Serious Issue with my middle brother

[Islamicboy]

As Salam Alykum...

I knew 3 people similar one of them did drugs had no respect for the religion of islam. But he did not know anything about islam after my dad took the time to teach him alhumdillaah he is a really good muslim today. My brother who is also the middle one is similar to your brother but instead of attacking him or isolating him i just took the time to remind him of death. Trust me reminding a person of his death and showing Allaah S.W.T signs actually do help alot. Well it worked for me alhumdillaah he is trying to be good muslims he prays most of his prayers now... there was another person i knew who was addicted to pornography i really told him about death etc.. but he was addicted even if he did try then the next thing he would go back to it. But after watching him i found out that the major problem with him was he watched television a lot specailly music videos. After i told him to try avoiding television alhumdillaah he does his best now... Inshallaah Hopefully one of those work for you brother..

 

[bint_muhammed]

my cousin came from london to visit for the day, and we were talking, and he told me a story that his friend who has converted told him! his friend got it of news or something he even had pictures. it was this 18yr old boy from lebonam who dies. and when he was buried the doctor insisted they wanted to do him a post mortem so after 3 hours they took him out of the grave, and they found him really old, honestly his hair was all white, his ribs were interlocked with one another like someone has squashed him, his legs and arms were broken and his kafan was ripped in pieces. the people were so shocked that he only died of a disease, and was buried for maximum of 3 hours. when they investigated in it they found he was non-practicing brother, and had very weak iman! maybe you should tell your brother about this! i'll try and find you the article!

 

[Daffodil]

What I would like to know is whose paying for the internet in ur house? does ur bro work, does he pay rent to ur parents? who gives him the money for the food, sell his computer sell his music his tv sell everything, he needs to learn to be responsible, before its too late, because most guys like ur bro get a sudden reality check wen they go to prison or something n by that time it might be too late or he might get a chance to improve n then hell realise he cant carry on the way hes doing n so will start sorting himself out but ur parents are being too lenient with him, ur bro isnt the head of the house so he needs to stop acting like he is, stop all his entertainment n if he starts getting violent tell him to go find his own place.

also waht u can do is stick him in the boot of ur dads car n dump him in some masjid n lock the door or dump it at the murcus or something n let them sort him out.

 

[limitless]

Thank you for all your great advises, but I am affraid it is mostly my parents fault at this. They are way too kind and compassionate. I would kick him out of the house after three strikes; however, my mom is just way toooooo compassionate so she doesn't want to do this, but expects him to "leave the house" on his own. Only Allah (swt) can help him now.

 

[Kittygyal]

I think I know a solution. If I can find out where my brother's current girlfriend lives in my city and go up to her parents or herself and tell her about Islam and religion values and how brother is then she might leave him or her parents. And this might help? No/yes?

Also, I just recently found out that he has been going to these kafar Islamic sites and asftaguallah. It was saying how muslims hate kafars and how Islam is wrong and so many horrrible things. I can't believe he reads that! My brother did find out about this site when I showing my mom some article, but he did or not go on. He is becoming an evil man! He reads false stuff about islam! One line said "Where in Qu'ran says that non-muslims will burn in Hell of fire! and suffer!" thats just one of them there was too much and I stopped reading. I felt anger urging inside me.

brother,
please don't do such a thing like i said and some of the members not to do anything apart from pray for him, we all know at times we feel very angry and want to do something but the more you are going to go after him the more he is going to become evil and don't bother going to his gyalfriends house as that would turn out bad also you need to think in such away brother that it doesn't harm others family if you go to his gyalfriends family then don't you thinkin it will turn out bad :hmm: am not some kinda big fish maybe i am acting like one please forgave me if i am but am trying my best to help also i want to say never spy on him cause now you have noticed what he gets up to and i know it has brocken your heart and your family's but therefore if you spy on him and he finds out then he is going to do it more, always bare in mind God is there to help you all and please don't put your self in a shoe cause it will be hard to get it back out to be put in a small shoe, i hope everything goes well brother and i will remember your brother and your family in my prayers

May God lead him to the right path and forbid the evil (amin)

 

[Kittygyal]

Thank you for all your great advises, but I am affraid it is mostly my parents fault at this. They are way too kind and compassionate. I would kick him out of the house after three strikes; however, my mom is just way toooooo compassionate so she doesn't want to do this, but expects him to "leave the house" on his own. Only Allah (swt) can help him now.

brother please don't think it's your parents fault never think such a thing, you need to bare in mind that your parents are doing the good for him and also being kind to him well basically so he doesn't harm anyone and also she doesn't want her OWN son to be out of the house she still loves him from the bottom of the heart it's her SON maybe she feels angry,upset now cause what he is doing but then again she bought him up and it's not easy to raise a child so therefore she is maybe laying all the attention oon him percilsy to find out why he is doing such a thing and trying to figure out whats wrong and also to get him close to his parents

brother please take it easy and don't worry God is the one whom can help him

 

[Sabbir_1]

problem child

assalamualakum

im sorry to hear about your bro.. may allah guide him. inshallah.. there have been muslims in worse situations than ur bro and have alhamdulliah turened back to the deen. so dont lose hope have faith inshallah allah will guide him..
have you tried to talk to him.. not personally but have a few people with you and tell him about islam teach him.

there has to be someone that he is scared of why u all afraid of him he cant be that scary..im guessing he must be 18 or 19 cuz he goes to college. why dont u gang up up against him put some fear in the kid.. give him a good beating without anyone knowing hopefully he will learn his lesson.

try to disconnect his internet or damage his pc without him knowing this is obviously causing the trouble wid him. get someone who is good wiod computers and mes it up when his out.

inshallah i hope it all works out for you.

wasalaam.

 

[Sabbir_1]

Re: Serious Issue

 

[limitless]

No brother. Were not scared of him, but of the neighbours. He yells and etc. And he is 24. also we cant discconect internet other people needed like me and my brother. I could damage his comp, but he'll know since im the best with computers and everyone knows that. Anyway, inshallah Allahwill guide him.

 

[Kittygyal]

No brother. Were not scared of him, but of the neighbours. He yells and etc. And he is 24. also we cant discconect internet other people needed like me and my brother. I could damage his comp, but he'll know since im the best with computers and everyone knows that. Anyway, inshallah Allahwill guide him.

Amin brother thats why "life is a test" and it's will of Allah Ya Allah lead us All to the right path (amin) we need to be paience :'(

 

[limitless]

Amin brother thats why "life is a test" and it's will of Allah Ya Allah lead us All to the right path (amin) we need to be paience :'(

Couldn't have said it better, subnallah sister. Allah will eventually guide him to the righteous path, I just need to have patience now and keep praying for him. Inshallah he will change.

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