talking to girl

[qassy!]

I won't claim to have much knowledge about the universities in London, as I never attended one there. How ever, I attended several Universities around the world and I found that there are girls like that in all of them. the truth is it takes two people. You can not have girls like that without there being boys like that. It takes both in order for either to be.

Early habits are very difficult to get rid of. During our younger years we make the mistake of thinking that pleasure is happiness. Ambrose Briece once wrote:
"A debauchee is a man who engaged in the pursuit of happiness so well, he had the misfortune of overtaking it."

What that all means is that when we place pleasure as our goal we loose our perspective of happiness and we will choose pleasure over happiness. Pleasure is very temporary and our young age pleasures have a bad tendency to turn against us in just a very short number of years. what you see as pleasure today are going to be the source of great pain and distress by the time you reach 30 years old. It is indeed a pain full burden to look at the destroyed lives of young woman, then realize you are part of the tool of destruction that ruined their lives.

Salam bro

I see what your saying the uni part i tend to disagree our college took us 2 luton uni ( away from london) and the girls are marshallahf diffrent all where hijabs etc etc

and one of the girls asked us, how are the girls in London? I went on eid and i was shocked they have no respect for them selves.

also

You say its painful 2 see a girls life destructed in 30 years? correct? ad to found out i was involved in ruining? her life? correct?

 

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:salamext:

What u on about qassy! bro?

 

[teen-omar]

sallam
i got one question
i'm almost in the same situation as qassy, and i know how hard it is to stop talking to other girls, especially since i am also trying to change into the right path. but i have one question though: would it be allowed for me to tell one of the muslims sisters to cover up her hair, when for example the headscarve has moved on her head, and hair can be seen from her head?? or shall i just wait for someb other sister to say it to her
wassalam

 

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:salamext:

I think (although I'm no scholar so don't take my word on this) you are allowed to talk to her and tell her, as it is for religious purposes.

 

[teen-omar]

hmmmm..... ok let's see what the other people say, cuz i don't want to be doing something wrong

 

[Umm Hurairah]

sallam
i got one question
i'm almost in the same situation as qassy, and i know how hard it is to stop talking to other girls, especially since i am also trying to change into the right path. but i have one question though: would it be allowed for me to tell one of the muslims sisters to cover up her hair, when for example the headscarve has moved on her head, and hair can be seen from her head?? or shall i just wait for someb other sister to say it to her
wassalam

Waalaikumusalaam Waramatullahi Wabarakatu,

You can talk to her about it as long as you keep your gaze lowered and throughout the whole conversation make sure one of her Mahrams is present Insha Allah.

It would be better if your sister did it but that doesn't mean you can't do it Allahu 3lim.

 

[teen-omar]

n wat if she doesnt have a mahram present??
but i also cant wait for very long fir a sister to tell her that her hair is uncovered, cuz in the mean time people will be able to look at her hair without her noticing it.
so i'm just being a bit protective inshallah

 

[Umm Hurairah]

n wat if she doesnt have a mahram present??
but i also cant wait for very long fir a sister to tell her that her hair is uncovered, cuz in the mean time people will be able to look at her hair without her noticing it.
so i'm just being a bit protective inshallah

Asalaamualaikum Waramatullahi Wabarakatu,

Then I'm pretty sure you won't be allowed to talk to her according to Islam.

Masha Allah your intentions are good so why don't you get your sister/mother/friend's sister to do it? It might delay it a day or two but at least you won't be committing any sin.

 

[teen-omar]

i don't think u get what i mean 100%
what i'm saying is that the sister does wear hijab properly, but sometimes it happens by accident that the hijab is moving and some of her hair is uncovered. and i can't get my mother/sister or friends to tell her that, because i am in school, and if i would be telling one of my friends to tell her that even though he is a boy, than wouldnt it be haram for her to talk to him??
and i also can't say it to other girls, because it would be haram for me to do so right?

 

[Umm Hurairah]

i don't think u get what i mean 100%
what i'm saying is that the sister does wear hijab properly, but sometimes it happens by accident that the hijab is moving and some of her hair is uncovered. and i can't get my mother/sister or friends to tell her that, because i am in school, and if i would be telling one of my friends to tell her that even though he is a boy, than wouldnt it be haram for her to talk to him??
and i also can't say it to other girls, because it would be haram for me to do so right?

