My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightmare,

[xboxisdead]

Jazak Allah for your prayers. Let us hope that there comes a stop to even the basic non excusable rights from being violated.

- - - Updated - - -



Off course. I could have been in a position far worse than the one I am now. Still I pray everyday and I feel I am sinking to the bottom of the ocean.... this despair is hard to get rid of. Its latched on to me, not a day goes by I dont think about it. But I'm sorry I cant just forget a little innocent girl just like that, shes still a little toddler.. innocent soul who doesnt even know what is going on..... I think I'm more worried how I will be accountable in the hereafter if I do give up on her. So many fathers have given up and just abandoned their kids. U till I have no choice i have to keep trying I think... the more I try the more I get beat down is the way I'm feeling. Still I feel I must perservere for Allahs sake..

Dude! Let me repeat this again....Allah does not punish a person who have no power and rights. In the country where you live in...you have no rights....I repeat...in the country where you live in...you have no rights. So how can Allah punish you for not having rights and failing in exercising your no right? During the period of toddler and baby the child is at full custody of the mother. She needs her mother more than she needs you. What her mother is doing wrong is preventing you from seeing the children, using non-Muslim court to harm a Muslim brother, etc all of these stupidity she is doing she is paying for it dearly in the afterlife not you. If you pack your bags and leave the country and pay child support you are doing no wrong.

Those men who up and left their children did the right thing, because they have no right and the law is against them so the best they could do is up and leave and build new society. Now..if he is living in a Muslim country where his rights are actually protected and not just "Muslim country" by name and he then up and left and want nothing to do with his children..then yes in my eyes he is a dead beat dad. Especially if he does not pay the children their finances. However, if he lives in a non-Muslim country and he tries to be part of the children and the mother and the court is blocking the father access to the children no matter how hard he tries...my advice to him is move on. You see...society wants a man to jump up the mountain to proof his a good father...

that is stupid...that is idiot and he should not have to do that. The system is designed to break family and destroy men. It is that simple. System is build so women are not accounted for any crime she commits, even kufr and put all blame on men. Sadly you experienced it at personal level. But there is nothing you could do here...except move on.

Now the part where you are scared that Allah will punish you because you did not try hard enough...you should scroll back up again and read the part what I said. Don't cut ties with your daughter, make videos and audios, check her birthdays and send her gifts (make copy of everything in case the ex will destroy everything you mail to her and then says to your daughter see he did not do his part). Make sure every gift you buy have a receipt with date on it to show her proof of your purchase gifts. Every gift you buy...make sure you buy two of them (like I said in case the ex destroys your gifts). The money that you will actually spend on getting joined custody (which by the way...a terminology that does not exist in Islam and it is against Shariah law) you should spend it on saving your daughter for her inheritance. If you try to always form connection with your daughter..record that you are singing for your daughter as if you are holding her with your hands, record video of your face smiling and waving at your daughter as a baby, talk to her as if she is there....always check to see where the mother have moved her and move close to her so that when she is older you can try to talk to her in skype or email. If the ex refuses to give you her contact information and does not want you to talk to her on skype or email or send the police at you with false allegation you raped her so that you have to live far away from your daughter and lose all forms of communication with her, that is fine..your ex right in front of you is buying ticket to go deeper into hellfire, that is fine with me..I don't care...Allah will create better women than her....do more recording of you talking to your daughter as if you are doing it in front of her on skype...keep letters, write letters..send them to her by mail and keep receipts of sending the letters and make two copies of the letters..until she is grown adult. This point she is free from her mother and you can just mail her the items then (the second copy) and tell her in one of your letters if you still want your inheritance from me...please visit me (at public place please..she is after all...an estrange woman and non-mahram to you now..since these MOTHERS don't understand when you cut ties between father and daughter when she is a baby....many times the father finds the daughter attractive and start raping her or have sex with her and the daughter crave daddy...fall for it :heated::heated::heated.

