Marriage online

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Would you consider marrying someone from the Net?

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Amatul Wadud said:
Bro, what are your thoughts on this?
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I think there is nothing wrong in finding someone online so long done the islamic way. Whether one does it online or some other means, the end goal is the same. You can find honest and shady people online as well as in person. There's the right way and the wrong way to go about it regardless of what initiation method you use.
 
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islamirama said:
I think there is nothing wrong in finding someone online. Whether one does it online or some other means, the end goal is the same. You can find honest and shady people online as well as in person. There's the right way and the wrong way to go about it regardless of what initiation method you use.
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Best reply in thread :thumbs_up Masha'Allah!
 
seems like all the guys i met that i loved online were:
1. losers
2. abusive
3. not worth my love, attention, care, and time
so no...i dont think i would want to marry someone i meet online now:(
 
seeker-of-light said:
seems like all the guys i met that i loved online were:
1. losers
2. abusive
3. not worth my love, attention, care, and time
so no...i dont think i would want to marry someone i meet online now:(
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That's the problem, you went looking for love online. Allah doesn't put barakah in something that is haraam.
 
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There seems to be many of us who have a very narrow and rigid set mind about getting married to someone from online. I can’t say I blame us, especially when we’ve seen, heard and been told scary incidents and marriages like these falling apart etc. Also, the net is not seen as a very respectable way of finding a partner, especially if you are from a Pakistani/Indian culture. This is because elders/people automatically assume that it was via chatting and intimate conversations between the two. And many times this is the case.

Due to this, when someone says online marriage, people think "dangerous" "haram" "fake" "deception" "sad" "people from online are 70 year olds pretending to be young", "you don’t know the person", "blind marriage", "nikkah online" etc.

All these negative impressions come to mind. And many of these impressions might be true even. However, its not ALWAYS the case. We shouldn’t generalize between all online marriages because not all situations are the same and not all online marriages are done in a haram and blind way. We need to be slightly more open minded, and not so rigid.

By online marriage I mean marrying someone from online. Not having the ceremony/agreement online. Because proposing to someone from online without having met the individual/his family in person is a very blind way of doing it.

But if someone notices a person with a good character/mentality/ and or personality online, and then enquires about this person through a third party (parents, mahram, a good friend etc) then I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. It is perfectly respectable and honorable and Islamic.
 
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piXie said:
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There seems to be many of us who have a very narrow and rigid set mind about getting married to someone from online. I can’t say I blame us, especially when we’ve seen, heard and been told scary incidents and marriages like these falling apart etc. Also, the net is not seen as a very respectable way of finding a partner, especially if you are from a Pakistani/Indian culture. This is because elders/people automatically assume that it was via chatting and intimate conversations between the two. And many times this is the case.

Due to this, when someone says online marriage, people think "dangerous" "haram" "fake" "deception" "sad" "people from online are 70 year olds pretending to be young", "you don’t know the person", "blind marriage", "nikkah online" etc.

All these negative impressions come to mind. And many of these impressions might be true even. However, its not ALWAYS the case. We shouldn’t generalize between all online marriages because not all situations are the same and not all online marriages are done in a haram and blind way. We need to be slightly more open minded, and not so rigid.

By online marriage I mean marrying someone from online. Not having the ceremony/agreement online. Because proposing to someone from online without having met the individual/his family in person is a very blind way of doing it.

But if someone notices a person with a good character/mentality/ and or personality online, and then enquires about this person through a third party (parents, mahram, a good friend etc) then I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. It is perfectly respectable and honorable and Islamic.
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:sl:

Taqreer achi ker lety hein... :p

:w:

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islamirama said:
That's the problem, you went looking for love online. Allah doesn't put barakah in something that is haraam.
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Well said bro. I think if one had the intention of finding marriage in a halaal way, losers and abusers wouldn't turn up lol.
 
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sister seeker of light has only just recently reverted to Islam. She wasn't a Muslim at the time, and therefore wasn't aware of haraam and halaal. Her situation was totally different.

We should be gentler and softer in our approach to her. Please. :)
 
Oh of course I wasn'r reproaching her in any way. I meant generally our intentions may affect the result of our ventures :)
 
piXie said:
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sister seeker of light has only just recently reverted to Islam. She wasn't a Muslim at the time, and therefore wasn't aware of haraam and halaal. Her situation was totally different.

We should be gentler and softer in our approach to her. Please. :)
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Then her answer doesn't really apply here. She being put off from any online courtship is due to relationships with non-Muslim men, who we know mostly wants to have fun and to whom the word "marriage" is a death sentence.
 
Online marriage services?

...let's just say I think there are better options available.

piXie said:
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There seems to be many of us who have a very narrow and rigid set mind about getting married to someone from online. I can’t say I blame us, especially when we’ve seen, heard and been told scary incidents and marriages like these falling apart etc. Also, the net is not seen as a very respectable way of finding a partner, especially if you are from a Pakistani/Indian culture. This is because elders/people automatically assume that it was via chatting and intimate conversations between the two. And many times this is the case.

Due to this, when someone says online marriage, people think "dangerous" "haram" "fake" "deception" "sad" "people from online are 70 year olds pretending to be young", "you don’t know the person", "blind marriage", "nikkah online" etc.

All these negative impressions come to mind. And many of these impressions might be true even. However, its not ALWAYS the case. We shouldn’t generalize between all online marriages because not all situations are the same and not all online marriages are done in a haram and blind way. We need to be slightly more open minded, and not so rigid.

By online marriage I mean marrying someone from online. Not having the ceremony/agreement online. Because proposing to someone from online without having met the individual/his family in person is a very blind way of doing it.

But if someone notices a person with a good character/mentality/ and or personality online, and then enquires about this person through a third party (parents, mahram, a good friend etc) then I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. It is perfectly respectable and honorable and Islamic.
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Can you name an online Muslim matrimonial service that manages to be all that?

I'm not mocking, I'm asking a genuine question.
 
:sl:LOL ................Shaadi.com hehehe!!!!!!:laugh:
Muezzin said:
Online marriage services?

...let's just say I think there are better options available.


Can you name an online Muslim matrimonial service that manages to be all that?

I'm not mocking, I'm asking a genuine question.
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Shaadi.com and other indian services are making a killing. They all are based in india and yet charge you in US dollars for membership.
 
That place is for buying only, if you want to buy a bride then go to india :p
 
:sl:True buthey do work as well i know of some people who have successfully found partners through such agencies................:):w:
islamirama said:
Shaadi.com and other indian services are making a killing. They all are based in india and yet charge you in US dollars for membership.
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One more week before the polls end, i'm sure we have more members on this forum then the ones who voted :)
 

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