from a personal understanding we need to reach the root, in my own experience, if islam was implemented with the nature to be caring, considerate, fair, and culture was sustained through these principals the muslim countries wouldnt be effected, because rights are not correctly distributed between two individuals, the selfish of the partners either make it very difficult for the other partner, to deal with injustice, (so now having more freedom to exercise their right of not accepting ill treatment) or the selfish partners are the ones that leaving the marriages without trying to resolve their own contribution of a failed marriage .... so this is where we as muslims need to firstly ponder.. it is us as people, who we are, and what we are like, what principals do we hold, how committed and loyal we are, what do we understand by mutual respect..... we need to understand who we have become.
Also have to take into consideration such factors that in the past women were not given the right to exercise thier rights, because it was and is mainly a male dominated world, even if the usa, there isnt really a fair dealing with gender equality, .. or real equality between the genders.. it likes to project or claim it is, but it isnt.. As women sadly are openly used as sex objects... still women being slaves to the male fantasy... there is definitely alot of conflicts and pushed agendas to break the unit of a family.... so maybe this is where we need to look more closely at... some people have made islam difficult and have made it male dominated also.. due to the disposition of the soul, if a man is inclined towards fairness, his outlook would include educating and bringing fairness in all aspects of life and having that 'awareness'.. but if a man has ill intentions, he will use the religion/or any system to manipulate and exercise what his corrupted soul is inclined towards.. really comes down to how do we again become people of balance, understanding, caring, empathic etc..
While women now have more freedom to request their rights,( not that she didnt have rights, she had always by Divine law, but humans have abused and misused them.. ) recognising her rights she is now, not accepting,(and im not talking about women who are abusing also her role) the treatment they had to endure in the past....which is one of the reasons that divorces are high.. the universe will have to balance, in order to balance there has to be imbalance.... men have for millenniums had more than their rights over their women folk in general.. it didnt serve women and their ability to perform to their optimum, be as a daughter, wife, professional/offical role... they now are forcefully requesting the entitlement and because of this it will effect the man, because he isnt and hasnt been used to this new trend... it is still a new thing.. women are exploring their rights, and yes they will make mistakes and blunders, as have man for many centuries... so i say here some patience now while working all these new dynamics from the men folk.. we talk about islam, but in reality how many people have fair hearts.. ? who think about themselves more than another... maybe programmes about how to support eachothers growth, how to encouraged a healthy 'breed' into the next generations is the way... one that understands that irrelevant if your are a man or a woman that both deserve equal treatment... and ONe is not better than the other, while ONe does have a little more authority, enforced on man to be a responsible asset in the relationship as a protector and maintainer.. which also sadly is down played very poorly..
Agree with the of the members, about building up our children to care, learn to be supportive individuals.. compassionate people, which includes young men so they can become responsible in their roles as well as young ladies who understand the importance of family.. we do need to look at what type of people have we become.... we are obviously doing something wrong.. and that wrong needs to be openly and fairly discussed.. many dont want to marry, as they are discouraged, already afraid to take the step. some can not afford marriages because sadly people have made marriage far too expensive.. this is another reason why people are still in their 30s and not married.. there is more emphasis on what the person earns, his education background, and what material means he has... this is an imbalance in our thinking as people.. yes we do need income to live and create a more stable home, but doing so, the character of the person is not taken as seriously.. are we becoming too picky as a society..? or are we becoming weak in our characters.. so yes, the true islam, which hasn't the man made capacity, has the answers...but in reality the culture takes precidence.. we pray, fast, do hajj, the rituals are taken care off, and that is seen as religion.. which is only the practical but we are missing the essence of all that is, what we call life.. wisdom is missing, without it, it is just like a dried fruit.. we need to build our essence as people of thought, reason, justice and fairness.. until this isnt cooperated into our structure... we are going to continue to seeing the rise in divorce.. because we dont understand what it takes to be a human being let alone a believer..