When you visit her at public place (make sure she wears Hijab in front of you and she have a mahram with her) give her..her money that you owe her and see if you can build your relationship there (with the gifts you gave her) she will find how evil her mother is. Do not forget to record all the lawyer conversation how your ex is been vindictive at you and how she harmed you and so on...so you can see that it was not you who is at fault but the ex is (if you want to show her that if not..it is even better because you are doing it for Allah's pleasure and not seeking revenge). Allah will punish her. People underestimate the severity of Allah's punishment. To me having seizures or endless vertigo or blindness is unbearable punishment for me...heck..losing my taste or smell make my life a miserable danka and a severe punishment and that is here in Dunaya...I cannot image what it is like in afterlife. Men and WOMEN seem to miss the boat and have ZERO FEAR from Allah (Subahanu Wa Talaa) and fall into ego and dunaya!

Now...MOVE ON...best way you can hurt your ex is move on and find a better woman than your EX. LOOK AT WHAT I TYPED EARLIER ABOUT FINDING the right person and avoid marrying them in modern society (first world countries). When you do get married and your daughter reaches age 10 or older or even adult...NEVER LET HER SEE YOUR WIFE or new children...the ex will use your daughter against you. The daughter will try sabotage your relationship with your new wife and new children. No visiting your home. If you must see your daughter it can only be done at her ex place..public place...park..restaurant...whatever time you can give her and then drop her back to her mother and leave. In front of Allah you have fulfilled your obligation to your old daughter and she have nothing against you...keep paying for education and cloth and food and basic necessity. It is not your DUTY TO PAY YOUR DAUGHTER FOR TOYS OR SMART PHONE or anything else. Don't let your ex manipulate you into paying outrageous expense to your daughter because if you do...you are teaching your daughter to be materialistic and demand and demand and demand and demand and you will destroy your daughter due to your ex manipulation and mind control. Never let your ex control your mind. Simple. If your ex goes to media and say how of a deadbeat dad you are and how you have failed and you have moved on instead of fighting for your daughter and she uses that to show your daughter how bad of a father you are...know that is a form of parental alienation and she is coming a major sin and she will be punished in the afterlife. You have full right to exercise your parental power over your daughter and be ghadbaan at her. Your daughter would have destroyed the door to paradise which is fine by you because in the afterlife when the sun is above her head and hellfire is in front of your daughter that is your cue to take from her good deed from the mistreatment she have done on you. (Your mission is to make sure they have nothing against you in day of judgement...if you follow my advise you are protected in the afterlife) This again shows how stupid your ex wife is and how she is willing to destroy her life and her daughters life to hurt you.

That is unfrotunately what majority of women do.

 

[Imraan]

Saw my girl for the first time after 15 months yesterday in a child contact centre. Centre fees I have to pay for so you can imagine, I'm paying child support, on top of that professional fees at the centre, now I'm worried if il be able to sustain the costs over long term if the contact doesnt go to plan. I say this because I only got to hold her for a couple of seconds, she was crying the whole time throughout the session resulting in the session being terminated. What if my girl doesnt adapt to me and I end up abandoning contact?

 

[Ahmed.]

Saw my girl for the first time after 15 months yesterday in a child contact centre. Centre fees I have to pay for so you can imagine, I'm paying child support, on top of that professional fees at the centre, now I'm worried if il be able to sustain the costs over long term if the contact doesnt go to plan. I say this because I only got to hold her for a couple of seconds, she was crying the whole time throughout the session resulting in the session being terminated. What if my girl doesnt adapt to me and I end up abandoning contact?

Brother, you can't beat the law and the more your daughter stays away from you, the more distant she'll become, so really you should try and better your life by focusing upon getting another wife and having more children and this will help you heal

Your only chance with your daughter seems to be, when she is older and understands what 'dad' is, then she'll want to develop a relationship with you, and before that, she may just look upon you as a stranger.

I think you're fighting a losing battle here br, so focus on, marraige number 2

 

[Imraan]

In the early hours of this morning I've had my house windows smashed by big stones the size of a mans fist. Me and my family have been patient and we pray for protection, we dont retaliate and then this happens.

Man we cant seem to get a break from these people. I don't want to be like a sitting duck while they do all this vandalism and rumour spreading accompanied with threats.

So on top of the court process, we've had a car set on fire, rumours being continuously spread by the ex and the ex's mother, threats made by both of them against my family and my house windows smashed.

