I am too shy

It is good to be shy friend. In Imam Nawawis Riyad-us-Salihin book i read that the prophet saw two brothers and one was scolding the other because of his shyness. The prophet came forward and stopped him with the reason that shyness is a quality.
I also read that it is good to be modest cos modesty does not lead to doing wrong.
 
There is a difference between islamic shyness and other shyness. Some muslims are too shy to say the azaan or lead a prayer in front of others and that is where one has a problem
 
Alpha Dude said:
Me too :embarrass

My advice: eat properly, study hard (if your in school), exercise regurlarly - hopefully these things will make you more confident :)

Trust me: good food and enough exercise is one of the things you should try.
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i agree with alpha dude... exercise and feeling good bout yrself on the outside -not to show off or for any unislamic purpose- helps u feel better on the inside..

i also am very shy on my first meetings wif people and yeah prob 8 outa 10 will not bother givin u a chance but there will b the 2 who will take the time and effort and once u start feelin confident on the outside itll come on the inside and u wont care about yr quietness... :)
 
I Don't See Anything Thing That's Wrong With Being Shy Or Mot Socialisng That Much!!!
As A Matter Of Fact ..that's Me Too , I Like To Keep To Myself Most Of The Time!
Another Thing..the Prophet Salallaahu 3alayhi Wass Salam.. Was A Very Shy Man..
 
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In reality am shy too...dnt really open up easily...but wid cuz and stuff i'll be more interactive....

sometime i'll keep it all in...but as for this forum as am not seeing anyone....i have opened up...my shyness has faded away...if i see someone on the forum...face to face...i'll be a quieter person....

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Yeah..i'm Like You , On The Net I Tend To Open Up More Than In Real Life:?:?:?
 
Assalamu alaikum sister,
I don't think that being too shy is such a bad thing. In islam the women's vioce is part of her owrah so technically she should try to limit to how loud she is to use her vioce. When I was younger i used to be very shy and reserved I didn't associate with many people and did not was to be like the girls that flirted with all the guy's either. But the more people I met and the older I got i realised how to read people such as who are your friends are and who your friends aren't..... If you love the way you are then enjoy life as you wish to enjoy it within the boundaries of Islam. Don't try to be someone that your not because people will notice you sure, but they'll also distinguish what's real and what's fake...............think about it be your self and don't worry about what other's might think.
Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah
ur suster in islam umm_amina04
 
lol

I hate socialising too, I'd rather stay at home than get free food all day (i.e. a wedding;D).

Sometimes, you just have to be a bit sociable, not with the opposite gender of course, but if it's just females in your family, it's good to talk a bit. RasoolAllah(SAW) would socialise if he was invited to someone's house.

However, I have the same problem, like today, I pressed for the stop on the bus, but the driver didn't stop, I just couldn't get the words out for some reason, I was like "IQRAM SAY SOMETHING!!" But I just couldn't do it....

And My friends also want me to talk and talk at times, I can do that, but sometimes, I'm just not in the mood, if your friends say that why are you not talking or sumthin like that, just say I'm not up for it, or something like that, if they are true friends, they would understand.
 
AnonymousGender said:
Salam sisters and brothers my problem is that i am too shy i dont like to sociolise with others i never go out i stay at home all de time, the only time i go out is to attend college, my mum told me to be more open to speak to my guest at times, my friends also told me to be louder i just cant do that is kind of upsetting because i kno am nice person wen u get to know me but many people are put off because am not really talktive and am not sending a good first impression.

Where am from people love the loud and confident people and that is something am not is kind of upsettin :(
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subhanaAllah u r exactly like me
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i am kurdish and in my culture we have a saying that translates somewhat into this "a shy girl brings more than an entire people" which means if shes got the quality of shyness, she is worth more than entire populations/peoples/tribes/etc...

so if your a girl, its a good thing :)

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i was a very. VERY, very shy student at school but now that i'm at college i've kinda opened up :D

the first thing is finding out WHY you're shy? maybe you've got problems, low self confidence or maybe you just dont like meeting new people?

but one thing i've learnt is that if you remain shy you lose out a lot, you become the girl or guy at the back of the crowd or class who never gets any attention :playing:

lol but Insha'Allah you should go out...meet new people...and overcome your shyness!! :D :w:
 
some people call me quite and others say I'm a total chatterbox!
if i meet new people i like to sit quitely and watch for a while to see how/what they are and how i can blend in-once i feel more easy i open my gob like this>>:D

(they probaby wish i'd shut up :D)
 
AnonymousGender said:
Salam sisters and brothers my problem is that i am too shy i dont like to sociolise with others i never go out i stay at home all de time, the only time i go out is to attend college, my mum told me to be more open to speak to my guest at times, my friends also told me to be louder i just cant do that is kind of upsetting because i kno am nice person wen u get to know me but many people are put off because am not really talktive and am not sending a good first impression.

Where am from people love the loud and confident people and that is something am not is kind of upsettin :(
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insha'Allah always keep reciting the verses 25 to 28 of Surah Ta-Ha of The Qur'an. (also see its english translation)

insha'Allah by its recitation Allah will give you self confidence insha'Allah

also, insha'Allah keep doing zikrullah (remembrance of Allah), 5 times prayers, recitation of the Qur'an, and insha'Allah always seek Allah's help for anything and everything. Allahu akbar !

Allah is not in need of the creation, but the creation is in need of Allah.

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Qur'an 20:25

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Qala rabbi ishrah lee sadree


[Musa (Moses)] said: "O my Lord! Open for me my chest (grant me self-confidence, contentment, and boldness).






20:26

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Wayassir lee amree


"And ease my task for me;





20:27

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Wahlul AAuqdatan min lisanee


"And make loose the knot (the defect) from my tongue, (i.e. remove the incorrectness from my speech) [That occurred as a result of a brand of fire which Musa (Moses) put in his mouth when he was an infant]. [Tafsir At-Tabari, Vol. 16, Page 159].





20:28

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Yafqahoo qawlee


That they may understand my speech.




http://quranicrealm.com/viewverses.php?q=20&langs=393
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I think some people here are confusing being shy with being quiet.

People can be quietly confident - sure of themselves and liking themselves, but just quiet and content with it.
Being shy - wanting to say or do things, but not feeling able to do it, is something entirely different. It often goes together with a lack of confidence and self-esteem, and usually isn't a good thing.

We should all like ourselves. We are as God has made us - that's got to be a good thing! :D
Why worry what other people think of us???
It is what God thinks of us, that matters.

Peace :)
 
SALAMZ
i 2 am shy.. i go red infront of everyone n ma earz go boilinnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn!! :$ but Inshallah try phsycin ur self up make ur self b prepared for bein public.. i admit wen derz presentationz i h8 it neva once av i njoyd it.. but think of it lyk u av no option.. itz best for u... if u tak ur tym n study wa u need 2 do wel den nufin bad can hapen 2 u.. u try ur best n Inshallah it wil work out.. wen it cumz 2 frendz.. make dem one by one.. dnt start wid big groupz as u may feel intimidated.. if u dnt feel confident for ur self ... it wil b harder for u 2 aproach ppl.. let dem knw how u r wa u lyk wa u dnt lyk find comon groundz 2 talk about ul c itz a piece of cake.. even tho i find it hard myself :P
Inshallah all wil work wel for u :)
take care
 

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