Non muslim girl pregnant

[ardianto]

THis might help

https://islamqa.info/en/85043

also unsure what this means

I follow opinion from scholars in my place that "There is no illegitimate child. What illegitimate is the parents behavior that committed adultery".

If a man has a child from a woman, whether he get his child in marriage or outside marriage, then he is still the father of this child, because lineage should not be disconnected. It's mean he still has responsibility toward his child and cannot run from it.

 

[Kiro]

...i clicked the link.. game of thrones music started.

im amazed.

no reparations are demanded...

i guess most lf us were wrong then.. including myself.

what?

I follow opinion from scholars in my place that "There is no illegitimate child. What illegitimate is the parents behavior that committed adultery".

If a man has a child from a woman, whether he get his child in marriage or outside marriage, then he is still the father of this child, because lineage should not be disconnected. It's mean he still has responsibility toward his child and cannot run from it.

ok but what does the quote mean

 

[ardianto]

I have come to this board because there is no one I can go to please forgive me for troubles!

You do not cause trouble, sis. But I am really sorry if I cannot give you advice about what to talk to your boyfriend because the key to to solve this problem actually is on your boyfriend. If I could talk with him I would tell him to marry you, because he should not run from his responsibility as father of your unborn baby.

Try to find someone who can talk with him and tell him to marry you. Maybe you can find this someone in his family. So do not hesitate to try to find his family and contact them.

 

[Serinity]

may Allah :swt: guide you to the light of Islam. Ameen.

Regardless of what your boyfriend does - take care of your illegitimate child. (child has no fault, it is yours and your bf's fault)

As a Muslim, I'd like the baby to stay Muslim, but since I am not the parent, I can only make dua to Allah to safeguard the baby from the traps of shaytaan, and may Allah guide you and inspire in you faith. Ameen.

Why don't you try to study Islam? It is simple, only One God, worship Him alone, none else. Isa / Jesus :as: is the Prophet of Allah :swt: sent to guide people of the past to truth, and to worship only Allah, and forbade to worship anyone or anything else. The one to follow now is Prophet Muhammad :saw: which if Isa was alive today, would follow.

And Allah :swt: knows best.

 

[Snow]

if you could say that without actually saying that.. then you would be super popular.

or a politician or summit.

everybody should attend political correctness courses once in a while.

everybody makes mistakes.. dont turn them away from you unintentionally.

super hard mode.

...to actually not be insincere.

..or get taken advantage of.


literally not pointing a finger.. with familiarity comes changes in language..

sometimes.

What you wrote sounds like an odd poem.

 

[Al Sultan]

Don't worry sister,you're not making any trouble or problem here,WE are here, helping you to understand and plan on what to do next,so feel at home,relax,dont take everything under pressure,just put your faith in God and that HE will solve everything and make ease upon inshallah (which means by god's permission) "With every hardship comes ease" ~ The Holy Quran

 

[Futuwwa]

Do you have access to legal counsel? Someone who you know who might help you out? It might be possible for you to make use of his court appearance to collect enough information about him to sufficiently identify him to be able to contact his family. I'd think it likely there's some way to find out, but you'd need to know what to do.

The father is probably a lost cause. Fornicator, drunk driver and child abandoner. Still, his family may be different. They may be willing to help and be part.

 

[readyred39]

I have never been to a mosque before! What would be appropiate for me to wear

 

[Search]

:bism: (In the Name of God, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful)

Hi, sis. I'd say just dress modesty and also if possible and you can afford to do so please do consider wearing loosely tied scarf around your head God-willing. That's pretty much it, sis. And since the floors of the mosque are carpeted, just leave your shoes on a shoe rack if available or you can place it on the floor with other shoes that you see or even in your bag.

Our support is with you, sis; I'm glad that you've decided to keep the baby, and God-willing this baby will be a source of blessing and guidance.

Take care of precious self.

All the best,

I have never been to a mosque before! What would be appropiate for me to wear

 

[islamirama]

I have never been to a mosque before! What would be appropiate for me to wear

something loose and covering the whole body is appropriate. Go to the office and ask to speak to the imam on a personal matter. You can probably call up ahead to see what time the imam will be available to save you a trip.

My baby is not an illigitimate child!

By definition, yes it is.