This is typical asian honour based vandalism and terrorism. If I had the might and means i would have retaliated and responded in a language they understand, Instead I lie helplessly in wait of their next move. We pray things get better, it seems to be getting worse. Yes it could have been worse than it already is but the stuff that's happened is bad enough. They're asking for a punishment. I've been praying they are punished for their antics, instead I'm getting more rubbish!

I still pray everyday, I complain to Allah swt everyday, I cry to Allah swt, why does this happen even after we have turned to Allah swt, yes he sees and knows everything thats going on but I'm desperate for help, his help.. I'd rather he sort them out in this life but chances of divine justice in this world is slim... look at all the ongoing atrocities going in the world....

Please remember us in your duas. I have an elderly mother, it's not easy for her to be exposed to this kind of evil, not easy for anyone. She just says 'Allah swt is with us always' and we recite duas together and pray everyday. I have nephews and nieces so it's always a worry if they'll strike and put them in danger next, I mean they already burned my nieces car. They threw stones through my house windows, what if I had guests staying in the room I found the stones..

I yearn for the day Allah swt punishes that family. What if he forgives them for Allah swt is the most merciful? What about my loss and detriment.

I dont feel safe and yes life in this world is temporary, but we still got to live everyday and fulfil the needs of our dependents the best we can, these issues drag me down.

Pray that justice is served in this world and all evil from that family comes to a stop, I feel stuck, facing an obstacle I cant overcome. Life was simple before I got married, i used to be able to do more, help more of my relatives, I hope I can go back to doing that again.

We are a good family, my mum has been a great guide in instilling and spreading positivity amongst us siblings, she still does. That generation of people wont be around for long.

What a life. Calamities supposed to make us stronger, instead I find myself sucking it up each time and the police cant do much without evidence so that doesnt help dealing with a cowardly and conniving family.

 

[xboxisdead]

In the early hours of this morning I've had my house windows smashed by big stones the size of a mans fist. Me and my family have been patient and we pray for protection, we dont retaliate and then this happens.

Man we cant seem to get a break from these people. I don't want to be like a sitting duck while they do all this vandalism and rumour spreading accompanied with threats.

So on top of the court process, we've had a car set on fire, rumours being continuously spread by the ex and the ex's mother, threats made by both of them against my family and my house windows smashed.

This is typical asian honour based vandalism and terrorism. If I had the might and means i would have retaliated and responded in a language they understand, Instead I lie helplessly in wait of their next move. We pray things get better, it seems to be getting worse. Yes it could have been worse than it already is but the stuff that's happened is bad enough. They're asking for a punishment. I've been praying they are punished for their antics, instead I'm getting more rubbish!

I still pray everyday, I complain to Allah swt everyday, I cry to Allah swt, why does this happen even after we have turned to Allah swt, yes he sees and knows everything thats going on but I'm desperate for help, his help.. I'd rather he sort them out in this life but chances of divine justice in this world is slim... look at all the ongoing atrocities going in the world....

Please remember us in your duas. I have an elderly mother, it's not easy for her to be exposed to this kind of evil, not easy for anyone. She just says 'Allah swt is with us always' and we recite duas together and pray everyday. I have nephews and nieces so it's always a worry if they'll strike and put them in danger next, I mean they already burned my nieces car. They threw stones through my house windows, what if I had guests staying in the room I found the stones..

I yearn for the day Allah swt punishes that family. What if he forgives them for Allah swt is the most merciful? What about my loss and detriment.

I dont feel safe and yes life in this world is temporary, but we still got to live everyday and fulfil the needs of our dependents the best we can, these issues drag me down.

Pray that justice is served in this world and all evil from that family comes to a stop, I feel stuck, facing an obstacle I cant overcome. Life was simple before I got married, i used to be able to do more, help more of my relatives, I hope I can go back to doing that again.

We are a good family, my mum has been a great guide in instilling and spreading positivity amongst us siblings, she still does. That generation of people wont be around for long.

What a life. Calamities supposed to make us stronger, instead I find myself sucking it up each time and the police cant do much without evidence so that doesnt help dealing with a cowardly and conniving family.

My Allah make it easy for you ameen.


