Opposite Gender Concerns

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Re: Do u look at opposite gender?

salam
i try to lower ma gaze...but weneva u go out ...we all acidently look at the oppisite gender dnt we?
 
Re: Do u look at opposite gender?

ahmed687 said:
i dont look, well i try my best not too, but sometimes its tough escpeccialy here in the summer where these **** women dont give a **** about their clothes. but its tough. especially for us living US and Uk.
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Don't forget Canada! :D

It's - 10 .... snowing ... girls come to school with jackets and jeans on ..... but what do they do when they come inside school?...... change into skirts and clothes showcasing their *goods* ...... I can only imagine how it is gonna be in college/university (where there are no dress code and girls are into flirting and stuff more than ever) ..... may Allah help me. :confused: And don't get me started on summer time ...... it's all over the place ..... just go to the beach .... you will understand. :zip:
 
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Re: Do u look at opposite gender?

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well BRo Solid ..DNT GO TO THE BEACH ..make it hAram upon u .. coz obviously there u'll find them Women Showin their Awrah .. so Dnt even think of goin to the Beach ..

the Girls may flirt or wear watever they want .. but that shudnt bother u bro .. You r not even to think of them in a fIrst place ... JUst Ignore wat they wear n wat they do ..all this thing u shud try n put it at the bak of ur mind .this way things will b easier 4 u .. inshAllah ..
.. i m sure u gt other things to wry abt like sTUDIESS and havin fun with ur MATES (brothers) ..

its Hard for me as well... when i go town (city centre) .. not coz of the MEn only but even WOMEN .. its true we have to lower our gazes down .. but the wOmen .. they bee wearing skirts which wud show their tighs . n thats the part of Awrah which no MEn or women are allowed to see .. so even then i cant lower my gazes down fearing i might end up lookin at their legs (ASTAGHFIRULLAH) .. the only option left for me is to look up in the sky n walk .. might try that sum day . (Joke) ..Khair thats one of the reasons i NEVER GO TOWN unless i need to buy books n pens ONLY which is Once in 3 months

bUt we all gotta STRIVE .n be MUJAHID /MUJAHIDAH inshAllah ..
 
Re: Do u look at opposite gender?

Assalamu 'alaikum

Alot of people have mentioned how they wish to stop glancing at the opposite gender, but it is too difficult. Seek ALLAH's help and seek his forgiveness.

The first step is to completely stop commiting this sin, you may think that this is too difficult, but I assure you nothing is difficult with the help of Allah, so seek his guidance.

Besides one can not rid himself of the dirt if he is still lying in the mud.

MashaAllah Woman of Jihad and others have provided some excellent tips for you.


We have to remember what our Prophet Muhammad told us regarding this.

“I am not leaving behind me any fitnah that is more harmful to men than women "​
Narrated by al-Bukhaari
NO disrespect intented to any of the sisters on this forum, but I think we all understand the meaning of this hadith.

I apologise if I have said anything to offend anyone, that was not my intention. I ask Allah to give me and my fellow LIers the ability to act upon what I have stated above

Barakallahu feekum
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Wasalamu alaikum
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Re: Do u look at opposite gender?

it is definitly possible to not look at opposite gender but in the US it is pretty hard with women not covering them selves and aal.
 
Re: Do u look at opposite gender?

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"Do u look at the opposite gender ?"

revealing ur sins, wat Allah is Hiding
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encouraging others not to,and try best not to do it
 
Re: Do u look at opposite gender?

Is looking at their face fine? I mean, it seems rude not to look them in the eye when I talk to them :)

Other than that, I keep the "second look a sin" (if the first was accidental. If the first was on purpose than of course it is a sin) close to my heart. I have been following it since I have converted.
 
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Well I think Its unavoidable nowadays but it all depends on the Intention of the individual if the look is good or bad I mean .

