Seperate yourself from the rest of society, go ahead.
If you dont like being treated differently, stop acting so different.
There is a balance between your beliefs, and living in Society. Find it. Nearly every other religion has done so.
What is "Society" to you? There will never be a "toning down," or "suger coating," or "moderation" of Gods word, and that about ends that conversation.
About "over-reacting," many people did, and as stated by Cheb I believe, many people reacted in an honorable fashion.
I like the example used, if your dead father was being insulted and lied about publicly, in your local newspaper for example, you would just sit there and say, well, he has his freedom of speech? I think you'd also feel very hurt and upset. There is a difference between our prophet(pbuh) and a father technically but not in matters of emotion and respect.
As Muslims we respect Muhammed very much, and follow his example as an honorable person, caring, wise, intellegent, and most important, a very holy, God worshipping speaker of truth.
It is because we believe this man to be the best of men, whom undertook the hardest of tasks that a human could take, and without selfish desire preached and acted out the last message from God to mankind.
If you could fathom the amount of responisbility and care needed to do such a thing... Try to imagine being Luke Skywalker, maybe then you could relate.
So anyways, if this man whom you believe to be all that, is being slandered in the worst of ways, what would you feel? If your father was being slandered in the worst of ways, what would you do?