Not sure whether to re-propose to a potential spouse

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Thank you all for the replies, I did not expect this thread to blow up lol. May allah bless you all and reward you.

So just to give some clarification on how we met etc, my family got the proposal from their family and we didn't hear back from them. We coincidentally met on a matremonial website and she knew a family member of mine so I got her involved. So after we started talking for a long time we then agreed ok let's prgress things with the family and do it right, and at the point she said let's go our seperarte ways. So yes, even though it was a weird way we met each other it was going to the point to get wali etc involved, this time round if I do approach her it'll be done the right way.

As for the comments about desperation, if I was desperate I would've married the first person who came my way and been married 2 years ago. There is a big difference between desperation and knowiing what you want. Prior to meeting her for the first time I did do Istikhara, and I had good vibes and had no doubts in my mind at all - I can't say if she did it as well as I did not ask.

Anyhoo, again thank you all for the comments I really do appreciate it. I think in this blessed month I will do some self evaluation, seeks Allahs guidance and take things from there.
 
gray_fox said:
So yes, even though it was a weird way we met each other it was going to the point to get wali etc involved, this time round if I do approach her it'll be done the right way.
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It seems a bit weird that she is all chit chatty online but when you actually decide to take it serious and get wali's involved, she suddenly has a change of heart. Perhaps she was just playing mind games. Regardless Inshallah you find the right women in the future :)
 
She's no woman as I said, she's in it for ego massages and has led this brother on a wild goose chase, almost breaking his heart in the process... girls like that are dangerous floozies who will end up rotten.

Unless Allah has mercy on them.

Scimi
 
Welcome to the forum.

Reading through I'd suggest a mix of what has been said. It is the times we are in.. but the thing is, we can better understand now the possibilities that may be going through her mind, take note and highlight what could be the concerns that you are aware off. She may agree, add to them or deny and come up with nothing still. Then it is a dead end.

But you got to tell her why you feel that both of you have potential. for that, both have to have a slightly different mindset, that is the difference.

Wishing you a great stay.


:peace:
 
She responded and funnily enough she wanted to get in touch as well but was hesistant, and after having a chat I can see why she wasn't so sure. So we both agreed to pick things up after Ramdan and see how things go.
 

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