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Asalaamu 'alykum.
hm.. thats sad. How about you stay quiet with them for a while in regard to religious matters? Don't discuss religion too much and show them good manners, a good personality. I know you might feel that its hard for new muslim reverts, but its hard for some muslims who start practising islaam also since the family thinks the persons strange, because they're changing themselves for the better. (I know, so weird huh?)
Here's a good 10min vid, just so you know what position you're in:
http://www.islamicboard.com/islamic-multimedia/39381-ghuraba-khalid-yasin.html
You can explain to them indirectly and calm their fear, you don't even have to say to them that you're muslim, because Allaah is sufficient as a witness for you, and He is the Most Wise. Remember that people may plot, and Allaah too Plots, and He is the best of Planners.
We know that the companions of the Messenger of Allaah were tortured severely for leaving 'the religion of their forefathers' - some were placed on hot burning coal. Others were severely beaten by their own families, while others lost all their respect and wealth. However, Allaah won't let this go to waste - He will reward you for your difficulties, and after hardship He will bring ease.
Know that Allaah never overburdens a soul with what it can't bear. And He is always remembering you, when you remember Him. So ask Him for help, and without a doubt He will provide you from ways you never expected. And know that victory comes through Patience and trials.
Allaah Almighty says in the Qur'an:
Right now, you just need to show your family through your actions how islaam has changed you for the better. It can be with small issues related to daily life; so maybe you're more organised, more at calmness/ease with yourself and others, willing to share things and help others out with no form of reward in return etc.
Here's a good thread related to having good manners;
http://www.islamicboard.com/islamic-etiquettes/25521-importance-adaab-manners.html
The Prophet (peace be upon him) emphasized how good manners are of paramount importance in Islam when he said: “I was sent only to perfect good manners.” [ Musnad Ahmad (8952)]
The Prophet (peace be upon him) is the perfect example of what it means to possess good manners. Allah says, describing him: “Indeed you are of a great moral character.” [ Sûrah al-Qalam : 4]
Allah says: “Nor can goodness and evil be equal. Repel (evil) with what is better. Then he between whom and you there had been hatred will become as though he were your dear friend.”
And no one will be granted such goodness except those who exercise patience and self-restraint,- none but persons of the greatest good fortune.
[ Sûrah Fussilat : 34-5]
http://www.islamtoday.net/english/showme2.cfm?cat_id=31&sub_cat_id=710
I pray that things get easier for you inshaa Allaah, and remember that this is part of Allaah's Eternal Wisdom. We might not know the reason behind this right now, but we know that through hardship, Allaah brings for us a great deal of good. Don't give up hope for your family, because Allaah has guided the most severest of enemies of islaam to the truth, so keep praying to Allaah for their guidance also. Our duty is to only convey the message, it's Allaah who guides the hearts.
Peace.
hm.. thats sad. How about you stay quiet with them for a while in regard to religious matters? Don't discuss religion too much and show them good manners, a good personality. I know you might feel that its hard for new muslim reverts, but its hard for some muslims who start practising islaam also since the family thinks the persons strange, because they're changing themselves for the better. (I know, so weird huh?)
Here's a good 10min vid, just so you know what position you're in:
http://www.islamicboard.com/islamic-multimedia/39381-ghuraba-khalid-yasin.html
You can explain to them indirectly and calm their fear, you don't even have to say to them that you're muslim, because Allaah is sufficient as a witness for you, and He is the Most Wise. Remember that people may plot, and Allaah too Plots, and He is the best of Planners.
We know that the companions of the Messenger of Allaah were tortured severely for leaving 'the religion of their forefathers' - some were placed on hot burning coal. Others were severely beaten by their own families, while others lost all their respect and wealth. However, Allaah won't let this go to waste - He will reward you for your difficulties, and after hardship He will bring ease.
Know that Allaah never overburdens a soul with what it can't bear. And He is always remembering you, when you remember Him. So ask Him for help, and without a doubt He will provide you from ways you never expected. And know that victory comes through Patience and trials.
