You should not consider this world as your hope and interest.
You should not ask your husband for many unnecessary things.
Asceticism does not mean not to enjoy what is good and permissible (Halal), but it means that one should look forward to the Hereafter and utilize whatever Allah SWT gave them to achieve paradise (Al-Jannah).
Encourage your husband to reduce expenses and save some money in order to give charity and feed poor and needy people.
7. Appreciation
By the saying of the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam), the majority of people in Hell were women because they were ungrateful and deny the good done to them.
The result of being grateful is that your husband will love you more and will do his best to please you in more ways
The result of being ungrateful is that your husband will be disappointed and will start asking himself: "Why should I do good to her, if she never appreciates?"
8. Devotion and Loyalty
In particular in times of calamities in your husband's body or business e.g. an accident or a bankruptcy
Supporting him through your own work, money, and properties if needed.
9. Compliance to Him
In all what he commands you, unless it is prohibited (Haram)
In Islam, the husband is the leader of the family, and the wife is his support and consultant.
10. Pleasing Him If He Is Angry
First off, try to avoid what will guarantee his anger. But if it happens that you can't, then try to appease him as follows:
If you were mistaken, then apologize
If he was mistaken then:
Keep still instead of arguing or
Yield you right or
Wait until he is no longer angry and discuss the matter peacefully with him.
If he was angry because of external reasons then:
Keep silent until his anger goes
Find excuses for him, e.g. tired, problems at work, someone insulted him
Do not ask many questions and insist on knowing what happened e.g.
1) You should tell me what happened!
2) I must know what made you so angry!
3) You are hiding something, and I have the right to know!
11. Guardianship While He is Absent
Protect yourself from any prohibited relations
Keep the secrets of the family, particularly intercourse and things that the husbands don't like other people to know.
Take care of the house and children.
Take care of his money and properties
Do not go out of your house without his permission and put on full hijaab
Refuse people whom he does not like to come over
Do not allow any non-mahram man to be alone with you in any place
Be good with his parents and relatives in his absence
12. Showing Respect for his Family and Friends
You should welcome his guests and try to please them, especially his parents.
You should avoid problems as much as you can with his relatives.
You should avoid putting him is a position where he had to choose between his mother and his wife
Show good hospitality for his guests by arranging a nice place for them to sit in, perfection of food, welcoming their wives, etc.
Encourage him to visit his relatives and invite them to your home
Phone his parents and sisters, send letters to them, buy gifts for them, support them in calamities, etc...
13. Admirable Jealousy
Jealousy is a sign for wife's love for her husband but it should be kept within the limits of Islam, e.g. not insulting or backbiting others disrespecting them, etc…
You should not follow or create unfounded doubts.
14. Patience and Emotional Support
Be patient when you face poverty and strained circumstances.
When you face calamities and disasters that may happen to you, your husband, his and your children, relatives or properties, e.g. diseases, accidents, death, etc.
When facing hardships in Da'wah (imprisonment, getting fired, arrested etc.
Be patient and encourage him to keep on the path of Allah and remind him of Paradise.
When he mistreats you, counteract his ill-treatment by good treatment.
15. Support in Obedience to Allah, Da'wah and Jihad
Cooperate with your husband and remind him of different obligatory and voluntary worships.
Encourage him to pray at night.
Listen and reciting the Qur'aan individually and with your husband.
Listen to Islamic tapes and songs individually and with your husband.
Remember Allah subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa, much, particularly after Fajr and before Maghrib.
Share in arranging Da'wah activities for women and children.
Learn Islamic rules (ahkaam) and good manners ('adab) for women.
Support your husband's activities by encouraging him, offering wise opinions, soothing his pains, etc.
Yielding some of your rights and a part of your time with your husband for Da'wah
Encourage him to go for Jihad when needed and remind him that you and children will be in the preservation of Allah, subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa.
16. Good Housekeeping
Keep it clean, decorated and well arranged
Change house arrangements from time to time to avoid boredom
Perfect food (preparation) and prepare healthy foods
Learn all the necessary skills for managing the house, e.g. sewing
Learn how to raise children properly and in an Islamic way.
17. Preservation of Finances and the Family
Do not spend from his money, even for charity without his permission unless you are sure that he agrees on this.
Protect his house, car, etc. while he is absent.
Keep the children in good shape, clean clothes, etc. Take care of their nutrition, health, education, manners, etc. Teach them Islam and tell them the stories of the Prophets and companions.
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Re: How 2 make ur husband HAPPY
It's just a reminder!
And something that our religion recomands an supports.
It's just a reminder!
And something that our religion recomands an supports.
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Do it please and leave the bro to post what makes them unhappytempted to make thread 'How to Not Make Your Husband happy' loll jokin
Re: How 2 make ur husband HAPPY
gracias,
i think what i am asking is does islam define the wife and husband roles in a marriage to that degree of precision or is this common sense applied to a general islamic principle about a wife and husband in marriage?
gracias
gracias,
i think what i am asking is does islam define the wife and husband roles in a marriage to that degree of precision or is this common sense applied to a general islamic principle about a wife and husband in marriage?
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Hola Jayda.
These principles give tips to the wife, and similarly there are other tips for husbands to be a good wife/husband because things differ according to ones culture, and if ones society goes against the faith, the person doesn't go with the flow, but rather they turn back to their faith and follow its principles instead. A person can only realise these principles by turning back to the prophetic way.
Otherwise the person doesn't have a solid foundation to turn back to.
Peace.
These principles give tips to the wife, and similarly there are other tips for husbands to be a good wife/husband because things differ according to ones culture, and if ones society goes against the faith, the person doesn't go with the flow, but rather they turn back to their faith and follow its principles instead. A person can only realise these principles by turning back to the prophetic way.
Otherwise the person doesn't have a solid foundation to turn back to.
Peace.
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