Al-hamdolillah I am not married! - kicks hand and puts it on forehead - Alhamdollillah I am not married! Alhamdollillah! Allah (Subhanahu Wa Talaa) have been merciful on me! Allah Akbar! Allah Akbar!

Please brother, at this time don't think of getting married. Finish from your calamity and think about yourself and how to improve yourself emotionally and physically! :allahuakbar1::allahuakbar1::allahuakbar1::allahuakbar1::allahuakbar1:

 

['Abdullah]

Do have any security camera around your house? Does any of the neighbor caught the incident on camera?
You are in my prayers.

May Allah make it easy for you brother! Ameen!​

 

[Imraan]

Do have any security camera around your house? Does any of the neighbor caught the incident on camera?
You are in my prayers.

May Allah make it easy for you brother! Ameen!​

No CCTV footage from anywhere, youd never think it would come to this stage and magnitude but it has, my doorbell cam didnt capture it. I will install another camera insh Allah.

Jzk brother for your prayers. Hope they all get answered soon, I feeling like im reaching the end of the line.

 

[Ahmed.]

So all this is happening over the custody battle or your vistiting rights over your daughter?

Yup try to install cameras that look out into the street too. They may wear hoodies and do it at night so cameras might not be of help

If it's come to this, then I suggest for your and your families safety, just give up your rights brother. Your daughter is in safe hands with her mum.... Just advice them to bring up your daughter Islamically, I'm sure they won't mind that advice. Once your daughter is a teen, she'd be able to come and see you on her own accord

 

[xboxisdead]

Please look at post #81 My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightmare,

The advice remains the same and unchanged. My advise is follow advice #81 (do recording of the conversation with them). Say it like this, "I understand that you guys do not want me to visit the child and have any right in raising the child. I mean the fact that you guys smashed my car and broke the windows of my house is a big indicative of it. I will make an agreement. It is not for you or for that child, it is for Allah's pleasure I will be paying child support for that child. Until it is Islamically prescribed that I should stop. You raise the child yourself and I will have nothing to do with her. In one condition, you raise her in a proper Islamic way. You make sure she is protected from evil eyes. You teach her between proper right and wrong and you be her protector from evil men and evil women. If you agree to be the mother and the father, I am ok with it. If it makes you happy that you get all the praises and sympathy for been a hardworking single mother and the evil man which is me (because that is the narrative we want to play) have failed in his responsibility and proof politically that only mothers are fit parents and not fathers...I am ok with it, I will take the dirt. I will take the blame. I will take the fingering. I will be the evil monster. Just make sure my daughter is protected and raised well. Finally, please stop destroying my property, please stop destroying my car and let me move on."

Have a lawyer be with you in the same room as her with her lawyer (and do not do this in personal level and be alone with her) in public office (building). Keep this recording so one day when your daughter comes out having boy/girlfriend left and right, not wearing Hijjaab, been raped and molested (which all will happen without a father around), may even become Atheist (which at that point she is not really your daughter), you can send her this recording of the conversation you have done with the mother as proof you are innocent in all regard.

After you have done this recording, move on. Please. Move on. Forget this baby girl, forget this mother and move on. My advise...do not get married again until you fix yourself, until you have bettered yourself, empowered yourself. If I was you...I would get a boy to raise in my home. Sponsor a boy in your home and raise him. Make sure you have a good gift ready for him when he grows older. I would rather see more men not get married..I prefer to see 60% of Muslim men population drop in marriage and only 40% worldwide get married and those 60% sponsor boys from orphanage homes then make their own babies. You want to know why?

So that there will be drop in crime rates in society and drop in serial killers and drop drug dealers and drop in crime rates and even drop in having an increase evil military that will come one day and destroy our homes and our families. Ever wonder what will happen to this little boys who are orphaned, who have no one to love them, who have been physically, sexually and psychologically abused? These boys will be taking by the government to increase in their military power which one day will come back as evil cops and soldiers who would not care to kill, abuse, rape your men and womenfolk. These boys will grow up serial killers and start killing you. These bo....I think you get the point. The best thing a man could do to society is save these boys and make them into proper men, good men, men that follow the ways of the prophet peace be upon him. Because one day, we WILL need these men (after Allah) to protect us from the evil that intend to attack our religion and break down our family.

