I'm Religious, the boy is not.

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I'm very close to my Faith; I love God and everything about Islam. But, the boyfriend is not religious at all. This usually isn't a problem, like he isn't condemning my beliefs, and I don't condemn his. Really, we keep to ourselves about religion. But every once in a while, I want to talk about what happened today at the Mosque, or something I read in the Qur'an, etc. and I feel like I can't connect to him. Like, I feel like whenever I try to explain a religious philosophy to him, he just doesn't get it. Can this be worked out without trying to convert him?
 
iliketosmile99 said:
I'm very close to my Faith; I love God and everything about Islam. But, the boyfriend is not religious at all. This usually isn't a problem, like he isn't condemning my beliefs, and I don't condemn his. Really, we keep to ourselves about religion. But every once in a while, I want to talk about what happened today at the Mosque, or something I read in the Qur'an, etc. and I feel like I can't connect to him. Like, I feel like whenever I try to explain a religious philosophy to him, he just doesn't get it. Can this be worked out without trying to convert him?
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I can relate to you, Smile.

I am married to a non-Christian, and I often feel such a strong desire to be able to share my faith with him. Just to be able to tell him about something I have heard, read or experienced.
When I try to share, I am often left with the feeling you describe: he just doesn't get it! It's as if he is missing the 'faith gene'.

All I can do is pray for him, and then pray some more! :statisfie
I believe that God draws people to him - I know he did with me. If he drew me to himself, he can do the same with my husband.

I hope and pray that God in on your case, and on your boyfriend's too! :)
 
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Before we further comment.. can you please let us know if you are main stream Muslim as in sunni?

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And come not near to the unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is a Fahishah [i.e. anything that transgresses its limits (a great sin)], and an evil way (that leads one to Hell unless Allah forgives him). (Surat Al Isra: Verse 33)

However, after marriage, anything is allowed. Also, a Muslim woman cannot marry a non Muslim man, but a Muslim man can marry a non Muslim woman who is an Ahl Al Kitab.

^Hope that helps sis? :X

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Crazy_Lady said:
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And come not near to the unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is a Fahishah [i.e. anything that transgresses its limits (a great sin)], and an evil way (that leads one to Hell unless Allah forgives him). (Surat Al Isra: Verse 33)

However, after marriage, anything is allowed. Also, a Muslim woman cannot marry a non Muslim man, but a Muslim man can marry a non Muslim woman who is an Ahl Al Kitab.

^Hope that helps sis? :X

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Thank you! And I don't do anything sexual with my boyfriend at all. I've explained to him my limits, and he respects them.
 
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People she's a convert. Chill out. (I mean take it easy on her)

And sis, you're only allowed to get married to a Muslim man in Islaam :)
 
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-Ibn Al Aqwa- said:
Could you just get some proof for that . . .
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^Made lawful to you this day are At*Tayyibat [all kinds of Halal (lawful) foods, which Allah has made lawful (meat of slaughtered eatable animals, etc. milk products, fats, vegetables and fruits, etc.). The food (slaughtered cattle, eatable animals, etc.) of the people of the Scripture (Jews and Christians) is lawful to you and yours is lawful to them. (Lawful to you in marriage) are chaste women from the believers and chaste women from those who were given the Scripture (Jews and Christians) before your time, when you have given their due Mahr (bridal money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage), desiring chastity (i.e. taking them in legal wedlock) not committing illegal sexual intercourse, nor taking them as girl-friends. And whosoever disbelieves in the Oneness of Allah and in all the other Articles of Faith [i.e. His (Allah's), Angels, His Holy Books, His Messengers, the Day of Resurrection and Al*Qadar (Divine Preordainments)], then fruitless is his work, and in the Hereafter he will be among the losers. (Surat Al Maidah: Verse 5)

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I dont understand at all

no1 R U a muslim?

no2 if so, why have you got a boyfrend?

no3 havin a bf in itself is bad enuf, but havin one that aint a muslin is worse??
 
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^ n stop misusin the anon account

People she's a convert. So please take it easy!

^ Had to make it bigger so people dont ask the sme questions again and again.
 
i aint a member so I aint MISUSIN the anon account! get ya facts strait b4 u start makin accusations

i wasnt aware that sh was a convert so chill out
 
Alright,it's understandable that if she's a convert,then she might not be familiar with every aspect of Islam yet.

But,if she considers herself a muslim,then it's her job to find out the correct information about wether having a boyfriend is halal or not.

Being a convert does not allow you to have one,and now she's knows.

Sis iliketosmile99, if you need more info on this matter,here are a few very helpful links:

http://www.islamicboard.com/sisters-section/39060-permissible-2-have-girl-boyfriend.html

http://www.islamicboard.com/sisters-section/16370-boyfriend-girldfriend-sisterz-only.html

I believe the first link will help

All the best
 
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i aint a member so I aint MISUSIN the anon account! get ya facts strait b4 u start makin accusations

i wasnt aware that sh was a convert so chill out
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Can you use the anon account, if you are not a registered member?
I never knew that ...
 
houda~ said:
Alright,it's understandable that if she's a convert,then she might not be familiar with every aspect of Islam yet.

But,if she considers herself a muslim,then it's her job to find out the correct information about wether having a boyfriend is halal or not.

Being a convert does not allow you to have one,and now she's knows.

Sis iliketosmile99, if you need more info on this matter,here are a few very helpful links:

http://www.islamicboard.com/sisters-section/39060-permissible-2-have-girl-boyfriend.html

http://www.islamicboard.com/sisters-section/16370-boyfriend-girldfriend-sisterz-only.html

I believe the first link will help

All the best
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Those are in the sister's section, I dont think she has acess.
 

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