My hate for Black people

[AhlaamBella]

Wa alaykum salam,

What's wrong with you people? The OP doesn't need to be attacked. Sure, what's said is racist but if the person is actively seeking help (as has clearly been written) and recognises that it is wrong, why the mob mentality? Who here is perfect in every way? We all have our flaws. As long as we know we're wrong and try to change, there's no need to attack.

I pray Allah blesses me with your patience. I rarely attack people when they ask for help but this enraged me beyond belief.

My husband is black. I am 13 weeks pregnant and my beloved child will be half black.

Excuse me for not being kind to one filled with such racist hatred. He/She has generalised all black people and claims to hate them all - including my child. I cannot be patient with that

 

[Alpha Dude]

Sister, the Prophet Muhammad Sallalahu Alaihe Was Salam was patient with people who would bury their own daughters (when they were jahil and the matter was one where their guidance was concerned). Hope that puts things into perspective.

 

[believeByHEART.]

well, i live in the UK and im afraid to say but yes, this person has a point for blacks that live in the UK anyway. There are many ill mannered rude black people, especially because of the urban culture that rids england, but thats very long to go into, to do with knife crime, youth culture etc. But ive come across many rude blacks, a woman only the other day pushed and shoved me and my friend to get on the bus, she even barged an old lady who was struggling at the doors to get on:/.

and when i identify the people as black i dont mean because theyre race is like that as a whole its because of the concept of their skin colour that had caused the problems that black people went through in the past, i.e black slavery and all the segregation they went through and what else they have gone through that makes them rebel like this, if you understand what im getting at. And as the saying goes around parts of UK they have 'a chip on their shoulder' that they believe they should stand up for themselves all the timee everytimeee because they are black, and because they think that all white people will have a grudge cause theyre black. it can cause a nuisance cause as soon as something is said to them they take to offense straight away and automatically they think or just say, ' is it cause im black? and that just isnt the case the majority of the time. i mean i have many black friends also and they are lovely people, its just that some take their colour as serious as 'racists' do when they shouldnt, cause at the end of the day in an ideal society we strive to live in as a community, we are all the same, all human, endof.

Although i'll share a thought from my Jamaican teacher, in a conversation once she said herself she didn't want her own child to be brought up in area where there was many black people cause 'there would always be trouble' and she didnt want to put her son through that. I mean it just goes to show that the woman knows herself exactly what black people can be like, especially blacks living in the UK cause i am sure culture and society everywhere is different and has its influences.

But i dont want you guys getting me wrong, im not a racist person FARR FROM IT im just stating what i experience here in the UK from what i see in my life that concerns me and what happens around me.

 

[AhlaamBella]

That didn't mean he wasn't disgusted or upset.

As I said, my Allah bless me with such patience

 

[AhlaamBella]

Asians are very rude when they want to be, white people are ignornt and rude when they want to be. It is wrong to target Black people specifically. What about black muslims? Should they be put in this category too jus because they are black and in the UK?

 

[Alpha Dude]

That didn't mean he wasn't disgusted or upset.

Of course he Sallalahu Alaihe Was Salam must have found it disgusting. The issue is how he handled it. With wisdom and patience.

 

[Uncle Jee]

Salaam,

You should never judge black people by the actions of a few nutters. That's just like saying we hate Muslims because they are terrorists.

What you should do is bite back, if they give you attitude you give them attitude. It's not the right thing to do but it works.

 

[chacha_jalebi]

brother, i think your post is based quite a lot on stereotypes, like you cant paint all with one brush get meee

thats like me saying all pakistani people are fraudulents, and indian people smell of curry

ive met many people who are "black" and they are proper kool, like normal, and there are some with the attitude, but its a attitude thing, like you see many asian, and white people, with the attitude and tryna be ghetto, anyways dont hate one whole community, because thats wrong, and inshallah you will see they are not all like that

 

[Maryan0]

Which "black" people are you refering to? African Americans, South africans, E. africans, W.africans, black people from Latin america, the Arab world?
You cannot hate all black people because you have not met all "black" people not only that but the "black",white and the other so called races have absolutely no basis in biology and they truly do not exist due to the genetic variations between the so called races themselves.
Also hate is a very strong word.
Salam

 

[KittenLover]

I pray Allah blesses me with your patience. I rarely attack people when they ask for help but this enraged me beyond belief.

