the idea of shmexz and shmomance and love....me hating it!

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trust me you cant imagine my startle while writing this down. this is so embarassing and disgusting but i thought i should ask this question before you guys get to know me any better..
so whatever i'm about say might sound absurd to you but i'm speaking ill of this stuff because of my personnal experiences...
so what the thing is, is that i hate the idea of love and shmotance and shmexzz(i hope you're getting what i'm trying to say)
it fills me with loathing
i dont understand how people can be like ooo i've fallen in love and then after a day...pfff..nothing happened..


i dont understand why do we have to get married???whats so interesting about this shmotance? why do we have to have shmexx? doesn't that sound disgusting to you?
just saying shmexx makes me go like bhakhhhh plakh pffhh and i have to go to do toothbrush! and if someone mentions this it makes me +o(+o(!


i dont want any explanations as it would be reaaaally akward but just answer me if "yes" or "no" me thinnking of it this way is haram?


so is this haram?
 
:wa:

What is wrong with having a best friend, to be there for you in your hard times, happy times and live together forever in Jannah :D :ia:.
 
farhan said:
:wa:

What is wrong with having a best friend, to be there for you in your hard times, happy times and live together forever in Jannah :D :ia:.
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umm i dont think there's such a thing as best friend for me:hmm: there's no one by my side in bad times.....why do i need them ?

anyways so is it haram to ..like i mean me thinking that way?
 
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Meentajir said:
umm i dont think there's such a thing as best friend for me:hmm:

anyways so is it haram to ..like i mean me thinking that way?
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Maybe you'r one of those people who like their own company.

I think thats fine, if you'r content with it.:D
 
Umm Abed said:
Maybe you'r one of those people who like their own company.

I think thats fine, if you'r content with it.:D
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no its not like that..yeah i prefer my own company but because everybody hates me or lets just say people will keep saying whatever they like but my mom thinks i'm a mistake and my brother thinks this world would be a better place if i kill myself.
all the boys my age will be one day like...i like you and the other day they'll tell the whole school how bad i am!
i find all this stuff meaning less. my grandparents are divorced and so are my parents(not sure but they broke up when i was 3).
i feel like everyone's just faking it until they find something bad about their "best friend" and then the drama is over!

thanks anyways! thanks alot!
 
You are young sister, you may change your way of thinking, you may not . It is not fardh to get married, but it is Sunnah.

To be honest I find Islam's take on love beautiful - no stupid failed relationships beforehand or months of dating. You get married to someone, love them for the sake of Allah, inshaAllah spend the rest of your life with them and help one another in the Deen, entering Jannah together one day. I am a hopeless romantic but I so want that in my life. :D
 
May Allah swt grant you what is best and make you righteous..

You might change your mind in the future :) Companionship from the opposite gender is what humans naturally desire, and Islam encourages marriage so think good of it and remember not all marriages are the same, everything is Qadr of Allah, make loads of dua to Allah azzawajal.
 
ok ok i get it is blah blah blah
but you didn't answer: if me is thinking about shmex and shomance that way, is it haram? or you have to be like no no no no....

again please dont explain to me as it would be really awkward...
so is it haram?
 
:wasalamex

What is there to be disgusted about? I assume you are speaking about romance and s.e.x?

How old are you?
 
No, it's not haram from what I know. As I said, marriage is not fardh (but is it Sunnah :D).
 
Meentajir said:
mam the whole idea or concept of it sounds disgusting to me!
yhasss i am...:embarrass

i am 14 years old
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Your mindset will change as you grow older. By the looks of the way you type, you probably haven't matured yet.
When you mature, you will think differently.
 
~ Sabr ~ said:


Your mindset will change as you grow older. By the looks of the way you type, you probably haven't matured yet.
When you mature, you will think differently.
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sister i had the same mindset four years back....i dont think i'm going to change....
all my classmates are already growing so fast and i'm just there like why do we have to fall in love???
i'm 14, not 7! shouldn't have grown up by now?
i guess if i haven't then i wont ...ever....
 
Meentajir said:
sister i had the same mindset four years back....i dont think i'm going to change....
all my classmates are already growing so fast and i'm just there like why do we have to fall in love???
i'm 14, not 7! shouldn't have grown up by now?
i guess if i haven't then i wont ...ever....
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Let me put this is a straight and simple answer. When you start menstruating, your thoughts will change.
 
~ Sabr ~ said:


Let me put this is a straight and simple answer. When you start menstruating, your thoughts will change.
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imsad that was embarassing.............so embarassing.........
already did a year back!
no change!

please dont lecture me on all that...this is so mortifying ....i gathered guts to ask some senior students at my school and they wasted my whole p.e class lecturing me........
i came here for a simple answer in yes or no....why do people have to keep explaining ????
YES or NO?

looking forward to edit my post as soon as i get a reply.....:-[
 
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:salam:

Just don't think about it. The time will come, In shaa' Allah. And Allah knows best whether He will will that or not.
 
Serinity said:
:salam:

Just don't think about it. The time will come, In shaa' Allah. And Allah knows best whether He will will that or not.
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how do i ....not think about something i am thinking about, or the whole world around me is thinking about?:embarrass^o):heated:
 
Meentajir said:
how do i ....not think about something i am thinking about, or the whole world around me is thinking about?:embarrass^o):heated:
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you don't think about it, simple. Or perhaps the fact that you think about it...... hm.. Just don't think about it?
 

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