I do not think nowadays men have it in them to be able to handle a wife, his own kids and sponsor a child. Because the womenfolk nowadays are a bigger burden than help to him. He have to do with all the drama that comes with it!

 

[Imraan]

It's not just custody battle, alongside islamic divorce not complete yet, Its hate, persecution, defamation of a familys reputation to divert blame away from themselves, intimidation, these people think they are powerful because they are rich and can talk a load of nonsense, they dont fear god and I doubt they will face Allah swt wrath in this life.

The woman wants to keep mahr dowry, the child and wants to destroy me and my family at the same time. They have millions yet they act like beggars!

 

[BeTheChange]

Asalamualykum

I understand your pain and struggle. I have witnessed close family members go through a very similar experience to such an extent that they were locked up behind bars!! ..even though they were and are innocent! Allah Hu Akbar. The honest people will always be tortured and hurt because the system is set up for liars to excel.

You must NEVER give up hope. NEVER. Turn to Allah swt and understand that noone has greater power and control than Allah swt. Allah swt is testing so why don't you force a smile and be happy amongst family members? The more you smile, the more you will internalise this feeling and feel it. Appreciate the people and blessings you have and insha Allah there is wisdom in this trial you are going through. Insha Allah it will all make sense once you are out of it. Heal your heart by reciting Quraan shareef.

We will be tested with our wealth, children, health etc and the funny thing is none of these things were ours in the first place. Subhana Allah. It is Allah swt who blessed us with these things.

May Allah swt make it easy for you and your family Ameen.

 

[xboxisdead]

It's not just custody battle, alongside islamic divorce not complete yet, Its hate, persecution, defamation of a familys reputation to divert blame away from themselves, intimidation, these people think they are powerful because they are rich and can talk a load of nonsense, they dont fear god and I doubt they will face Allah swt wrath in this life.

The woman wants to keep mahr dowry, the child and wants to destroy me and my family at the same time. They have millions yet they act like beggars!

Many ways I am jealous of you Imraan. Many ways I wish I was married and have kids just so that my wife deny me my rights and deny my parental rights. Many ways I wish I had an ex-wife who use the kaffir law and man made to oppress me and oppress my children and make me hate my children and make my children hate me. I envy those Muslim men who have ties been cut between him and his children because of the mother of the children and I envy these men who die crying and heart bleeding and I envy those men whose children would not visit them in their graves and I envy those men who have a wife who verbally and physically abuses them and who deny them intimacy.

Those men in day of resurrection will have their sins cleaned and will have high level of Jannah I would love to be in their shoes.

Thank Allah that the family is doing this to you! Thank Allah that your daughter will be your open enemy as she grows older. Thank Allah that your wife is cutting ties between you and your daughter. Thank Allah that your wife is ruining your reputation and destroying your property. Thank Allah that your wife is preventing you from playing your role as a father.

Allah is replacing all this with something better! Imraan, go to your room and lock the door and cry to Allah and thank him for the calamity he have put you on. Come out smiling from that room! GO COME OUT SMILING FROM THAT ROOM AND SCREAM "Yeeeeeeeeeeesssssssss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have been picked! I have been picked! I have been picked!!!!!" Go run and kiss the Qura'an and read it before you go to bed everyday until death takes you!

Lift your heart and smile with joy!! This parenting role is trivial compared to what you are getting in exchange for it!

I want you to post a happy smile face! Thank Allah and move on!! Enjoy your life! Daughter, son who cares...Allah have taken them from you and in exchange he have given you something better!! SOMETHING SUPERIOR! Be grateful and thank him.

 

[xboxisdead]

Imraaan, go out there and sponsor a Muslim boy in a Muslim country and save a brother from harm! So that Allah (subhanau Wa Talaa) raises you EVEN HIGHER level in paradise! You made a trade. You exchanged your daughter for a higher level of Jannah. What better trade than this? If I had 10 daughters I would sell them all for higher level of paradise. If there is an ahadeeth that says if a man have children you can raise them or sell them to get the top top level of Jannah and that selling means you sell your parental right and let the mother do all the hard job of working and raising the children on her own and been a mother and a father on her own and you never get to see them...even if Allah have given me 30 daughters...like that - flicks finger - I would sell them for higher level of Jannah. I would not even waver.

