What do women want?

MiracleSurvivor said:
It is well Known that majority of men would like to have multiple wives and that would be their ultimate happiness.

what about women?

What makes women happy?

in jannah there are no wrong doing or injustice, but what is women’s ultimate happiness?
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I don't think majority of men want multiple wives, but the again I'm not expert on men and so aren't men themselves. Everybody has their own desires.

Speaking from a woman's point of view, woman want respect and stability.
 
Mustafa16 said:
thank you :)

oh, im not looking to get married yet.......i was just commenting on how i got treated by girls i tried talking to who were of my jamaat, and how it seemed like they were superhuman for not ever talking about boys.


and btw, im only 18, and not quite mature enough to get married, among other reasons, and dont have a career, or a job, so im waiting to get married, and just commenting on how boys seem to care about girls but girls dont care about boys (me and other boys in our jamaat have gossiped/confessed about girls we liked)
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Hahaha no girls do talk abt boys... In private tho!! I mean it would be embarassing if someone heard right? Or if the guy in question heard.
 
Mustafa16 said:
some of the refugee women from Turkey in our jamaat may be like the Arab women you described as well......I want to marry a Gulenist or perhaps another faction of Nurju.....Or perhaps I should wait until they are older? Or perhaps go for the Arab women in the jamaat, even though there aren't that many? idk, im not that independent, i have disabilities.......and i cant drive at the moment. my neurotic mother has been refusing to get me driving lessons because she's been spending all her money on my cousin's family in Turkey (my cousin was in the army during the coup and got arrested, but claims innocence), and my uncle's family (my uncle was a traffic cop, and he has bowel problems, and is in jail), and my grandparents (my grandfather is sick, also), and because of stubbornness (hence the neurotic part) because I missed some college lectures (I live with her).
Also, I find that the older young ladies in my faction of nurculuk, tend to be much more mature, but they tend to get married off at around the age that they'll be before I get my bachelor's degree and career. Perhaps I should find someone who isn't so lucky, like the women my mother mentioned.
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Whats nurculuk?
 
cinnamonrolls1 said:
Whats nurculuk?
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also known as the Nur movement, it is based off the teachings of Ustadh Shaykh Said Nursi (rh), a Kurdish Turkish shaykh also known as Bediuzzaman Said Nursi (rh), you can read about him here http://questionsonislam.com/article/who-bediuzzaman-said-nursi it mentions how he was persecuted by the ataturkists here: http://questionsonislam.com/questio...ursi-will-you-give-information-about-his-life
a video about his biography by a saudi sheikh here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dypb5_UqGF0
a wikipedia article here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Said_Nursî he wrote the risale i nur, a collection or religious texts which were a commentary on the Qur'an and matters of imaan.
an english speaking app with much of the collection if available on the google play store if you have a smartphone, as an app.
the site questionsonislam.com is based on his works
 
Sidenote here-i believe that men are slowly losing their masculinity- and im not talking abt showing emotions and all that- thats good, i believe men need to be more open and we need to address this stigma, but i do think that men are slowly losing their masculinity.
 
All women, like men, are bound to biology. If you trully want to learn how to make women "feel" or what exactly goes on in their minds, then dive a bit in human biology, psychology, sociology and maybe a bit of anthropology.

Fair warning though, you maybe don't want to know.
Just like women don't like it that men essentially want a harem, you most likely won't like what women ultimately want. You've been warned.
 
00001001 said:
All women, like men, are bound to biology. If you trully want to learn how to make women "feel" or what exactly goes on in their minds, then dive a bit in human biology, psychology, sociology and maybe a bit of anthropology.

Fair warning though, you maybe don't want to know.
Just like women don't like it that men essentially want a harem, you most likely won't like what women ultimately want. You've been warned.
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Where did you learn all this? Not doubting but just a bit... Apathetic?