My husband is black. I am 13 weeks pregnant and my beloved child will be half black.

Excuse me for not being kind to one filled with such racist hatred. He/She has generalised all black people and claims to hate them all - including my child. I cannot be patient with that

One filled with such racism and hatred is turning to this forum on how to remove such racism and hatred from his heart, he isn't exactly justifying his feelings he's asking for help to remove them.

I would understand your anger if he was justifying it and promoting it, but he acknowledges there's a problem with in himself and he wants to remove it.

do you dislike a man cos he admits he has a sickness and is seeking a cure?

rather offer him a solution to his problem and make dua to Allah to cure him and guide him.

 

[Italianguy]

This is a cruddy, crappy thing to say! I don't care who you are! How can you feel so much hate towards an entire race of people? I'm Italiano!!.....What, you want to call me a greaseball or something?!! Maybe a Guinae?!!

You need God my friend...you really do!

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

wa alaykum us-Salaam
loads of people from different cultures will all have something loathsome about them.

you've either had a really really bad experience with one of them, and thus judging all black people by it. or your nafs is making something seem more of a bigger deal then it is.

you must live in an area that is prominent with blacks and isn't very multicultural, otherwise you will see this same rudeness (or maybe other detestable traits) in other cultures as well. you probably get the same comments from people living with Arabs, (SE) Asians, East Asians, Americans, whites, etc etc.
maybe these black people do have something dislikeable about them, but it's your own self that is sort of blowing it out of proportion...you know its not really a big deal but your own dislike towards them exaggerates it and makes it seem that way.

why you dont you befriend some and actually judge them on a personal level, rather then on a general level. the best way to get over ones own arrogance is to see certain traits in that person and admit to yourself that that person you dislike is better then you.

take the step, kill your ego and actually get to know them...you never know maybe they will "change" when you do.

 

[sister herb]

Even in my country most of foreigners are minority (as like as muslims are too), I am lucky to met and known so many different people in cause of my job as I teach my language to immigrants: blacks from Somalia, Burundi, Eritrea, Sudan..., Asians from Turkey, Iraq, Afghanistan, India... etc. Every of them I don´t like in cause how they behave but as individuals but not in cause of they "race" or "color".

I couldn´t make my job if I would hate some people (like because of they color).

Maybe, as advice, first writer of this thread should try to talk about his "hate" to some friend, priest or imam (I don´t know your religion), a doctor etc. Sometimes talking and analysing your feelings will help.

 

[AnonymousPoster]

My sincere apologies to you all. I understand how much disgust I have caused by posting this and I am truly sorry. Please forgive me. imsad

I shouldn’t stereotype I know that. I want to stop these feelings because I am stooping to the same level as shaytan and I want to be a good person. That’s why I asked for help. I do have extreme hate for the people who make me feel like this, I can’t help it and I’m so very sorry that it disgusts you.

My hate for them started when I got mugged twice by a bunch of them. I had a child with me (not mine) but they did not care that the child would be traumatized after seeing what they did. Now that child is petrified of black people and holds my hand very tightly everytime they walk past.

I know for a fact that all black people are not like this, but I can’t help thinking like this when I see them. The ones I work with are very very rude and racist towards Asians and it makes me feel worse. Only the other day a black lady at work was reading a newspaper, she forgot that I was sitting nearby and while reading the paper she referred to someone in there as a ‘psycho’ just because he happened to be Muslim. These were her exact words, ‘oh he’s Muslim, he must be a psycho aswell .” :raging:

I am referring to non-muslim black people who have a lot of hatred in them and they do not consider other peoples feelings.

I try to calm myself down because I know other races are not perfect but then I see something else that upsets me. Things on crimewatch and on the news when they report muggings and murder, majority of the time it turns out to be black people. Then my hate starts again.

I don’t know what to do, I manage to calm myself and then it starts. I am disappointed in myself yet can’t help the way I feel. I just want some advice on how to deal with rude and aggressive behaviour.

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Brother's lets try and find a solution for the op instead of dissing him/her in every post :hmm:

he clearly knows this isn't the correct feeling to have and wants to remove it from his/her heart so lets try and give him solutions Insha Allah on how he can remove this bad thing from his heart.

to the thread op I can only tell you that you are immitating shaytaan be feeling this way and this is not good.

