Ive tried so hard to get you back

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To be blunt bro Hamaz, you did something Haram and now you are suffering the consequences for it those actions. its like having a drink, getting drunk, getting addicted and then saying how your life falls apart due to having it and also not having it.
I have seen brothers who suffered as you have and they learnt from their mistakes and moved on, they realised marriage is the foundation required for such relationships, without it the slightest problems in such a relationship will lead to chaos. If she doesn't want to marry you then her parents/family won't matter will they? she can't be forced. Just move on, as they say, there are plenty of fishes in the sea.

Let this be a lesson to all, the laws of Allah(SWT) are made to protect us and for our own good even though we cannot comprehend it at times.
 
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Brother I seriously advise you to do Istikhara. Please.
 
JazaakAllaah Khayr to Brother WnbSlveOfAllah for that post. May Allah (SWT) reward him.

And Brother Hamas, alot of people have been through that 'Oh no, I don't want anyone else, she's the one for me' period. You need to have Sabr and give it time.
 
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Allahu akbar!

JazakAllahu khaiiiiiiiiiiir akhi for being the better slave and putting forth truth , no matter how people sometimes react to it. DEF! rep for this post.

Wallahi its truth, when we go agaisnt what Allah and his messenger has sent as command and rule for us, we only go through hard times and there is NO ease, except with the remembrance of Allah.

Instead of posting up on LI brother you would be much better off getting up in the third of the night and making to Allah for forgiveness for being with a women whom you arent married to. That is better for the slave of Allah. Instead of seeking our help and aid, get up and pray in the night and call on the one who changes and guides the hearts of mankind, Allah, Al Jabbar!

All this time youre spending pondering over a girl who isnt helping you at all, you could spend that time reflecting upon Allah, and your living and dying.

Instead of busying yourself with her and how you dont have her, its better for you to thank Allah for taking her away , seeing how you werent married to her and thus commiting sin , by being with a women whom you arent married to. Look at that as a rahmah from Allah subhanahu wa ta'la instead of a bad thing.

May Allah clear your sight and make you see properly again, and aid you unto what is truth and good. Allahuma ameen.

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To be blunt bro Hamaz, you did something Haram and now you are suffering the consequences for it those actions. its like having a drink, getting drunk, getting addicted and then saying how your life falls apart due to having it and also not having it.
I have seen brothers who suffered as you have and they learnt from their mistakes and moved on, they realised marriage is the foundation required for such relationships, without it the slightest problems in such a relationship will lead to chaos. If she doesn't want to marry you then her parents/family won't matter will they? she can't be forced. Just move on, as they say, there are plenty of fishes in the sea.

Let this be a lesson to all, the laws of Allah(SWT) are made to protect us and for our own good even though we cannot comprehend it at times.
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Hamas said:
I dont want a pious wife i just want her. Everybody please can you bring her to me? plz plz plz
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Just pray to allah that you get a wife like her and how can we bring her back to you you have to face the truth tell your parents and if they do not allow you you will haev to do something for example say please if they still don't say yes you have to just get long with your life
 
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after offering Ishthekhara prayer , if u feel positive about going further , then talk to ur parent .

Request them to send marriage proposal to her parent.

IF they & she gives consent , then Alhamdulillah , if their ans is NO , then pl have patience & try to forget everything. U can't force anyone to marry u ....does not matter how much u love her. She has a right to accept or refuse ur proposal....Allah gave her that right & u can't object.

If u don't have any control over urself , then pl. go to a professional psychiatrist & take his help .

Also , keep praying to Allah to bless u with a pious wife .

[FONT=&quot] verses for this life & the life hereafter :[/FONT]

Say: "Truly, my prayer and my rituals, my life and my death, are (all) for Allah, the Cherisher of the Worlds

Al-An`am 6:162
 
Assalamu Alaikum

Brothers and Sisters i know what you mean and i know where your comming from.

It feels like you guys are putting me down but its ok. you guys can put me down and make fun of me and everything but please dont outcast me i just want to be within the brotherhood.

I say to her plz dont leave me but she dosnt want to know, she dosnt want to see me or talk to me ever again, its so hard for me to stay away from her but il try my best. Please help me
 
Brother, this isnt an attempt to put you down, wallahi its not. this IS our trying to HELP you. By trying to get you to see the bigger picture, and see the reality of your situation.