Allahul Musta3aan
 
Re: Do u look at opposite gender?

zAk said:
Don't say tht Bro :brother:
it was said Lower ur gaze, to both muslims n muslimahs in the quran,
without tht condition, "IF THE LOOK IS GUD / BAD" or abt the intentions,
its regardless,
don't u think the sahabas were more pious than us, the Ummahatul Mu'mineen were the most pious ladies...,
but they were also advised the same !
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Akhi Its almost Impossible to lower your gaze thats exactly the point :) as You work with women and have to look them in the face when talking to them
:D .

So its the intention that counts .
 
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zAk said:
I see my dad working here,
there r loads of customers coming here, both Men n women,
but i hvn't seen a single time, my dad even giving a single glance at any NaaMahram !
alhamdulillah !
so don't say its Impossible...... !
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Akhi We must lower our gaze but Again I will say in todays world its not possible , Your dad does not look the customers in the face ????? ???

Is that possible akhi ??

We are not talking about glancing We are talking about Looking the customer or co Worker in the face while talking or addressing her , and If we lower the gaze in the west we know how most ladies dress so if we are going to lower the gaze then It really does depend on the Niyat does it not


:thumbs_up .
 
Re: Do u look at opposite gender?

lol
i'm really bad at this thing ...and i have had to encounter many embarrassing incidents :-[ lol..i'll look at the walls, the floor, the celing ..anything but the males face :) and then from the corner of my eye i can see a grin spreading on the brothers face who is most likely thinking 'weirdo,i'm talking to you'. :-[ ..*sigh* so no problem there for me about looking at the oppsite gender

women r a big problem too...they make 'me' blush dark red with the clothes they wear in summer....these kafir women ..they have zero shame. :mad:
 
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yes sis thats true, its so bad in croydon they too have 'zero shame'
 
Re: Do u look at opposite gender?

zAk said:
exactly !
maybe those cutomers feel tht in a bad way
but Everything for Allah is first ! :)
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akhi My Point is if you lower your gaze in the west and the lady is wearing a mini skirt
:) then it will depend entirely on your niyat .

So lowering the gaze in alot of situations of this fitna filled world is Very difficult .
 
Re: Do u look at opposite gender?

Assalamu'Alaykum

Subhanallah. it think its more safer in the winter time for muslim brother... women are moer covered. Alhamdulillaah its easy for me too look away even if i dont i cant see anything anyway since i wear niqab and i have the all the Flaps down... so i cant see anyone...Although as i was growing up if someone was talking to me i had the habit of looking at their mouth move... :-[ otherwise i wont fully comprehend what was being said to me but alhamdulillaah now i have trained myself to cope but... its still kinda hard.. has anyone heard of this before...or am i just weird? :'(
 
Re: Do u look at opposite gender?

al faqeer said:
akhi My Point is if you lower your gaze in the west and the lady is wearing a mini skirt
:) then it will depend entirely on your niyat .

So lowering the gaze in alot of situations of this fitna filled world is Very difficult .
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im gonna have to go with bro al faqeer on this one, its almost unavoidable but "ina mal 3amal bin niyat", its your intentions that counts, this whole thing of saying that

"ITS NOT IMPOSSIBLE !!!! "

You cant say that for everyone, some people have jobs or occupations which involve with dealing a lot of people, so therefore, yes, sometimes it is possible, sometimes it isnt, dont generalise, but remember Allah doesnt account you for something you cant avoid.
 
Re: Do u look at opposite gender?

its not impossible, once you get use to lowering your gaze then it becomes easier for you to not look at the opposite gender
 
Re: Do u look at opposite gender?

metsudaistwice said:
its not impossible, once you get use to lowering your gaze then it becomes easier for you to not look at the opposite gender
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lets say your a doctor who treats tens and tens of patients everyday, you have to listen to their diagnosis, treat them with medicine...... impossible?
 
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yes bro zak that is so true the more you have taqwa the better
 
Re: Do u look at opposite gender?

Alhamdulillah i go to a girls school but nxt year inshallah i'll be going to college, so i dont think i'll have a choice, but i'll make sure i'll keep my modesty and keep my head down at all times! :)
 
Re: Do u look at opposite gender?

ok sis inshallah you will contain your modesty and allow other girls to be encouraged by you
 

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