You have to remember that Allah swt could have made you african however he never, you don't get to choose your skin colour so don't hold it against anyone.

also remember that there's bad people amongst your race group too, there's bad people in every race group but we don't hate the entire race because of it.

what would be the state of the Muslim's if the entire world thought like this??

we would all be persecuted and every 1 would be calling us terrorrists and people would look at us with disgust.

but alhamdulilah this is not the case there is actually nice people out there who don't hate the majority because of the actions of a few.

so you should think like this also, look at every 1 person as an individual and don't judge them based upon the actions of others.

sister

Alhumdulillah this is very helpful advice thank you.

 

[AnonymousPoster]

Wa alaykum salam,

What's wrong with you people? The OP doesn't need to be attacked. Sure, what's said is racist but if the person is actively seeking help (as has clearly been written) and recognises that it is wrong, why the mob mentality? Who here is perfect in every way? We all have our flaws. As long as we know we're wrong and try to change, there's no need to attack.

To the OP: You're obviously generalising the behaviour shown by some to be indicative of the group at large.

From what you describe, you're against the gangster/rude-boy mentality. A lot of people, in this day and age, that have been affected by the media and have grown up in a ghetto-ish environment end up developing such attitudes. It's not specific to the black community.

There is a number of Pakistanis in the UK that behave like you described. In Australia, you'll see Lebanese primarily. In the US, there's the Latinos and African americans. In Europe, there's the Morrocons.

Each group has their bad bunch.

Your right, but the scary thing is, the 40 year old women at my work place who act like this.

 

[AnonymousPoster]

People who aren't black can be extremely rude and arrogant also.

The point being is that being rude and arrogant or inconsiderate are all behaviors or characteristics.

That has nothing to do with race or ethnicity. It is just the person in general.
I'm sorry that you are having a hard time..

Try to think of it this way.... you have it set in your mind that black people are a certain way based on what you have observed or been exposed to.

Is it possible that because of that you assume that every black person you come into contact with will be the same way?

Point being is that if that is what you are looking for, then that is what you will most likely see.

Example..
If someone thinks Muslim women wearing the hijab are uneducated.

So when they go out and they see a Muslim woman asking where a particular section is in a store, then they will justify how they feel about Muslim women and say she doesn't know where the section is because she's dumb.
In reality, it could be because this is her first time in the store and she's not familiar with it..

Seek refuge with Allah from shaytan.. and let your anger go. We are all just people.

I appreciate your honesty and your effort in trying to rid yourself of this hate though..It is not an easy thing to talk about because too often people respond in a hostile way. May Allah guide and help you. Ameen.

Ameen

Thank you sister I appreciate your help and advice.

 

[AnonymousPoster]

I pray Allah blesses me with your patience. I rarely attack people when they ask for help but this enraged me beyond belief.

My husband is black. I am 13 weeks pregnant and my beloved child will be half black.

Excuse me for not being kind to one filled with such racist hatred. He/She has generalised all black people and claims to hate them all - including my child. I cannot be patient with that

Apologies for causing you offense but I am trying to get help, your post is really not helping. Anyway, if you bring your child up well enough and educate him/her properly then you won't have this problem!

 

[Muslim Woman]

:wa:

...My hate for them is so extreme and I don’t want to be a horrible person. imsad

Remember there are many white people who are rude . We must not hate any specific race , colour or country .



"And among His Signs is the creation of the heavens and the earth, and the difference of your languages and colours. Verily, in that are indeed signs for men of sound knowledge."
Q.30:22

"O Men, We created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may KNOW one another (NOT THAT YOU MAY DESPISE EACH OTHER)."Q.49:13

An Arab is no better than a non-Arab. In return, a non-Arab is no better than an Arab. A red raced man was not better than a black one except in piety. Mankind are all Adam's children and Adam was created out of clay."

http://www.islamic-world.net/islamic-state/evidence.htm

 

[S_87]

take your post and put ur own culture in it (because theres gonna be people in your own background that is EXACTLY like that) then look at yourself and see if you compare to those people just because you share the same colour/culture.
Is that fair? do they or you represent everyone that shares your culture/colour?