my heart is breaking apart

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halloula, I still believe that you have to find away to convince your dad with your point of view, have you tried getting family friends involved? try different people if it failed with some. Also, your mother can be so helpful in case she's not following your dad's convention.

You don't want to lose your dad as well as you don't want to lose your husband but delaying is not in your favor, I think you have to try more with your dad, since you said that your husband seems to be wanting you back, this means that you'll solve everything if you could solve the issue on your dad's side.
 
yeah the whole problem is with my dad i tried more than one person to convince but it didnt work. my mum is powerless as she can be blamed for taking my side after so she's just trying to take me out of my depression and tell me that everything will be alright. But i will keep trying
 
halloula said:
But i will keep trying
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Best wishes to u, sister. Not losing hope is the answer to all things. Try more and pray more. Never forget that Allah will bring you closer to what's best for you.
 
:sl: My advice to you would be to go to your husband. I can understand his anger if you are not coming to him because he is your husband and he has rights. Your father is wrong to keep you from him. You must be strong and tell your father that you are going to your husband, and tell him that you would like to go with his blessings........ you should tell your father that your life now is with your husband regardless of what the future holds because no-one knows that. InshaAllah your father will come around. What is the reason he is stopping you from going to him...................

Secondly sis although i can understand your husbands anger what he is doing is wrong also. Facebook????? Other women? Na sis. He should ALSO be trying to sort his marraige out with you because marraige is not a joke. He is equally to be blamed and also in the wrong.............

Take care. May Allah ease your affairs. Ameen:w::)
 
salam

thanks you sister zahida for your advice i will consider it and sorry i didnt pm you i cant at the moment i have to do 50 posts before i will be allowed to i really want to talk to in private so i'll work on my posts and get back to you soon privately
 
from the posts, I now understand the situation more

look sister.. it is in your hand.. do are you looking for your husband.. or your dad.. on you are looking for you GOD?

Allah order the women to follow their husbands, even if that is against their fathers

this is the rule.. follow you husband
 
:sl: Thats ok sis. InshaAllah everything will be ok. Ameen.

But sis seriously think about what i have said to you. If your husband is committed to you, why is he chatting with other women on Facebbok. This is not right. I do not think that he is trying to make you jealous. But i think that he is maybe showing you a different side to him.........

Yes, if your husband calls go to him don't let the sin fall on you, but again i question what your husband is doing and urge you to do the same. He is equally wrong by behaving like this......:w::)

When i said urge you to do the same i mean question all this about facebook and think about it. He is a married man and should NOT be chatting with other women but talking with you and resolving the situation you are both facing. I think he is a coward. Forgive me. I know you love him.:)
 
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thank you sister zahida for your advice anf for the facebook thing i added the girls that he has on his facebook and i talked to them and almost all said he never chat with them that's why i said he's doing it to make me jealous but that doesnt put hom on the right side he still wrong doing that but i love him and cant be without him
 
:sl: I hope that you are feeling better. Sis i don't know but if you trust those girls then thats good because we mustn't be judgemental of other people. I still stand firmly on what i believe and that is that your husband should not have any details of any girls on facebook whether he is chatting with them or not. Also sis facebook is so easy you can check to see who he is talking with.

I pray that Allah eases your affairs and in doing so helps me to ease my affairs also Ameen.:w::)
halloula said:
thank you sister zahida for your advice anf for the facebook thing i added the girls that he has on his facebook and i talked to them and almost all said he never chat with them that's why i said he's doing it to make me jealous but that doesnt put hom on the right side he still wrong doing that but i love him and cant be without him
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i feel so bad.I feel guilty for not standing by him for the first time . I wish he would just talk to me again like before, at least give me chance to be with him and try to stand by him this time. I don't know how i'll move without him i probably die i already lost 12 kilos in 2 weeks Please pray for us.[/QUOTE]

As Salaam Alikum Sis,
U should never miss a second and go to your husband and ask for re-conciliation and as he wants you to feel jealous of him, this really shows that he loves you a lot.
Please follow your heart's advice because DIVORCE hurts a lot and the pain you are in will be multiped many fold.
The moment you will be with him will make you happy, and you will forget the grief and sadness. Just do it as soon as you can.
In Shaa Allah, Allah will bring out good for you :statisfied
 
i received today an application of divorse from the court my husband is asking either to come overseas or he will divorse i'm so hurt i didnt want that to happen my father is still firm and saying no you're not going let him divorse and my mum when she seen the divorse application she became on my dad side because she said he's putting you on a choice between your family and him i'm soooooooooooo saaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad and sick i'm lost i'd rather die than divorse
 
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i received today an application of divorse from the court my husband is asking either to come overseas or he will divorse i'm so hurt i didnt want that to happen my father is still firm and saying no you're not going let him divorse and my mum when she seen the divorse application she became on my dad side because she said he's putting you on a choice between your family and him i'm soooooooooooo saaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad and sick i'm lost i'd rather die than divorse
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That's so sad to read. If he was holding onto you why does he want to a divorce? Honestly, there are a lot of ways to work things out between a husband and his wife other than courts. I find that quite annoying. Are you even sure of how he'll act in case you chose him over your family? what if he walked away? are you ready to lose both, him and your family?
 