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Mustafa16 said:
boys talk about how much they want girls......when i say hi to girls, they either run away, ignore me, or treat me rudely as a a gang. or just plain old walk away. or act all overprotective of each other. i try contacting them on social media, they block me, yet they follow other boys, and one of them (a 15 year old, im 18) even dated a chinese boy. (probably not a convert). yet she runs away whenever i try talking to her, and talks behind my back about how "creepy" i am. bear in mind I have autism and severe anxiety.
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Oh its really sad. But, you should focus on your study and make your career. One day girls will catch you. Because girls never choose six pack over the six cars :)
 
MiracleSurvivor said:
It is well Known that majority of men would like to have multiple wives and that would be their ultimate happiness.

what about women?

What makes women happy?

in jannah there are no wrong doing or injustice, but what is women’s ultimate happiness?
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Assalamualaikum,
Honestly if you ask me, as a woman I would want the same. To have multiple husbands and live with them happily. But our religion does not allow that and I understand why. It's okay. I know there's a place for me in Jannah.
 
Remember men are stupid and women are smarter than men. So what part of masculinity do I want to respect and love? Can someone tell me that? I think man should abandon masculinity because it is not help them in any shape or form. Nowadays masculinity is dangerous for him or me. I prefer that women do go outside and work and bring money into the house, I will take care of the children and take care of the house. Plus I think I lost complete attraction to the opposite sex and I do not mind it a single bit ;D;D;D I think it is empowering not needing women or marrying a woman or having any relationship with a woman period! Talk to about freedom and empowerment! ;D;D;D:D:D

My best advice for sisters is that they go IVF, sperm bank or maybe the new invention where lesbian women can have babies without a man (I think when women have control over her sexual reproduction without a man, a man should also have the choice and option to have his sexual reproduction without a woman. This is the ultimate empowerment for a man. To be able to have children without needing a woman and raising them on his own. However, there have been scientific study that shows fathers raising children alone do better than women raising children alone. So that part of masculinity attribute I want to keep and save and if it means I lack in intellect but be better parent and raise better and happier civilization then I am ok with not having that much IQ points and doing great at school, university or getting honor degrees and bachelor degree. IN the end human beings are more than just brain power. His heart, his soul, how he raise good people all these to me are more valuable than having a memory of an elephant and keep on talking and talking and talking and talking and talking and doing superb at school and been organized and well written and reading skill. So in there I want to preserve masculinity and fight for it! I am more than happy to be useful and needed for a parent than for any power, wealth, status or even husband role. I do not care much for been a husband, I really care much for been a parent :D). There are group of women who would love to have baby girls only and love an amazonian female only society, there are choices for sisters. Pick which makes you happy!! ;D;D;D But I swear if dajjal does show up...I will not risk my life for any women out there (except for my mom) and some other man's mom is not my problem. I am saving my skin.

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tia said:
Assalamualaikum,
Honestly if you ask me, as a woman I would want the same. To have multiple husbands and live with them happily. But our religion does not allow that and I understand why. It's okay. I know there's a place for me in Jannah.
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You know in Africa they do that. A woman can have multiple husbands and she can have children from multiple husbands. Of course there is no lineage there and it is no different than just a man having multiple women and women having multiple men, marriage at that point is pointless and redundant.
 
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Salaam

xboxisdead said:
Remember men are stupid and women are smarter than men. So what part of masculinity do I want to respect and love? Can someone tell me that? I think man should abandon masculinity because it is not help them in any shape or form. Nowadays masculinity is dangerous for him or me. I prefer that women do go outside and work and bring money into the house, I will take care of the children and take care of the house. Plus I think I lost complete attraction to the opposite sex and I do not mind it a single bit ;D;D;D I think it is empowering not needing women or marrying a woman or having any relationship with a woman period! Talk to about freedom and empowerment! ;D;D;D:D:D

etc etc etc ad infinitum. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
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Oh dear, that's some rant bro Xbox, my response.


Come on Xbox lay off be more positive.
 

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