Us telling you what you may want to hear isnt going to help you at all. The better thing for you is to tell you what is the reality and what is good for your living and dying because that is what matters.

This is our attempt to bring you into the brotherhood, by being your brothers andsisters and reminding you of what Allah has said, and what you need to do and what is best for you.

May Allah make your situation easy Ameen
 
Hamas said:
It feels like you guys are putting me down but its ok. you guys can put me down and make fun of me and everything but please dont outcast me i just want to be within the brotherhood.
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putting you down would be insulting you and degrading you, laa i see you as my brother, and as my brother i tell you that your heart shouldnt be aching like this, this isnt love, this is just pain. Love is felt truelly after marriage, bro why not give up the haram and await Allahs reward?


I say to her plz dont leave me but she dosnt want to know, she dosnt want to see me or talk to me ever again, its so hard for me to stay away from her but il try my best. Please help me
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bro this is the perfect opportunity to cry out to Allah. Wallahi'l azeem if you cry out to Allah with a pure intention then Allah will respond, and the response you get will amaze you. The response might not happen within a week, maybe not even in a month, but have patience and keep calling. You'll get beautiful results inshaAllah, inna ma'al usri yusa - verily after hardship comes ease
 
Hamas another thing with girls sometimes.....if u seem desperate n really persistant they don't really like that, but by all means if u want her make istikhaara, seek advice n go to her family akhee...the barakah's in followin the kitaab n sunnah , put your trust in Allaah, he knows what's best for you.
 
Asalamu alaikum brother,
Please do not think that anyone is putting you down. Everyone here is trying to help you see that first of all, this is not the end of the world and that the only Islamically permitted union between a man and woman is marriage. That being said, you should pray to Allah SWT for guidance. Perhaps He will make things work out. If not remember this: "And it may be that you hate a thing which is good for you and that you love a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know." (2:21)

Im sorry that things have not worked out the way you wanted to, but whatever her reasons are, you cannot change her mind if she does not want to. And although it may seem right now that nothing will change, you will change and you will be able to move on. I know that might not seem so encouraging right now.
 
This story may help your case, its nice.
Once, there was this guy, who was in love with a gal. She wasn't the most beautiful and gorgeous but for him, she was everything.



He used to dream about her, about spending the rest of life with her. His friends told him, "why do you dream so much about her, when you don't even know if she loves you or not? First tell her your feelings, and get to know if she likes you or not".




He felt that was the right way. The girl knew from the beginning, that this guy loves her. One day when he proposed, she rejected him.



His friends thought he would take to alcohol; drugs etc. and ruin his life.



To their surprise, he was not depressed.



When they asked him how was it that he is not sad, he replied, "'why should I feel bad? I lost one who never loved me & she lost the one who really loved and cared for her."
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Get over it.
 
Assalamu Alaikum,

My dear respected brothers and sisters, did i not say that i will surely find out why she has changed so much? now i know why shes been like this, she has indeed found someone else and has been seeing him. Im totally broken, my heart has been broken, my mind has broken and my sense of disbelief has been broken. She is so dazzled at how i know and there still is a slight denial in her. My dear brothers and sisters before i said when i think of her in another guys arms i go so crazy and it kills me so much but now i know for sure there is another guy, do you have any idea of what im going through now?

JazakAllah.
 
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assalaamu alaikum

then isnt it time to harden your heart towards that which Allah hates and soften it towards that which Allah loves? :)

at times like these it helps to be around young children....
 
Hamas said:
Assalamu Alaikum,

My dear respected brothers and sisters, did i not say that i will surely find out why she has changed so much? now i know why shes been like this, she has indeed found someone else and has been seeing him. Im totally broken, my heart has been broken, my mind has broken and my sense of disbelief has been broken. She is so dazzled at how i know and there still is a slight denial in her. My dear brothers and sisters before i said when i think of her in another guys arms i go so crazy and it kills me so much but now i know for sure there is another guy, do you have any idea of what im going through now?

JazakAllah.
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Yeah, i have a very good idea of what u are going through.
 
Assalamu Alaikum,

Hey im the one in pain here. can everybody rediect their attention towards me please
 
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