:sl: I am so sad to read that sister that i cried tears for you. It is so easy for a man................... things go wrong and there is a problem but instead of being a man and facing the problems or solving them they threaten their women with divorce.

Sister this is their weapon and i would say the mans weakness. Divorce is not to be taken lightly and our men have it on their tongues like sugar, because that is all they have to use against us..............

I am sorry for your situation and can't find any words of consolation for you at this time, except i pray that Allah gives him hidayaat, and you patience and strength. Ameen.................

Sis after every hardship their is ease. Remember that and InshaAllah, it will help you. Ameen.imsad:w:
 
i'm so lost dont know what to do i feel like the whole world around me has finished i cant do anything i cant eat drink even breath is tooo hard for me. i love my husband and if we will be separated my life will be ruined and i will never progress in anything :'(
 
aslam sis ,I understand ur pain as I got divorced not so long ago In fact and live goes on I didnt think i could do anything At the time thought my life was over but with thanks to allah swt I am more happy than I ever been In my life,Hope things work out ok Inshallah.speack soon tc:bump1:
 
:sl: No sis. No you must not think like that. Thank Allah that he has take from you that what is not good for you.......... Sis Allah knows best. When i was in your position i was the same.......... sleep was something that evaded me and eat no i felt physically sick!!!

Sister you have to be strong. It is his loss. If he wanted to he could have waited and sorted things out with you slowly and patiently.

You feel like this now and your emotions are everwhere, but InshaAllah sis with time comes healing and patience.

You are not alone.

You are not the only one, when my mum talks to me about my marraige i say to her mum i am not the first or the last, there are many sisters who suffer unfairly at the hands of their husbands...... but sis have faith Allah is with you and loves you more than anyone else.:cry::w:
halloula said:
i'm so lost dont know what to do i feel like the whole world around me has finished i cant do anything i cant eat drink even breath is tooo hard for me. i love my husband and if we will be separated my life will be ruined and i will never progress in anything :'(
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:sl: Sister am so sorry but you are very wise with your words like you said life has to go on ........... and physically you cannot change anyone. It is our duty to tell someone when they are doing wrong, but if they don't listen then there is nothing more we can do for them just leave them to their own fate........... May Allah have mercy on us and shower us with His Blessings and Guidance. Ameen.:statisfie:w:
nadia85 said:
aslam sis ,I understand ur pain as I got divorced not so long ago In fact and live goes on I didnt think i could do anything At the time thought my life was over but with thanks to allah swt I am more happy than I ever been In my life,Hope things work out ok Inshallah.speack soon tc:bump1:
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halloula said:
i'm so lost dont know what to do i feel like the whole world around me has finished i cant do anything i cant eat drink even breath is tooo hard for me. i love my husband and if we will be separated my life will be ruined and i will never progress in anything :'(
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Asalaam wr wb sister your life will go on and as the sister said before that at the time we think we can't go on but you will get through it no doubt! Maybe he just was'nt meant for you! Maybe Allah has someone MUCH better planned for you! You have to look at all of this in a positive way sister! Allah tests people he loves the most and if you be close to Allah and be patient then Allah says in the Qur'an that he is with the ones that are patient! He will surely give the patient ones Jannah! Sister it could be that he was not good for you! When you say people change yes they do but look at the way he is behaving! Does it really seem like hes fully changed? Sister Allah knows whats best for you so have full hope and faith in him and be the closest to him and make much dua to him and whatever is the best for you will happen inshallah! We are here for you sister! Allah hafiz
 
Why are you letting your husband be so rude to you when you're doing all you can? Sister, have faith in yourself, and please don't let this ruin you. Don't. He's adding girls on his facebook? Woww. Sister, maybe this is for the best. Maybe your dad is trying to help you. What do you want? Instead of what your dad wants or what your husband wants, what do you want? Your husband is clearly not listening to you. He's being extremely immature with adding girls and trying to make you feel jealous when he's fully aware that being apart from him is hurting you. It's ultimately your decision, but in my opinion you should try talking to him once more and put all your heart into it, if he doesn't understand, I advise you to reconsider your relationship with him.
 
Asalam Alaykum Warak
  1. Don't pay attention to face book
  2. Be kind to your father as you might need him in the future
  3. Consult your friends
  4. Pray,make dua.
  5. Live your life like normal after the divoirce.
matulah Wabarkatuh
Facebook causes nothing but fitnah. Here are some tips:
  1. Be patient
 

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