Looking for guidance- A victim of Rape

[Rhubarb Tart]

Maybe every rapist should learn sihr, that way they can get away scotts free. What a joke.
Salaam, I am leaving this forum to you elitest group. Go on bashing each other up for all I care.

I can see you have disabled your account. Good riddance and don’t let the door hit on your way back.

@ OP

Salaam

It is all well people giving their opinions on this dreadful incident and circumstances you are in, we cannot help but to tell you seek professional advice and counselling. Both you and your husband need to face this and discuss with professional (together and one to one basis).

The professional isn’t going to just sit and listen but s/he would give coping strategies you can apply in your life. It is going to be painful talking about it but you have taken the step to ask for help in this forum. Take one step further and seek professional help with your husband. Good luck

Ameen to duas.

 

[omi_lucky]

salam
sister i send u a massege on talkaboutmarriage.com after readin ur post ........ but sister in this websit u described ur point of story in more detail manner .....

well sister please dont ask for ALLAH'S EQUAL JUDGMENT but instead ask for ALLAH'S MERCY... because when u ask about ALLAH'S JUDGMENT then HE will ask u about every single matter that u have done example violation of ur husband's right ... a single moment in which u r involve in this matter ... etc so ASK FOR ALLAH'S MERCY

first u please read the massage i send on talkaboutmarriage.com then a few think i need to add here is that ur husband is accepting u as his wife is very much appreciable ...

listen sister PROPHET (SAW) SAID " IF OFFERING SAJDAH IS ALLOW FOR A HUMAN IN-FRONT OF AN OTHER HUMAN THEN IT WILL B WIFE TO OFFER SAJDAH IN-FRONT OF HIS HUSBAND " ...
the reason i m tellin u all about this is that u r becomin more frustrated about ur husband behaviour but ur husband is right at his stance .... can u justify ur phone call because now every1 know about ur rape the rapist cant even harm ur family ... first sister hiding the so much important matter from ur husband is very unrealistic... just a matter think the rapist made u help him financially if he want u to share bed with other guys then what u could do ... see the hiding from husband is itself is a big issue ...

secondly sister if the sehar is so much powerful that it made u make call to rapist as u mentioned " I dont have complete recollection now, but kept calling him every day for 5-6 weeks- as though I had no hold over my own life. " ....y the sehar just vanish after ur husband is aware with the situation ... think about this

sister may b u r right about ur rape but sister ur part of story is so much weak.. so please compromise with the situation as u r tryin ur level best to deal with ....

it has been 2 days n nights i didnt sleep sound after readin ur post on talkaboutmarriage.com n constantly remember u n ur husband in my prayers n in future i will always remember u in my prayers INSHA ALLAH ....

in talkaboutmarriage i have send u private massege in which i post u possible solution of ur situation so plsz read that also with open heart ... not to take my advise in biased manner ... i may sound harsh but want to help u sister ...

take care

ALLAH HAFIZ

 

[omi_lucky]

sweet106
scents of jannah
and ziyad

dont make this forum male vs female ... v r here to help n guide each other but not 2 fight with each other .....
this sister is in real need for help n v must try our level best to help her .....
n ziyad plsz dont just accused her ... i understand that u r right at some extend but u cant just accused her because she is saying about sehar n this really exsist but at which extend the sehar was effective that is an issue ....

pray IN-FRONT OF ALLAH IF SHE IS CLEAN N PURE THEN ALLAH MUST SHOW HIS SIGN TO PROVE HIS CHASTITY ....

n blubetterfly u must answer any question asked bu ur husband although it is difficult but u must because when ever a wrong allegation is posted on any PROPHET (A.S) HE ALWAYS ANSWER HIS PEOPLE ABOUT ALLEGATION THAT IS SUNNAH OF PROPHET (A.S)... just sittin back n not answerin is wrong n just brought more allegation n nothing more ....

so sisters n brothers dont just accused until it is valid .....
take care
ALLAH HAFIZ