so my question is: how do you non Muslims go through hardships..i mean whats your motivation to keep you patient, etc...
Good question! I don't know. In the end the hardship we suffer is the same, but religion might indeed provide comfort, especially when you lose family members or friends. Atheists might not have a benevolent deity to fall back on, but I would think that other religions, such as Christianity, offer the same level of comfort to their believers.
The humanist response would of course be to put your faith in fellow human beings at such times of hardship and not in a (from our perspective) non-existent deity. Putting energy in a fantasy is not going to help. But not all atheists are humanists of course.
More broadly the non-believers perspective would IMHO be that this one life is all we got, so we better make the best of it and live it to our fullest. We are in control of our own life, not at the mercy of a deity that is "testing" us. Nevertheless, like religious people I would think that most non-believers believe that to a large extend it is our own actions and choices that determine how we end up in life, whether we find happiness or not. In my opinion life is a constant quest to improve yourself, not to please a deity, but because of the belief that good actions and good behavior are the path to personal happiness, as it will be reciprocated and simply because we as social and empathic creatures feel better when doing good.
All said and done though, I do think religious people who believe in divine intervention and an afterlife are at an advantage when dealing with hardship. Note though that from my perspective it is a choice between believing in a fantasy (ie. being misguided and believing there is deity out there that is looking out for you) or facing the cold hard truth. Mind you, I don't really see anything wrong with embracing a fantasy if it really shields me from pains I would otherwise not be able to handle (or would I?). But it simply isn't an option when you don't believe.
But lets be honest here, I don't know! I've never been a Muslim, so I can't really compare! Are religious people happier because their religion helps them overcome times of hardship? I don't know! Does it mean non-religious people have a higher chance of falling into, say, a depression after a major set back? Or maybe people who think they need more comfort to deal with hardships are also more likely to become religious, exactly because they seek that 'comfort', they seek something that many atheists simply don't seek. Again, I don't really know. In the end how someone deals with hardship is so incredibly depended on the individual in question, it depends on someones character and their personal situation, both of which are about a lot more than someones religious beliefs.
