Hello Daveyats and Genesis,
I have read your posts with someinterest. I welcome your comments, and I hope that you may find my small comments to be of some use to you. And I hope that they may also be of some use to the Muslims out there who sincerely want to Please our Lord, and are seeking Light on this question.
The first and most important point thatI would like to bring to your attention is that when evaluating a position in Islam, we look FIRST to the Qur'an, and then to the ahadith (plural of hadith). If, as in this case, there are veryclear passages in the Qur'an that support the freedom of choice in a person's deen (way of life), versus an ambiguous and weak hadith (even if it is in Sahih al-Bukhari) that is open to a wide amount of interpretation, the Qur'an trumps every time. Actually, in the Prophet's (PBUH) time, when the Prophet (PBUH) said or did something that God Knew was incorrect, He would Correct him. God's Word always trumps the Prophet's. You have quoted Al-Baqarah 2:256 extensively. But let me recommend the following verses: An-Nisa 4:137 Those who believe, then disbelieve, then believe again, then disbelieve,and then increase in their disbelief - Allah will never forgive them nor guide them to the path. And Al-Kahf 18:29. Let him who wishes to believe, do so; and let him who wishes todisbelieve, do so.
Actually,frankly, I would recommend that you read the Qur'an in it's entirety.It talks about “belief” and “disbelief” (I somewhat disagree with these simplistic translations of the verbs aamana and kafara) throughout its length. The context of the Qur'an should help youunderstand what God is actually saying. These snippets we quote can be misunderstood. I suggest Yahya Emerick's translation. It has many footnotes with a lot of historical information giving the verses context. Muhammad Asad's translation is very heartfelt, too, though sometimes perhaps a little mystical at times. But always recall, that the translations are flawed and pale compared with the beauty and breadth of the original.
Secondly, deen does not mean religion.It means the Way you have chosen in your life. Do you chose to struggle towards God and try to know His Will and Please Him? Or do you not? We all have our deen, including atheists. And we all choose it freely. It is an inner state of being, of our relationship with God. We humans are rather obsessed with our labels and religious decorations. God is Interested in our Hearts. And as He is the Judge, we must refrain from taking on His Domain.
Thirdly, for those that are interested,the hadith in question is available in English at searchtruth.com (sorry, I can't put the full link in; as I am new here, I'm not permitted to do so). It is in Sahih al Bukhari Book 84, number 57. The translation is flawed, though. For instance, the word deen has been translated as Islamic Religion, and this is clearly incorrect.You may find other ahadith on apostasy which you might find supports what you presently wish to believe. I would recommend, however, for the one who seeks the best, that you check al-Bukhari Book 83, hadith37. It may help you understand why many scholars feel that the punishment of death for apostasy is limited to those who are involved with a serious crime against the community of Muslims. The reality is, that there are many ahadith out there, of varying quality, and in order to come to as serious a decision as the taking of a human life,one should be well-versed in the field.
Fourthly, there are many cases of people in the time of the Prophet (PBUH) who left Islam. And returned and left, perhaps, again. The majority were NOT killed. Those that were, were under specific circumstances. Unfortunately, I don't have the time or space to go into these cases fully. Yahya Emerick discusses this point in his commentary on the Qur'an.
And finally, if anyone wants a clear explanation of this particular question by a scholar, I would suggest the following (again, I can't post the link. Google "hadith" and "apostate" and you should see the following: Is Killing An Apostate in the Islamic Law?). I drew a lot on this text for my discussion here.
May God Guide us and Help us Find the Light. And only God truly Knows.