What would you ask a potential partner?

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Umm ul-Shaheed said:
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i'll ask: what is your opinion on sheikhs ibn abdul wahhaab and al-albaani (rahimahumullah)
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becuase you either love those 2 men, or you don't...there's simply no in between...and if he don't love 'em it means we're are on completely two different waves as some view their teachings to be quite controversial. both shaikhs have had some serious allegations and misconceptions surrounding them and based on that (from what i've personally noticed) you're either with them or not...and if he's not as i said it'll mean we are on two different wave lengths...
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As much as I respect both of them, I have to point out that Allaah has not made them a criterion in the imaan of anyone for us to judge others based on what they think of them - this right is reserved for the Messenger (saw) first and then his Companions. I mean, I guess you can ask a guy what he thinks of them, but if he disagrees with something they said or some opinion (or even opinions) they held, it doesn't necessarily amount to you two being 'on two different wave lengths' (i.e. as long as he's not into making dua' to other than Allaah or decked out in innovations, you two are on 'the same wave length'). I think what is more important is that a person is open to understanding and if he disagrees with them, he does so unemotionally and with knowledge - that displays maturity which is ultimately more important than a simplistic understanding of the religion.
 
Malaak said:
^imo, theres no need to have a particular madhab as your priority for selecting spouse. but 3aqaid are far more important. they should definitely be a priority lest you end up marrying someone who thinks its ok to kneel before graves lol.
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of course. People who worship graves aren't Muslim. The basic aqeedah must be there. ^ And I agree with Maalik.
 
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Maalik said:
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As much as I respect both of them, I have to point out that Allaah has not made them a criterion in the imaan of anyone for us to judge others based on what they think of them - this right is reserved for the Messenger (saw) first and then his Companions.
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of course, but you cant deny that some people loathe ibn abdul wahhaab for certain rulings he made regarding calling the dead, etc. so in that respect that's what i'll be judging a potential on, not directly for liking/disliking the imams themselves...get me?

I mean, I guess you can ask a guy what he thinks of them, but if he disagrees with something they said or some opinion (or even opinions) they held, it doesn't necessarily amount to you two being 'on two different wave lengths' (i.e. as long as he's not into making dua' to other than Allaah or decked out in innovations, you two are on 'the same wave length').
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of course....i meant if he is staunch against either of them because i do personally believe it does reflect on a persons i guess views on certain issues (which might be conflicting with mine)...as i said they loathe ibn abdul wahhab for the aforementioned, and they loathe al-albaani...well im not too sure why tbh :embarrass, but i have seen some nasty and baseless allegations against him imsad but this bit you mentioned is okay as you'll have a lot of imams disagreeing on a lot of issues...

but if he disagrees with something they said or some opinion (or even opinions) they held, it doesn't necessarily amount to you two being 'on two different wave lengths'
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those little "minor issues" wouldn't be a problem, inshallah...not unless he blatantly insults them or something which in that case, he may just get slapped :hiding:
 
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Umm ul-Shaheed said:
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of course, but you cant deny that some people loathe ibn abdul wahhaab for certain rulings he made regarding calling the dead, etc. so in that respect that's what i'll be judging a potential on, not directly for liking/disliking the imams themselves...get me?
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Then why not ask about the actual issue itself? Some people will be completely pure in their Tawheed but will still dislike the Imaam because of misinformation or some other reason..not everyone is informed to the same level. It's always better to address the issue directly rather then 'test' people about what they think of personality x or personality y. Just my two cents.
 
~Taalibah~ said:
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Brothers and Sisters in Islam,

Seeing that there are quite a few marriage threads around, i'll add one...

What questions would you ask a potential partner?

This question has been on my mind for a while, and i know that it will depend on the persons but, on the whole which are questions that will help you get a better understanding of the person and his/her likes or dislikes?
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Aslamalkium wa rahmatulah wa barakatu..

To be honest, i might ask whether or not the person is religous...
 
how would it feel wearing the white wedding dress knowing it'll match the fridge,cooker and washing mashing?

and isnt that a strong implication that you'll be a big player in the tiled playground?
 
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If he had the potential to:
Go to Jihad.
To build a mesjid.

After he goes to jihad it would be a good idea to tell him to marry another wife so she helps me out and I help her out.
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And, to do it for Allah not me. He he he
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Rasema said:
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If he had the potential to:
Go to Jihad.
To build a mesjid.

After he goes to jihad it would be a good idea to tell him to marry another wife so she helps me out and I help her out.
etc...

And, to do it for Allah not me. He he he
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do you think it would be justified to reject someone if they didnt want to go to jihad? i mean is it a fair thing to reject someone for, even if they had every other box ticked :)
 
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Rasema said:
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After he goes to jihad it would be a good idea to tell him to marry another wife so she helps me out and I help her out.
etc...

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i dont get that. After he goes to jihad he marries another woman (i take it youll be in different countries to him)to help you? :omg:
 
amani said:
i dont get that. After he goes to jihad he marries another woman (i take it youll be in different countries to him)to help you? :omg:
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HA! Before. Well, this is what I call a Muslim family.It is what I desire. I'm sick of non-practicing people oround me.

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amani said:
i dont get that. After he goes to jihad he marries another woman (i take it youll be in different countries to him)to help you? :omg:
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i think what she means is that he marries another woman so that when he goes, they (the 2 women) are left behind to help one another...
 
Rasema said:
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HA! Before. Well, this is what I call a Muslim family.It is what I desire. I'm sick of non-practicing people oround me.

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How can you say she's non practicing on the basis of her questioning why you'd want a co-wife?

But would you actually ask those questions to a potential?
They seem a bit...forward.
 
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How can you say she's non practicing on the basis of her questioning why you'd want a co-wife?
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I said "oround me" refearing to my household.Please do not question my desires:)
This is what would make me feel like a complete Muslim.
 
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Muraad said:
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Then why not ask about the actual issue itself? Some people will be completely pure in their Tawheed but will still dislike the Imaam because of misinformation or some other reason..not everyone is informed to the same level. It's always better to address the issue directly rather then 'test' people about what they think of personality x or personality y. Just my two cents.
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other than the misinformation, why would someone dislike the imam other than for what he teaches? i've met two types of people concerning their hate/dislike for these imams and its either becuase they dont like their teachings, or they are ignorant/follow misinformation.
it really would worry me, as i feel it shows his beliefs/creed. the al-albaani issue i guess could be overlooked as the imam, rahimahullah dealt more with fiqhi issues then aqeedah issue... but the Ibn abdul wahhab one, i highly doubt, as i strongly believe that what he taught in matters of aqeedah are on what the anbiyya2 came with.


on topic, id ask if he knows how to fight and also if he's made, or is willing to make anything out of wood :embarrass
 
Umm ul-Shaheed said:
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other than the misinformation, why would someone dislike the imam other than for what he teaches? i've met two types of people concerning their hate/dislike for these imams and its either becuase they dont like their teachings, or they are ignorant/follow misinformation.
it really would worry me, as i feel it shows his beliefs/creed. the al-albaani issue i guess could be overlooked as the imam, rahimahullah dealt more with fiqhi issues then aqeedah issue... but the Ibn abdul wahhab one, i highly doubt, as i strongly believe that what he taught in matters of aqeedah are on what the anbiyya2 came with.


on topic, id ask if he knows how to fight and also if he's made, or is willing to make anything out of wood :embarrass
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I think you're over complicating things. If you want to ask, go ahead. My point was simply that it's not a religious criterion that should automatically give someone the stamp of approval or automatic dismissal.
 
If I was you, I would simply ask what I am curious about (as long as it is appropriate).
 

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