Allaah Almighty says in the Qur'an:
Do men think that they will be left alone on saying, "We believe", and that they will not be tested?
We did test those before them, and Allah will certainly know those who are true from those who are false.
Do those who practise evil think that they will get the better of Us? Evil is their judgment!
For those whose hopes are in the meeting with Allah (in the Hereafter, let them strive); for the term (appointed) by Allah is surely coming and He hears and knows (all things).
And if any strive (with might and main), they do so for their own souls: for Allah is free of all needs from all creation.
Those who believe and work righteous deeds,- from them shall We blot out all evil (that may be) in them, and We shall reward them according to the best of their deeds.
We have enjoined on man kindness to parents: but if they (either of them) strive (to force) thee to join with Me (in worship) anything of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not. Ye have (all) to return to me, and I will tell you (the truth) of all that ye did.
And those who believe and work righteous deeds,- them shall We admit to the company of the Righteous.
[Qur'an Al-Ankaboot (The Spider) 29: 2-9]
The Messenger of Allaah, peace be upon him said: Wondrous are the believer's affairs. For him there is good in all his affairs, and this is so only for the believer. When something pleasing happens to him, he is grateful, and that is good for him; and when something displeasing happens to him, he is enduring/patient (sabar), and that is good for him. [Recorded in Sahih Muslim]We did test those before them, and Allah will certainly know those who are true from those who are false.
Do those who practise evil think that they will get the better of Us? Evil is their judgment!
For those whose hopes are in the meeting with Allah (in the Hereafter, let them strive); for the term (appointed) by Allah is surely coming and He hears and knows (all things).
And if any strive (with might and main), they do so for their own souls: for Allah is free of all needs from all creation.
Those who believe and work righteous deeds,- from them shall We blot out all evil (that may be) in them, and We shall reward them according to the best of their deeds.
We have enjoined on man kindness to parents: but if they (either of them) strive (to force) thee to join with Me (in worship) anything of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not. Ye have (all) to return to me, and I will tell you (the truth) of all that ye did.
And those who believe and work righteous deeds,- them shall We admit to the company of the Righteous.
[Qur'an Al-Ankaboot (The Spider) 29: 2-9]
Right now, you just need to show your family through your actions how islaam has changed you for the better. It can be with small issues related to daily life; so maybe you're more organised, more at calmness/ease with yourself and others, willing to share things and help others out with no form of reward in return etc.
Here's a good thread related to having good manners;
http://www.islamicboard.com/islamic-etiquettes/25521-importance-adaab-manners.html
The Prophet (peace be upon him) emphasized how good manners are of paramount importance in Islam when he said: “I was sent only to perfect good manners.” [ Musnad Ahmad (8952)]
The Prophet (peace be upon him) is the perfect example of what it means to possess good manners. Allah says, describing him: “Indeed you are of a great moral character.” [ Sûrah al-Qalam : 4]
Allah says: “Nor can goodness and evil be equal. Repel (evil) with what is better. Then he between whom and you there had been hatred will become as though he were your dear friend.”
And no one will be granted such goodness except those who exercise patience and self-restraint,- none but persons of the greatest good fortune.
[ Sûrah Fussilat : 34-5]
http://www.islamtoday.net/english/showme2.cfm?cat_id=31&sub_cat_id=710
I pray that things get easier for you inshaa Allaah, and remember that this is part of Allaah's Eternal Wisdom. We might not know the reason behind this right now, but we know that through hardship, Allaah brings for us a great deal of good. Don't give up hope for your family, because Allaah has guided the most severest of enemies of islaam to the truth, so keep praying to Allaah for their guidance also. Our duty is to only convey the message, it's Allaah who guides the hearts.
Peace.
You've been a huge help. May Allah (swt) reward you.
But she is too wrong!!
! It all takes practice! At first, I would get tounge-tied, or frustrated, or angry when people said things to attack Islam. Now days, I smile, I thank them for their interest in Islam (no matter how bad the remark), and tell them the truth! It is wonderful to see how their faces change from mocking to interest so quickly! 
