Why is Allah doing this to me.

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I am just not content with me as a whole. There is too much wrong with me. I represent 14th century in 21st.
 
I can say this smallkid you and me are exactly the same I suffered bad problems myself and I feel like a failure however I'm sorry to say but from my side I acted stubborn and didn't take people advice for month because I thought they don't get me but they do, also Allah does understand me a lot more than myself look at me I disrespected him by acting stubborn and drowning myself with these thoughts and I let the shaytaan get the upper hand. You are currently doing the same man so just stop listening and live your life and worship Allah just take it steady I know it isn't easy and trust me I am not saying oh I'm better I'm not I feel like I'm the worst human in the universe having these thoughts but you can't blame Allah for anything you let this happen to yourself Allah won't change you if you don't change yourself. I realise that I have been rude by blaming Allah so go to Allah and apologise cause trust me we only got us to blame not Allah. Also honestly a miracle won't happen till you change your ways my way is to stop commiting previous sins that dropped me to this level and ignore these thoughts and learn more about Allah in the future inshallah. Now again I'll say this I'm nothing special but there is hope. Also 14th century in the 21st what do you mean?
 
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I am just not content with me as a whole. There is too much wrong with me. I represent 14th century in 21st.
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How about starting correcting yourself? Start with a little at a time, step by step.

Where do you want to start with?
 
It´s not good to focus to stare only your own problems all the time. When you are thinking that none suffer like you, it would makes good to try for a while some voluntary work with people whose have problems too, like homelessness, refugees etc. You could get some more perspective to the idea what means having problems and might find out that your ones aren´t so big than you have thought all the time. Also, if you feel you are lost by some way, working with people might gives you new ideas about who you are and where are you going.
 
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I have an identity crisis. My parents have made me what I never wanted to become. Now even if someone praises my traits it feels an insult to me. I want to die before I destroy some other lives.
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Although your username is smallkid, you are not little kid anymore. You have mature enough to choose your own way of life, to choose what you want to become. By yourself.

And rather than you think to destroy other people life, why don't you think to make other people life becoming better?. You can be a volunteer in blind social institution like my mother has done after my father passed away. Or involved in other social activities. Doing kindness toward the other will make you realize that your life is still valuable, and you are still can give benefit for others. In Shaa Allah, it will makes you feel better.
 
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I feel ya, I really do. But you CAN NOT turn away from Islam, the deen of Allah.

It will only further your problems, you will find yourself more confused. Stick with Islam, and have patience.

In my opinion, patience is one of the greatest blessing Allah offered us, as a WAY to take the right choices.

I quote from someone I know "Patience is the best way to correct things without doing them yet" So don't throw your akhira away on a whim. Have patience, the answer may not come now, but Allah is with the patient.

Don't know what to do? Have patience!

May Allah forgive me if I said anything wrong. Ameen.
 
Your going wrong with the question you have posed.

Why is Allah doing this to me removes the responsibility from YOU.

What have you done to change the situation?

You don't need to reply back but something to think about...

May Allah swt strengthen your mentality and remove negative thoughts Ameen.
 
This dua I do to Allah is causing me misunderstandings and thus waswass.

Is this dua OK:

"Oh Allah, guide me back to the straight path (Islam)"

I made this dua. I realise I've distanced myself from Allah, but Alhamdulillah by the Mercy of Allah, I did it in time.
 
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You have spoken your mind and now let me be equally honest and forthright: Why are you on a Muslim forum?

And since when is good advice limited to the source being Muslim? Frankly, I am outright disgusted by your attitude to our respected member Eric H here, and I think frankly you should take your own advice and stay silent if you are going to have a negative attitude towards non-Muslims. This is an open Forum meant for a healthy interaction between both groups, Muslim and non-Muslim, and it is best that you keep this in mind and develop a healthy attitude.

And I'm also reporting your post for your disrespectful attitude.


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Umar Ibn Farooq said:
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If I am not wrong, I've ever disagree with one of Eric H post. But I argued him in good manner, not through disrespectful attitude.

Eric H is oldtimer member. I often follow his posts, and I see, he has great respect toward other people from all belief. This is why he is respected by other people too.

Bro, if you want other people respect you, you should learn to respect other people.
 
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Assalaamu alaikum Umar,


(mildly) But Eric is correct. We need to make our efforts. And we must also put our trust in Allah. There are ahadith such as the following:


Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that a person asked the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), “Should I tie my camel and have Tawakkul (trust in Allah for her protection) or should I leave her untied and have Tawakkul.” The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) replied, “Tie her and have Tawakkul” [Jami At-Tirmidhi].

http://seekershub.org/ans-blog/2013/06/27/how-to-approach-getting-married/



And there are also the actions of the Prophet Mohamed (SAWS)


Another great example is the manner in which the Messenger of Allah (saws) took every precautions possible to evade and escape his enemies amongst the Quraish of Makkah when migrating from Makkah to Madinah during the Hijrah, when the enemies of the Prophet (saws) had sworn and planned to kill him!


