Muslimah - Would you marry a Revert?

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The following question is for Muslimah's who were born into a Muslim family and who practice the five pillars of Islam.

Woul you marry a Revert?

If NO please give your reasons and please be honest.
 
Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

My answer is Yes, cause I really see no differences; the one whom Allah will bless me with will be my husband who I will love, respect and take care of no matter what his background, color, shape or whatever...those things matter not to me...he is a mass of emotions and feelings, he wants a wife, kids and a home to return to; to find comfort , peace, love, care...etc just like anyone....

And whoever and whatever Allah gives us is always the best for us always ...Alhamdulilah always and forever.

Humbly and with all respect , this is my opinion and I do respect other's opinions too.

May Allah grant every single one of His servants and slaves the best match and bless them with all good in this life and in the afterlife too Ameeeeeeen

Wa Assalaamu Alikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh
 
Alhamdulilah. Thank you so much for your honest answer dear sister.

The reason I'm asking this question is that in one Islamic marriage site there was an option in choosing someone who has reverted and the majority of women there said NO.


Amat Allah said:
May Allah grant every single one of His servants and slaves the best match and bless them with all good in this life and in the afterlife too Ameeeeeeen
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Ameen and Ameen Ya Rabb!
 
You are always very welcome May Allah love you my respected and noble brother Ameeen

Forgot to say; whether being a revert or not then our answers should be after praying Iss'tikhaarah...whom to return to first and ask for his help but Allah The All Knowing The Wise...
 
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People are often worried they may go back to their previous jahil ways, when in reality guidance comes from Allah swt alone.
 
Ghazalah said:
People are often worried they may go back to their previous jahil ways, when in reality guidance comes from Allah swt alone.
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That is understandable however there are reverts who are more stronger in faith than 'born muslims'. Would you personally give a revert a chance? Would you marry one?
 
Salam alaykum

Aren´t we all humans as born muslims - our parents may then teached us to other religions? ^o) I believe I too was born to muslim but my parents are Christians.
 
Abu Loren said:
That is understandable however there are reverts who are more stronger in faith than 'born muslims'. Would you personally give a revert a chance? Would you marry one?
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That's exactly my point, they might be stronger than the born Muslim, but obviously through ignorance or cultural thinking not everyone views it like that, hence why I said guidance comes from Allah swt alone.

On a personal level, of course I would, I see no reason why not.

It's difficult enough that for majority of reverts, they're shunned to one side by their family, but to be shunned by their own brothers and sisters is even worse.
 
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i think generally revert people are of two types in that sense. some people have strong personality and they do change their selves and get rid of bad habits developed during time of ignorance and being in wrong environment. but some of them try their best but still these things has effect on their personality.
so if i am given choice i will see the personal strength and eman of person and adherence to quran and sunnah regardless of revert or born Muslim.
 
tigerkhan said:
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i think generally revert people are of two types in that sense. some people have strong personality and they do change their selves and get rid of bad habits developed during time of ignorance and being in wrong environment. but some of them try their best but still these things has effect on their personality.
so if i am given choice i will see the personal strength and eman of person and adherence to quran and sunnah regardless of revert or born Muslim.
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Salaam.

The question in general is asking; If you had the choice... Would you marry a revert?

Most people would say yes.
 
Periwinkle18 said:
I dont know :S
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You can't just say you don't know and just leave it at that periwrinkle.

Please tell us about your reservations and be honest. That will just add to the conversation and different points of view Inshaa Allah.
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I think you have to consider a lot of things. Reverts tend to have a completely different culture to most born-muslims, at least as far as indo-paks go. It's very difficult sometimes for the two cultures to meet and that can cause problems - sometimes with the two parties concerned, and sometimes with the actual families. Heck, even amongst born-muslims, there are cultural barriers...so it's certainly not something to overlook nor something particularly new.

Also, reverts tend to be relatively unknown territory for born-muslims. Typically, our in-laws share the same religion. This isn't always the case as far as reverts go - so whilst we can of course accept the revert and their family into our fold, we don't always have strongest connection we should have with the revert's family. This is down to two things: prior to the marriage we usually don't know much about the revert's family at all (who are they; can any of our family, extend or otherwise, vouch for them; do they 'get along' with us; etc) and neither do we share their religion - so it's quite a daunting experience to take on that in all honesty, many would rather not venture in the first place. Marriages have enough difficulties and trials and tribulations as it is - who intentionally wants more on top of that?!

None of this of course is to say we can't or shouldn't marry reverts. It's just there's extra stuff we have to take on board on top of the usual marriage woes and trials and tribulatioons - and so much of it is completely unknown to us.

There are two sayings I think fit perfectly for this topic, so I'll end the post with them. They'll provide you some food for thought too.

1) Take the road less travelled.
2) better the devil you know than the devil you don't.
 
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aamirsaab said:
Reverts tend to have a completely different culture to most born-muslims, at least as far as indo-paks go. It's very difficult sometimes for the two cultures to meet and that can cause problems
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so true

i guess bro aamirsaab summed it up for me :) jazakAllah khayr was gng to say something like tht


Akhi Abu Loren i srsly don't know honest

if i was given a choice mayb i would buh the family n community i belong to won't let that happen.

Getting married to a revert would b out of the question my stupid community creates such an issue wen someone marry's outside of the community its just a cultural thing i guess. My community ppl think too much of themselves just cuz well you won't find the poor category in my community its either rich or average(n the average r not tht average lol).

lol so i srsly don't know :S
 
Iceee said:
Salaam.

The question in general is asking; If you had the choice... Would you marry a revert?

Most people would say yes.
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i answered.
tigerkhan said:
so if i am given choice i will see the personal strength and eman of person and adherence to quran and sunnah regardless of revert or born Muslim.
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u can conclude it in " i think about it" option.
 
In my place there are White men, also Black African and Latinos who convert to Islam because they married local Muslim women. Mostly of marriage between born-Muslim and revert in my place happened this way, while case which a foreign man convert to Islam then start looking for local Muslim woman are very rare.
 
ardianto said:
In my place there are White men, also Black African and Latinos who convert to Islam because they married local Muslim women. Mostly of marriage between born-Muslim and revert in my place happened this way, while case which a foreign man convert to Islam then start looking for local Muslim woman are very rare.
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Mashaa Allah I knew a few indonesian sisters in another forum and they were all happy go lucky smiling people without any chips on their shoulders. I can understand why Muslims and non-Muslim foreigners would want to marry them.
 

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