Asalaamualaikum Waramatullahi Wabarakatu,

Oh okay now I understand...I can't tell you what to do as I'm not a Mufti. You should ask your Imam if possible or you can ask scholars on the net.

 

[Woodrow]

Asalaamualaikum Waramatullahi Wabarakatu,

Then I'm pretty sure you won't be allowed to talk to her according to Islam.

Masha Allah your intentions are good so why don't you get your sister/mother/friend's sister to do it? It might delay it a day or two but at least you won't be committing any sin.

I believe what Br. Teen-Omar is speaking of is what if he sees a Sister and for some reason her Hijab became dislodged and her hair can be seen, but she is not aware of it. Could he speak to her and point it out or should he just leave her walking around not knowing her hair is exposed?

 

[teen-omar]

exactly woodrow, that's what i mean
i myself am not too sure about it, so that's why i'm askin for advice

 

[Al-Zaara]

Could he speak to her and point it out or should he just leave her walking around not knowing her hair is exposed?

Selam aleykum, brother omar,

Of course you gotta point it out if no one else has done it already! She might not notice it until she's at home and that's embarrassing I tell you! Do it just as you pass by and say it politely, no need to discuss it further. There's no haram in that, it would be ridicilous.

 

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:salamext:

Plus the talking is for an Islamic purpose.

 

[teen-omar]

o ok than allhamdullah
thanks for the help brothers and especially sisters
wassalam

 

[qassy!]

sallam
i got one question
i'm almost in the same situation as qassy, and i know how hard it is to stop talking to other girls, especially since i am also trying to change into the right path. but i have one question though: would it be allowed for me to tell one of the muslims sisters to cover up her hair, when for example the headscarve has moved on her head, and hair can be seen from her head?? or shall i just wait for someb other sister to say it to her
wassalam

Salam Bruv!

Bruv just dont talk 2 girls full stop. Its easier try not to make no contact or start convo then they find you rude and blank you. (Makes like easier)

+ your girl freinds just try not to talk 2 them i know its sooooo hard :'(


Salam

 

[aminahjaan]

normal ? hahahaha. dude just try to cut the convos short an sweet, like

"Hello?"
"ay boiii wassup?"

"The sky, yo my moms calling me peace"
ahahhahaah

and if that doesn't push them off then go, uhh I have to say, I respect you and thats why I really can't talk to you like that. I'm putting God as my first priority, So I'd appreciate it if we didnt hang out, I mean we can still say hi and stuff but you know don't have time for all that fancy stuff

 

[qassy!]

normal ? hahahaha. dude just try to cut the convos short an sweet, like

"Hello?"
"ay boiii wassup?"

"The sky, yo my moms calling me peace"
ahahhahaah

and if that doesn't push them off then go, uhh I have to say, I respect you and thats why I really can't talk to you like that. I'm putting God as my first priority, So I'd appreciate it if we didnt hang out, I mean we can still say hi and stuff but you know don't have time for all that fancy stuff

I know ive explained 2 my girl freind I cant carry on any more. She was so hacked off.

I mean bruv i know what you saying but its really diffcult I go 2 college in london, etc etc

BUT i am trying my best serious

When I hang out wiv mates i dont sit next 2 girls anymore (I try not 2)

and I dont walk home with any of them (I try not 2)

and when I play cricket none of them come and watch me because I dont tell them I have matches eace:

 

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:salamext:

I know ive explained 2 my girl freind I cant carry on any more. She was so hacked off.

Lol Subhaan Allaah, at least you did the right thing.

 

[rozeena]

Salam Bruv!

Bruv just dont talk 2 girls full stop. Its easier try not to make no contact or start convo then they find you rude and blank you. (Makes like easier)




Salam

lol yeh dat is soooooooooooooooooo true if u dnt wnt da oposite gender 2 talk 2 u den best 2 ignore em den dey shud get da message dt u dnt wana knw em n nt botha u again.lol n it wrks aswell try it !