Here Allah have done that for you...he toke back his property and in exchange is giving you something better for your stress. So my advise is that you smile and be thankful!

 

[xboxisdead]

Look at that!! A single non-Muslim man who is fine been single, not have a wife and have adopted 5 children on his own to raise him https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pzx03mXOUSE

Why should a non-Muslim man be stronger than a Muslim man to be able to take care of a new generation on his own without a wife? No..Imraan.....look at him...look at this man...raising children on his own..not even biologically related to him!! Orphan Muslim children are more deserving to be sponsored (adopted) and taken care of! You will be a hero Imraan...the biggest hero..to remove your self interest and sacrifice...and help children be protected from the hands of the government, from the hand of evil men, from the hand of society who don't care for them! Picture this: In the day of judgement you will see hundreds of men standing in front of you and running to give you a big hug to have saved them in dunaya and akhira! When I was volunteering (this is just volunteering) teaching young boys Qura'an and when he grow to teenager and age 17...he remembered me...he came running to me and gave me a big hug! My eyes nearly moist in tears! My eyes nearly cried and that is just simple thing as just been a tutor! I have not even adopted him! Imagine with your golden heart Imraan when you do adopted (sponsor) them and make them stand on their own feet and teach them what it is to be a REAL man! So many Shkeikhs are saying good men...marriage material men are becoming a rare!

WELL..this is where you come in......to reverse this issue by raising good men who have no parent or family for them.

Personally I want to sponsor children myself....before it is too late for me. I am in my 40's if I don't sponsor them soon enough before I hit 50 or 60.,..it will be too late for me. You still have the energy and youth to back you up! Do it Imraan before sponsoring children becomes too complicated so that the government will be only having access to them.


YOU DO NOT WANT THAT!

 

[BeTheChange]

One more thing of great importance comes to my mind. All this drama, shouting, arguments etc. takes you away from your real focus in life which is to get closer to Allah swt. To worship Allah swt as HE should be worshipped. Don't waste precious time and energy fighting a losing battle even though you are emotionally invested. Think logically and not with your emotion. Be strong for your mum and go out for daily walks. Insha Allah excercise will release all the mental stress. Set a goal to learn the last 10 surats of Quraan off by heart insha Allah or any other goal. Keep your mind focused on any project and insha Allah you will get through this trial Ameen.

 

[Imraan]

Every night for the past 2 weeks I have been reading 4 units of nafl prayer and the last 3 ayats of surah bakarah and praying for protection for myself, my family members, our property and all muslims. Last night I finished praying and read surahs and got into bed, five minutes later ....... BANG! Everyone checking and eventually i find Glass smashed front of the house. We got em on cctv this time but faces blurry. It is people from london.

Anyone else face this kind of intimidation and persecution?

 

[xboxisdead]

Every night for the past 2 weeks I have been reading 4 units of nafl prayer and the last 3 ayats of surah bakarah and praying for protection for myself, my family members, our property and all muslims. Last night I finished praying and read surahs and got into bed, five minutes later ....... BANG! Everyone checking and eventually i find Glass smashed front of the house. We got em on cctv this time but faces blurry. It is people from london.

Anyone else face this kind of intimidation and persecution?

Do you have a camera that points at the parking lot with deep clarity once an event occurs? This way you have some evidence to show it to the police. You need to hire a good lawyer and ask for their advise. You are no more interested in that daughter. Who cares about her, Allah will give you better than her. What you need to do now is protect your sanity, your property, and your mother. Your mother's protection and ease of mind is superior over that daughter. So now you have a duty. As a man. As a son. To be the protector of your mother on her old age as she was your protector on your young age. Be the best son you ever have....stand up....and clean the dust and start a war that have been declared on you and on your mother.

First thing first. Get a lawyer and this time a better lawyer and get a clear understanding of what you must do in your case. Tell the lawyer that you are not interested on your daughter anymore, but you are interested to be left alone and your mother to be safe. What they are doing is criminal, what are the required steps that YOU NEED to take to fight them and to make them stop? The lawyer will tell you what you need to do. Do them 100%. Keep everything digital documented and recorded. You may need to hire an FBI or someone who can find out who is the culprit, follow that person, get evidence against that person and then collect as much as evidence as you can.

