My heart is breaking down...

AnonymousGender said:
im so disappointed in myself, bcuz i knw he isnt worth it, i knw he doesnt care, yet im still thinkin abt him, missing him, wanting 2 talk 2 him. i knw it was all haraam and i AM glad yet i still feel like this! honestly i jus want 2 forget him, but its not as simple doing it, i waking up thinking of him, remembering things when we were together, and then i remember how he hurt me, and it kills. thank you everybody 4 ur replies
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Sis go ahead n chill, have fun wit ur girls!
Get a fashial, go shopping..
Do a hennah party, blast ur fav nasheeds,who needs even a groom. lol
You got lots to celebrate, stop grieving over this loser!

One day U will marry someone who deserves u! InshaAllah he'll treat u like a real princess. ameen.:sunny:

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Firstly, can everyone please stop saying 'He's not worth it.' If you have been in love, you would know how it painful it is to try and let go. Don't make a harsh comment when the sister is in need of helpful advice.

Secondly, to the sister;

i dont know what has overcome me these last few days! i cant stop thinking about an ex. he keeps coming into my dreams, sometimes i wish i could talk to him but i knw theres no point he hates me, pple please advise me... how do i stop hurting, knowing hes having fun, living in the same city, chilling out with other girls, he couldnt care less if i was dead or alive. it hurts so much, when i think of him i jus cry automatically. i thought i was gettin over him and now this happens. and my dreams they seem so real but when i wake up i realise it was all jus a dream
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When you are in love and dream of the person, you don't want that dream to end, I understand where you are coming from sis. These feelings can't just dissapear. Even over time. They decrease but very unlikely for them to dissapear. You can take a few steps to make these feelings decrease;

1) Try to pray your 5 times a day prayers
2) Try to wear Hijaab
3) Whenever he is mentioned by your friends, try to change the topic
4) KEEP YOUR GAZE LOWERED << this point helps alot, believe me (Because the more you look at him, the more your feelings will increase for him)
5) Try to change friends if you can >> make practicing friends, which will help your Imaan.

Inshallah these points will help decrease feelings for him, even if they don't completely take the feelings away.
 
Im so upset! some1 just told me that he was hit in a club, n it really hurts me! i cant stop seeing him in my dreams i cant stop crying, i want to see him
 
Hey sister, I can feel your pain. You missed some one (b/f) whom you loved and I lost someone whom I loved (my mom). You can't even imagine how much I used to love her but she didn't care about me in a least bit and left me. I have been with her in my dreams (day and night) for the last three years. I tired to do my best to forget her but I couldn't succeed. Yet I never tell people that I miss her so much.

What I want to tell you is that many times things in our life don't happen in a way we want them to happen. So we have to have patience to bear the pain and courage to face the hardships of life. You know he is missed. Now what you can do is that you FORGET him. If you fail to forget him as I failed to forget her, then have patience to bear the pain and courage to live with your pain. Be brave. :)
 
How do u stop heart break? i realy cant think at the moment, wat do u do when u hear about ur ex clubbin all the time, hugging other girls?? it hurts so much! he used to cuss girls who went out, he never let me go when we was together. it really hurts me so much. im sorry everyone. thank you 4 ur time
 
sis you have to tell your self that he is getting on with his life and you must start to get on with yours for one unless he changes his ways and is guided by Allah then he wouldn't be a good match for you anyway as you need a practicing brother who Love's his deen not some one out there clubbing and hugging girls so tell yourself you are better off away from him you just got to put all your trust in Allah and have true belief that what he has written for you is better
 
Have you bothered to read any of the replies people have given you? Only ask for advice if you are ready to take it.
 
Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu.
Sister you said you pray salat 5 times daily still you are having this feelings this means your salah is defficient.
allah taala says
'INNAS SALATA TANHA ANIL FAHSHA WAL MUNKAR.'
"indeed SALAT keeps you away from fahsha and munkar(bad deeds)

Just have a check on your salat and try to pray it with khushu inshaallah belive me you will forget all those .
Next best thing is read quran with understanding and ponder over each verse.

I hope you will love to loose him for the cost of your iman.

lets see what allah says in holy quran.

003.139
So lose not heart, nor fall into despair: For ye must gain mastery if ye are true in Faith.

ALLAH says that a believer will never grief or fall into despair.Just have this words in mind when ever you think of him.

One more thing you can do is just get for tahajjud and pray infront of allah with crying that take him out of your mind.

one more thing you can do voluntary fasting as it increases taqwa.

just have a look at this
http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/1114/boyfriend

.wassalam.
 
AnonymousGender said:
i dont know what has overcome me these last few days! i cant stop thinking about an ex. he keeps coming into my dreams, sometimes i wish i could talk to him but i knw theres no point he hates me, pple please advise me... how do i stop hurting, knowing hes having fun, living in the same city, chilling out with other girls, he couldnt care less if i was dead or alive. it hurts so much, when i think of him i jus cry automatically. i thought i was gettin over him and now this happens. and my dreams they seem so real but when i wake up i realise it was all jus a dream
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Sorry to hear your going through so much stress. May Allah be with you and find a way out for you. Ameen.

I am going through the same thing, and I have fallen into a state of severe depression. imsad:cry:

I get so jealous that he is happily getting on with his life with another girl (he cheated on me with her) he chose her over me. I am so bitter and jealous that my life has turned upside down, when he was the one who cheated, but I am getting punished. :cry:
 
just like the sisters said.. go out get a facial!
be focused but chill with you girly friends and be casual
for one guy! you are mentally and physically disabling urself
as you scream for help
god won’t help you until u help urself
we are all weaklings our hearts crumble
when we see our long lost love with others ..we fumble
we always go for the bad when the good is an easier option
sometimes i think and say forget marriage....a house, my mom and a blessed adoption-
is the easier option
 

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