Illegitimate : born of parents who are not married to each other; born out of wedlock

And to the person that suggested that I lie with another man then that would make him the father HOW DARE YOU SAY SUCH A THING....

No one is suggesting you go lie down with another man. The statement simply said that in Islam, the guardianship and ownership of the child belongs to one whose bed the mother shares, meaning the husband and not the fornicator. But since you're not married, the child would be illegitimate and would take your name as his last name and not the fornicator's.

 

[Serinity]

Is it really OK to call the child illegitimate? I mean. When he/she grows up I think it gives out the view that the baby is false. Which is not true.

Illegitimate = no father no mother?

If it was my illegitimate child I would take care of it regardless of it being illegitimate. Makes no difference in regards to the child.

May Allah safeguard the child from Shaytaan, Ameen.

To readyred - I encourage you to make dua to Allah alone, in private. You need none besides Allah. You can supplicate to Allah right now.

Repent to Allah and ask forgiveness and guidance. Ask for Allah to support you on your Journey and to help you with your child.

Supplicating to Allah is easy. You can do it any time any place. When in distress, as Muslims, we turn to Allah for His help and support. by asking Him :swt: alone, no one else.

I ask you to do the same.

Call upon Him directly without any form of mediums or priests. They are humans like you, so call upon Allah in private, directly, alone.

Know that Allah is All-knowing, All Seeing, All Hearing, All-aware. So there is no hindrance for you to not supplicate.

Do NOT call upon / supplicate to anyone or anything besides Allah. None has the power to answer dua (supplication) except Allah.

Allah has no partners so we do not call upon anyone or associate anyone in worship or anything with Allah. Since Allah has no partner, call upon Him alone.

your heart, will God-willing, know how to supplicate.

I am asking you this because, when confused, we Muslims turn to Allah. Please ask Allah for guidance help and clarity.

Dua is the weapon of a believer (Muslim)
And Allah knows best.

 

[islamirama]

Is it really OK to call the child illegitimate? I mean. When he/she grows up I think it gives out the view that the baby is false. Which is not true.

Illegitimate = no father no mother?

If it was my illegitimate child I would take care of it regardless of it being illegitimate. Makes no difference in regards to the child.

Why would it not be ok ? Don't make up your own definition. It is a legal term that will be used in courts and every where else. Unless you are suggesting to hide the origin of the child, indirectly hiding the sin? It has to be recognize as law of inheritance and rights of the child come into play in it.

illegitimate child does not mean dirty child, the sin is not on the child. IF it was your child I would think you would have the decency to marry the girl first.

 

[readyred39]

What day and what time is it convenient for me to visit a mosque? I am ready!

 

[AabiruSabeel]

Hello readyred39,

Depending on your location, you can find the local prayer time here: http://salah.com/ and visit the Mosque 10-15 minutes early and introduce yourself to any sisters there, or the Imam. That way you would be able to watch the Muslims praying together.

 

[Al Sultan]

And sister don't worry about the fact that the Imam is muslim and you're a Christian,feel relaxed and explain to them accurately what's going on,then inshallah he will be able to help you.

 

[readyred39]

As I was growing up I was raised in a Christian home but as I got older in my teen years that while I respect the Christian faith It was something that did not suit me and what I believe! While I do believe in a higher power I have yet to find exactly what It is I myself am searching for in this life I have read into a few faiths and have been to many different churches but yet to find what I need feel!

 

[aaj]

Hello readyred39,

Depending on your location, you can find the local prayer time here: http://salah.com/ and visit the Mosque 10-15 minutes early and introduce yourself to any sisters there, or the Imam. That way you would be able to watch the Muslims praying together.

Or visit htp://www.islamicfinder.org and you can search by zipcode and get local mosques address and contact information.

 

[Al Sultan]

Well islam is a pure monotheistic religion which is believing in one true creator,Allah,while Judaism is on the list too,but the books (Bible,Torah,etc) are corrupted and I've read a lot of corrupted things about it,i don't understand it,it makes fun of god (literally) this is WHY islam came,it came to save the people from corruption and get people back to the true faith, believing in one God,and also Allah said in the Quran “We have, without doubt sent down the Message; and We will assuredly guard it (from corruption)....” (al-Hijr, 9) which what makes the Quran a beauty.But again the choice is up to you.