GO TO THE MEDIA WITH all the PHOTOS that you have collected. Find famous shows and tell your story, have the community know of your story. Play the video of the crime on TV and ask for the community to help you (after Allah). Tell them all you wanted was to be a good father to your daughter, but now they are terrorizing you and your old mother. Fight with all your might (not to be a dad), to be left alone with peace on your mind. Go to the best scholars or largest Mosque in your community and ask for help. Cry if you must. Show them your weakness and ask that someone could help you. It is a war that you have to fight to be left alone.

 

[xboxisdead]

Concerning the face been blurry there are very expensive but existing company who they specialize in turning images blurry into clear HD with clarity! If the face is looking at the camera but blurry get it to that company and have the face cleared out. Take the images and send it to the police! If you are able to catch the criminal, prosecute them at the fullest of the law...whatever the law estate they will get years in prison ask for it. If they are to be in prison for 5 years or 10 years....ask for 10 years and have them in prison. When they go there, they will be sodomized, they will be beaten and most of the time they will commit suicide. That is not your intention, I know, but that is what happens when a person goes to prison and since they DO NOT CARE IF THEY GO to prison, it is a war, you shouldn't either. If I come running at you right now with a knife to stab you, I may look nice guy, with glasses and I am a human being who can laugh at your jokes but if I am coming at you with a knife you better come back with a weapon to kill me in self defense. That is exactly what they are doing to you when they are terrorizing you, they will end up in prison and not lots of people can handle it. Majority of them will die in prison by their own hands.

 

[taha_]

Every night for the past 2 weeks I have been reading 4 units of nafl prayer and the last 3 ayats of surah bakarah and praying for protection for myself, my family members, our property and all muslims. Last night I finished praying and read surahs and got into bed, five minutes later ....... BANG! Everyone checking and eventually i find Glass smashed front of the house. We got em on cctv this time but faces blurry. It is people from london.

Anyone else face this kind of intimidation and persecution?

Assalam o alaikum rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu.

I live in a small muslim hospital town which is under security protection. So therefore no oppression or any incidents here alhamdulillah.

Allah is testing us. There were many people who faced more difficult tests than you and they became patient. That was prophets who were oppressed, including Muhammad peace be upon him who was abused, insulted, injured by Quraysh. They even tried to kill him, yet to be saved by Abu Bakr, his closest friend.

And when he peace be upon him and his army conquested mecca which a single blood was not even shed. He forgave his enemies and they converted to Islam.

One of the prophet is Job or Ayyub peace be upon him. He faced most difficult test, his family wealth and everything he had was taken away and tested by Allah.

Prophet ayyub was really patient and thankful to his Lord. Allah gave him everything back he had

Prophet Jacob peace be upon him lost his son Yusuf peace be upon him who had great dream. Both were tested, both were patient as they knew that Allah was helping them. After years passed since then they finally met each other.

Prophet Musa peace be upon him and his people was saved by Allah who caused sea to split and took away pharoh and his people.

Put your trust and hope in Allah alone. Never break both. Be patient. We don't know what our future will be. So put hope and trust in Him. In sha Allah, it will be good.

Dont waste time on these people. Spend these times on worshipping Allah, asking Him to help you no matter what. He will be sufficient for you.

Think about Dunya. What is it?

A prison for believers and paradise for disbelievers.

Disbelievers will soon regret it when the Last Day which they reject, comes. This world is temporary. Paradise is eternal. So if you want paradise . Then try be patient and hold rope of Allah. Ask Him to help you

That's my opinion which I shared to you. May be you will understand in sha Allah.

JazakAllah khair

 

[Ahmed.]

Brother, one of your family members gonna get hurt one day and suffering persecution like that is bad enough.

Can you afford a night security guard to watch over your house? (probably a stupid question as your just working class...)

I'm getting angry at what's happening to you... I feel like telling you to do revenge attacks on their house but that might bring more trouble! :Emoji19: