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Abu Yahya Suhaib bin Sinan (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said,

"How wonderful is the case of a believer; there is good for him in everything and this applies only to a believer. If prosperity attends him, he expresses gratitude to Allah and that is good for him; and if adversity befalls him, he endures it patiently and that is better for him".

[Muslim].

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Anas (May Allah be pleased with him) said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) saying,

"Allah, the Glorious and Exalted said: `When I afflict my slave in his two dear things (i.e., his eyes), and he endures patiently, I shall compensate him for them with Jannah.".

[Al-Bukhari].

Commentary: Blindness is the greatest deprivation in the world and Allah grants its reward according to His Pleasure. For this reason patience in this case is highly meritorious. Its reward is Jannah provided the blind is enormously rich in Faith.
 
Abu Sa`id and Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (PBUH) said:

"Never a believer is stricken with a discomfort, an illness, an anxiety, a grief or mental worry or even the pricking of a thorn but Allah will expiate his sins on account of his patience".

[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

i jus love this hadith..jus makes u go awwwwwwwwwwwww and :D bcoz Allah (swt) is just sooo merciful and just sooooo kind!
 
Ibn Qayyim al Jawziyyah mentioned three types of patience:

1-Patience in performing what Allah made obligatory.


2- Patience in avoiding what Allah made unlawful.


3- Patience with hardships and calamities.

The first type of patience is when a person works constantly to fulfill obligations and to do righteous deeds. With that said, Allah (S.W.T) commands His servants in the Noble Qur'an what could be translated as,

“Lord of the heavens and the earth, and all that is between them, so worship Him and be constant and patient in His worship.” (Verse 65) Surah Maryam.

Similarly, Allah (S.W.T.) says in the Noble Qur'an what could be translated as,

“And enjoin prayer on your family, and be patient in offering them.”
(Verse 132) Surah Taha.

The messengers of Allah needed great patience in order to fulfill their obligations of conveying the message and fixing the conditions of individuals and society. Without this patience, they could not succeed in their tasks. Therefore, Allah (S.W.T.) commanded to the Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) in the Noble Qur'an, what could be translated as,

“Therefore be patient [O Muhammad] as did the Messengers of strong will.” (Verse 35) Surah Al-Ahqaf.

Likewise, patience is needed when dealing with Muslims and righteous people. Using patience, a person can fulfill his obligations toward people. Although they may harm you, you must use patience with them. Thus, Allah (S.W.T.) says in the Noble Qur'an what could be translated as,

“And keep yourself [O Muhammad] patiently with those who call on their Lord [your companions].”
(Verse 28) Surah Al-Kahf.

The prophet (S.A.W) said,

“It is better for you to mix yourself around people who may harm you, and to be patient with them, then it is to isolate yourself from them, and to not practice patience from their harm.”

Also, a Muslim who is fighting for the cause of Allah (S.W.T) needs much patience. Hence, Allah (S.W.T.) says in the Noble Qur'an what could be translated as,

“But if you remain patient and be pious, not the least harm will their cunning do to you.” (Verse 120) Surah Al-Imran.


The second type of patience is when a person abstains from prohibited acts and from evil. Abstaining from prohibited acts requires a great struggle against one's desires, and takes much patience in refraining from the evil influences of Satan among man and Satan among Jinn. Therefore, Allah (S.W.T.) will give great rewards on the Day of Judgment to those who patiently abstained from evil.

The Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) told us about the people who will receive a special reward:

“Seven are (the persons) whom Allah would give protection with His shade on the day when there would be no shade but His shade (i.e., on the Day of Judgment) and among them: a youth who grew up with the worship of Allah, …a man whom an extremely beautiful woman seduces (for illicit relation), but he rejected this offer by saying: I fear Allah….” {Imams Bukhari and Muslim}

Prophet Yusuf (S.A.W.) is another example of a person who abstained patiently from the evil lure of the wife of the King of Egypt. Prophet Yusuf chose incarceration for several years rather than committing an evil act.

The third type of patience is when a person practices patience during times of hardship without complaints. One must not complain because Allah (S.W.T.) predestines their hardship.

This is the fruit of believing in predestination. Predestination is one of the pillars of faith. Allah (S.W.T.) said in the Noble Qur'an what could be translated as,

“No calamity befalls, but with the leave (decision and Qadar (Divine Preordainment) of Allah.” (Verse 11) Surah At-Taghabun.

People who are trying to be patient during hardship should not just sit around and do nothing to help out their bad conditions. Instead, a Muslim must be patient, yet ease his hardship by all lawful means. There are some tools that Allah has made lawful for us to use to fight against hardship. Therefore, we should make use of these means to relieve ourselves from these hardships.

The believer knows that Allah (S.W.T.) predestined hardship for man by His Greater Wisdom. And Allah (S.W.T.) will reward the believer for his patience during hardship, by wiping out sins and lifting him up to higher levels of Paradise.

Allah (S.W.T.) says in the Noble Qur'an, what could be translated as,

“And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Saabireen (the patient). Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: “Truly! To Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return. And they are those who are blessed and they are those who receive His Mercy, and it is they who are the guided-ones.” (Verses 155 to 157) Surah Al-Baqarah.

Also, the prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) said:

“How wonderful is the situation of a believer; there is good for him in everything and this is not the case with any one except a believer. If prosperity attends him, he expresses gratitude to Allah and that is good for him; and if adversity befalls him, he endures it patiently and that is better for him.”{Imaam Muslim}

In another hadith, the prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) said:

“Never a believer is stricken with a discomfort, an illness, an anxiety, a grief or mental worry or even the pricking of a thorn that his sins are removed for him.”
{Bukhari and Muslim}

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A beautiful du'aa...

“I only complain of my distraction and anguish to Allâh.” (Yûsuf 12:86)
 
^ way'aaeeki ^

The next points are taken from a non-Muslim website although they can be applied to the life of a Muslim Inshaa'Allaah:

By being impatient you can:

Run the risk of always being dissatisfied, upset, and angry at yourself for your slow pace of growth and change.

Easily lose your control and fire off outbursts of anger, temper, and blame on those who are slow to change and grow.

Become a member of the ``throw away'' generation, discarding relationships, people, jobs, and school whenever things are not working out as quickly as you want them to.

Waste energy worrying about how slow things are changing instead of directing that energy toward the changes you desire.

Withdraw prematurely from a helping situation because you are not seeing an immediate pay off for your efforts.

Turn off the others in your life who want to support you, but whom you offend by accusing them (when change is slow) of ``not helping you enough.''

Sacrifice friendships and relationships prematurely because the other person is not changing as quickly or as thoroughly as you desire.

Ignore all of the positive gains you and others have made on the road to recovery and growth, only concentrating on what has not yet been accomplished.

Become pessimistic about life, seeing only the ``half empty cup'' rather than the ``half filled cup.''

Be in such a hurry that you neglect to count your blessings and see how far you have come.

Burn yourself out in the pursuit of your goals.

Lose the ability to reward or reinforce any level of success or attainment, discouraging yourself and others in the pursuit of recovery and growth.

Lose the ability to take a large goal and break it down into manageable increments.

Become overwhelmed by the large tasks ahead of you and lose the hope and motivation to keep on trying.
 
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I really like this thread. :) I think the Mods should make it a 'sticky' seeing as it's an ongoing thread?

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^Wayaa'eeki ukhtee^
Relating to something can sometimes be the first step in making a change...

Once again, this list is taken from a non-Muslim source, though true nonetheless:

Characteristics of the Impatient

agitated

ignored

frustrated

resentful

forgotten

anxious

burned out

misdirected

tense

over stressed

misunderstood

nervous

ill tempered

over responsible
 
Some common statements used by impatient people...


I should be able to do this faster and better than what I am.

They should understand me the first time and not need me to repeat myself.

Why should it take so long and so much effort to change and grow?

I have so much to accomplish I'll never be able to do it all.

There is no way that I can ever be helped to change. I am an impossible case.

There is a right way and a wrong way to do things. Why is it that everyone I come in contact with chooses the wrong way?

Why can't they change quicker than what they are?

All people should be as excited about the desire to grow and change as I am.

If I can change and grow, you should be equally changing and growing.

I want this done yesterday.

It makes no difference how far along I am if I have not accomplished my target goals.

I can't stand such things as diets, counseling, physical therapy, allergy desensitization, and orthodontics; they all take too long before results are visible.

I would rather get a job now than go through four years of college. That way I can make more money in my lifetime.

I am trying to change, but you keep on falling back into your old habits; that must mean you aren't trying as hard as I am.

Every time I have a setback or a relapse I get mad at myself for taking so long to grow and change.

I can't stand things being out of order. It makes me nervous and upset with such disarray.

I must be perfect so you must be perfect; if we are not, it must be because we don't want it to work out.

There I go again, falling back into my old habits just when I thought I had them licked. This isn't the way it is supposed to be.

I could never accomplish my goal of growth and change, so there is no use in even getting started.

Sometimes, we all lack patience, or exercise a little bit of impatience. So it is important to distinguish between someone who is impatient and someone who can show impatience.

The three steps to combat negative traits...

1. Acknowledge (the trait)...... 2. Identify (what, who, how, why, when stages. Find the cause of the trait) ..... 3. Change...... (overcome the trait step-by-step)

Though this needs a great deal of patience!
 
The Virtues of Patience

Imâm Ahmad (d.241H) said:

“Allâh has mentioned sabr (patient perseverance) in over ninety places in His Book.” [2]


And there occurs in the authentic hadîth:


“Sabr (patient perseverance) is light.” [3]


The Prophet sallallâhu ’alayhi wa sallam also said:


“No one has been given anything more excellent and more comprehensive than sabr.” [4]


’Umar - radiallâhu ’anhu - said:


“We considered the best part of our lives to be that in which there was sabr.” [5]


’Alî - radiallâhu ’anhu - said:


“Indeed sabr is from îmân (faith). Its position is like that of the head with respect to the rest of the body.” Then he raised his voice and said: “Verily, there is no îmân (faith) for the one who has no sabr.”
 
