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Re: Gender Segregation

Assalamu Alaikum

Ya ukhati, as Muslims, we have to protect each other from fitnah as well as keeping ourselves from fitnah. Mashallah, one may be very strong in his iman and is able to refrain from many evil and sinful acts, but do not always think that you can escape shaytan, for he is everywhere a believer is, and he is always trying to tempt him to do actions that will displease Allah.

"…Help you one another in Al-Birr and At-Taqwa (virtue, righteousness and piety); but do not help one another in sin and transgression. And fear Allâh. Verily, Allâh is Severe in punishment." [5:2]

Segregation is one of the aspects in Islam that distinguishes us from the Nonbelievers/NonMuslims. A brother who is found to have many sister companions, friends, or having loose contact with them, is not percieved by others as an ideal Muslim if percieved as a Muslim at all. His religion isn't illuminating compared to a brother who is found around other brothers, discussing in intellectual conversations, lowering his gaze, etc. who would be considered more distinguishable as a Muslim than one who is surrounded by females. A sister who is around brothers, in society is not even seen as modest. Nor would I ever think that there is a possiblity fitnah isn't occuring, be it in the mind or physical.

Another important lesson to note is that we have complete power over our own actions, but we do not have any power over someone else's actions and/or intentions. You may not feel anything for your friend, but Allahu a'lem what they feel for you.

Can any of those who disagree with segregation give more than one good reasons of why it can be a positive influence in one's life?? Once you think about it, you will realize that your reasons are more for desire of this world than for the seeking pleasure of Allah.

May Allah guide us all ameen.

fi aman Allah
w'salaam
 
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Re: Sisters wearing tight &revealing clothes

Yes sis you did well! May you both be rewarded!
As for the colored Hijab, well I personally think Allah wants us to be modest but not drab and pariah like. I don't see anything wrong with wearing colors that put a smile on your face? My niece loves pink, I don't think I have ever seen her not wear pink and I am almost certain I won't see her without it as she grows older? It is a color that makes me gag personally, but it is a part of who she is. I would be very upset if someone approached her one day and told her that pink hijab attracts attention, and that she is a sinner because of it! You can keep your individual style without compromising your ethics. Nothing wrong with wearing your favorite colors!
Allah knows best
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Re: Sisters wearing tight &revealing clothes

ya_Giney said:
i had a sister come up to me and say that my hijabs were slightly bright and catches attention, is there something wrong with wearing bright scarfs? i'm dressing it down tho, i'm trying to wear black and browns buts its hard!
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Nah, colour is okay! Especially because everyone else wears colour too so it doesn't stand out as much... however if you were wearing a bright orange outfit at a gathering where everyone was wearing duller not so bright colours, er then that might be a problem... if you get what I mean.:)

p.s. to the original poster, mashaallah you did well, you have guts to do that. You did nothing wrong... unfortunately that is the kind of reply one should expect when advising someone about hijab... no one wants to here that they are wearing it wrong.:(
 
Re: Sisters wearing tight &revealing clothes

in general red,green,blue,.... these type of colors receive peoples' attention, so it's better to avoid them wearing
 
Re: Sisters wearing tight &revealing clothes

AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh,

May Allah forgive you both,

i think you done the correct thing any Muslim sister would do, help bring her on the correct path, so mashaAllah

I also understand why the sister got upset, she did not realise that you were aiming to help her, instead all she thought was that you were telling her to do something, and no one likes being told what to do,

It may be that she later realised your point and decided to dress sensibly like a Muslimah should, i hope she did anyways inshaAllah

Don't get to stressed over this you were only doing what you thought was best,

All the best InshaAllah

Take care !

-Tj x :)
 
salam ok maybe i am just overreacting but the problem is that a few brothers in my college seem to be having a big staring problem, it never really bothered me till today:cry:
i finished my lesson and was walking out about 5 brothers (who act kind pious(pray all the time) were standing at the gates i had to pass them, and 1 of them made a comment to the others(and kind of laughed, he is meant to be the pious 1:enough!: ) and as i was walking by they stared soo much, i tried to ignore it but i cant explain the feeling it was as if they were hurting me with their eyes my lips went sooo dry i couldnt walk properly and yes i made a fool of myself.
they knew i was really really uncomfortable. I am really upset by this:(
i always though of myself as being a confident person and didnt care what others did but this got to me. and the annoying thing is i am going to see them all again tomorrow.
why are they acting like this?
jazakallah khair for reading this pathetic lil story
 
Re: brothers.staring :(

Do they have a reason for staring at you?

Maybe you could take an alternative route in future, to avoid them.
 
Re: brothers.staring :(

dont know sis :? i see them inside the college the most it neved bothered me but today it did i was by myself and there was 6 of them and felt really intimidated
 
Re: brothers.staring :(

very difficult dilemma sis...

why wud a pious brother look at u and gang up?....seriously....arent they forgetting the means of "lowering their gaze".....ya Allah...

why wud they do such thing?...do u knw them?

wots the issue?...there must be darn reason?...jus ignore and take a diff route as the sister above sed.....or just tell them...give them proper islamic lecture....even thou i wud never take that approach...
 
Re: brothers.staring :(

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dont know sis :? i see them inside the college the most it neved bothered me but today it did i was by myself and there was 6 of them and felt really intimidated
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How can i say this in a nice way, hmm: some guys are jerks.

There isn't much else i can say to you on this. Either ignore them, take a different route or confront them. InshaAllah somebody else will be able to help you out.
 
Re: brothers.staring :(

sister i havent done anything to them i swear i never even spoke to them once!! there are sooooooo many *practising brothers* who all hang out together i respected them before the staring started i feel really low it might sound silly but i do. i would never give them a lecture i dont even want to talk to them ever. jazakallah khair fo the advice​
 
Re: brothers.staring :(

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I feel for you sis, and trust me almost every sister has experienced something similar, if not worse.

Did you hear the comment he made? Maybe then you could find out why he's staring at you.
 
Re: brothers.staring :(

salamualikum.
^ well said :D, if not then just ingore them && you look down don't look at them the more your gonna take notice of them the more they gonna seek attention so best thing to do is don't bother looking at them, isn't there another way you can walk from? if not then just ingore them ''lower ya gaze'' if they can't manage to do that then ya allah am sure you can inshallah.
Ma'assalama
 

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