As-Safar said: “Abû Bakr fell ill, so some people visited him and asked whether they should call a doctor for him. He said,‘The Doctor has already seen me.’ They asked, ‘What did he say?’ Abû Bakr said, ‘He said, “I do what I want”.’ ” (Meaning, that Allâh is his “Doctor” and can make him sick or healthy as He wills) (Ahmad). ‘Umar ibn al-Khattâb (RA) said:

“The best days we ever lived were by virtue of patience, and if patience were to take the shape of a man, he would be a noble and generous man.”


‘Alî ibn Abî Tâlib (RA) said:


“The relation of patience to îmân is like the relation of the head to the body. If the head is chopped off, the body becomes useless.” Then he raised his voice and said: “Certainly, the one who has no patience has no îmân, and patience is like a riding-beast that nevers gets tired.”
 
Patience is one of the most important qualities demanded of those who claim to love Allâh, as the degree of patience determines those who are sincere in their claim and those who are not. The degree of patience needed to endure hardship and difficulties in order to please the Beloved proves the sincerity of one’s love.

Many claim to love Allâh, but when Allâh tests them with hardship, they forget the true essence of love. No-one can adhere to the love of Allâh except those who are patient and persevering (as-sâbirûn).

If it were not for the test of hardship and sincerity, there would be no proof of the sincerity of a person’s love of Allâh. The one whose love of Allâh is greater, has a greater degree of patience.

Therefore, Allâh has attributed the quality of patience to His close friends (awliyâ) and most beloved. He said about His beloved slave Ayyûb (AS):


“…Truly We found him full of patience and constancy. How excellent in Our service! Ever did he turn (to Us)!” (Sâd 38:44)


Allâh instructed the most beloved to Him of everything He created to have patience in accepting His decree and told him that patience comes only by the help of Allâh.

He praised those who have patience and promised them the best of rewards: the rewards of others are defined and limited, but the reward of as-sâbirûn is without measure. Patience is vital at all levels of Islâm, îmân and ihsân, as well as being a major element in îmân (faith) and tawakkul (putting one’s trust in Allâh).
 
A nice reminder Inshaa'Allaah..

In Soorah Balad, Allaah teaches us about the mountain pass that must be climbed in our lives. And this is how Allaah wants us to overcome this mountain pass - hard and strong!


Allaah explains it:

"11. But he has made no effort to pass on the path that is steep (The mountain pass)

12. And what will make you know the path that is steep?

13. (It is) Freeing a neck (slave, etc.)

14. Or giving food in a day of hunger (famine),

15. To an orphan near of kin.

16. Or to a Miskeen (poor) afflicted with misery.

17. Then he became one of those who believed, and recommended one another to perseverance and patience, and (also) recommended one another to pity and compassion.

18. They are those on the Right Hand (the dwellers of Paradise)...."

Soorah Balad (90/11-18)

May Allaah help us to overcome the steep mountains of our life with patience and perseverance-aameen.
 
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One of the things a person in calamity may not realise is that although in the thick and climax of it all, the end may seem very far, what they are suffering is the worst they will EVER have to endure.

You have to believe, that this is the highest mountain you will ever have to climb in this situation. There is no mountain greater, no path steeper, no difficulty superior than the one that you’re in. ​

It’s a hard concept to articulate but in any given situation, there will be a trough and crest of the challenge. The only example I could think of, and forgive me for its inadequacies, was that of a player on a games console.

The game has 8 levels, with level one being the easiest and level eight being the most difficult.

Level one is the trough of the challenge. Each player can surpass it, go well beyond it without too much difficulty.

Level eight however, is the peak, the highest crest, the pinnacle of the challenge. He knows that there is no difficulty greater than this, no level to defeat after this, no challenge to overcome ever again…

Yet he takes enjoyment in this, despite the difficulty, knowing that there is no pleasure greater than that of coming out of a trial successful…triumphant at the all the gains. And he remains patient and surrenders to the temptation and effort of trying again and again and yet again until indeed that challenge, that mountain pass is overcome, surpassed and transcended.

What else is left? You have surpassed O mother, father, brother, sister, daughter!

Remember, this is the highest mountain I will ever have to climb. This is as hard as it gets. If I can, (and I will Inshaa’Allaah) come out of this, then the rest is easy, with the help of Allaah.​

For some, the challenge takes the hours of a game, for others a few weeks, yet for some the worst can be years…

Indeed Allaah tests those that He loves.

I know it’s easier said than done, but our actions have to stem from thoughts. It’s a thought process…and thoughts lead to words, to actions, to habits and Inshaa’Allaah to deep–rooted character.

1. Look to those below you and not to those above you.

2. See the cup as ‘half full’ rather than ‘half empty’

3. Regard this as the highest mountain you will ever have to climb.

4. Think win, win!

5. And taste the fruits of your patience Inshaa’Allaah!

This is the greatest pain…
The deepest wound…
The longest wait…
The hardest climb…
The farthest reach…

But it’s the highest mountain I will ever climb!

And I end with the words of the Most High:

“Verily after very hardship comes ease, Verily after every hardship comes ease.”​
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