  • He (saws) along with his companion Hadrat Abu Bakr (r.a.) traveled south towards Yemen and hid themselves for three days in the cave of Thawr to evade the enemy, rather than take the northerly direction of Madinah.which the Prophet (saws) knew the enemies would obviously pursue in their search!
  • He took provisions with him for the travel.
  • He made arrangements with the family of Hadrat Abu Bakr (r.a.) who would come to them in the cave and give him full information regarding the movements and decisions of the enemies.
  • He hired an expert guide (who incidentally was a disbeliever!) to take him from an abnormal route from Makkah to Madinah.
  • Basically the Prophet (saws) did absolutely everything in his power in his efforts to evade his enemies..and after he (saws) had done everything in his ability to protect himself from harm, he (saws) put his full, absolute, and unconditional trust in His Lord Most High.so much so, that when the enemy search party came as close as the mouth of the very cave where Prophet Mohamed (saws) and Hadrat Abu Bakr (r.a.) had sought refuge, he (saws) declared as is related in the Glorious Quran by Allah Subhanah: If ye help not (the Prophet (saws), it is no matter): for Allah did indeed help him: when the disbelievers drove him out (during the Hijrah): he (saws) had no more than one companion: they two were in the cave and he (saws) said to his companion "have no fear for Allah is with us": then Allah sent down his peace upon him and strengthened him with forces which ye saw not, and humbled to the depths the word of the disbelievers. But the Word of Allah is exalted to the heights: for Allah is Exalted in might Wise. (Surah Taubah 9:40)

Had Allah Subhanah Willed, He could very well have sent down Angels to protect the Prophet (saws); or send the Buraq vehicle to effortlessly transfer the Prophet (saws) from Makkah to Madinah; or even made the Prophet (saws) invisible, etcAllah is our witness sister, none amongst the enemies of the Messenger of Allah (saws) could have even approached him (saws), leave alone harm him (saws)!!!

But the Sunnah or practice employed by the Messenger of Allah (saws) was to strive and do his absolute utmost first, and then after he had done everything that he could possible muster with his intelligence and his strength..he would then put his complete and unconditional trust in his Lord Most Majestic, Most Supreme!

http://www.islamhelpline.net/node/7905


(mildly) It seems to me that Eric has been Blessed with a heart that is open to God. (smile) Perhaps he has not taken any formal step to recognizing that God is One and Unique, and that Mohamed (SAWS) is God's Prophet... but he surely expresses many traits and understandings of one who has surrendered to His Lord.

(mildly) Umar, Allah Sends people across our Paths to Teach us. Whatever their labels and inclinations, it seems to me that we should always be alert to what Allah may be Conveying to us through the people he has Placed in our Path. (gently) And I find that what Eric has to say... is worth thinking about.


May Allah, the Light, Help us to see.
 
Umar Ibn Farooq said:
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Salam alaykum

We are lucky because we have kind of brother in humanity like Eric H in here, to give to us his good advices and opinions about life. People with warm heart are welcomed to everywhere.

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I havent seen anyone suffer more than me. Everyone has atleast one success in life despite all their shprtcomings.[0/QUOTE]

Dude that is just untrue and unkind. Now I know I am the King of ranting and sometimes self pity on here but I do count my blessings. I have a body that works, I function more or less normally and heaps of other things. To say others have not suffered as much as you is just mean. What about children that are born poorly and have to be hooked up to machines since the day they were born and die soon after or are constantly ill and bed ridden all their lives?

I would love to know exactly what your issues are if you would care to elaborate. Don't worry if you don't want to. That's your call. If it's just material things like jobs and stuff, you should count yourself lucky. I do a professional job which takes it out of me. I hate the job but I am grateful Allah allowed me this job. There are heaps of people out there who can't get jobs even with shed loads of degrees and qualifications.

As someone who is also troubled, I have found that having one of these wonderful people on here as a mentor via pm will really help you. So far I have had two people stay in touch with me and keep me sane. They know who they are and I shall not mention them but thank you.

Also why don't you reach out to an Imam in your area. Speak to him or email him. He will be able to advise you. Do it anonymously like me via an email if you can't do it face to face.

I too wanted to kill myself and still think about it a lot, because nothing went right in my life but I couldn't because I have a few family members who depend on me to help them out so I just couldn't.

Good luck with things. I hope things work out for you. You know where everyone is if you want to chat.

Ps. One final thing. You say you want to ditch Islam and try a different faith. Why go to another faith? Do you think Christians have it easy? Trust me they don't. Everyone has their troubles.
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Oh and Eric H. I'll apologise on behalf of the person who told you to can it. La Sorcia and yourself are true inspirations with your advice and stories.

Now I don't know the rules of this website but I personally love integration. The more religions on here the better. That way we can first hand understand and compare and exchange notes.

And finally Smallkid, I hope I didn't offend you with my earlier post. What you are going through sounds like a huge struggle and I was by no means trying to say it's not important. It's causing you a lot of pain and I am so sorry.
 
Greetings and peace be with you Umar Ibn Farooq,

I have a profound respect for Muslims, and especially the Muslims on this forum, I have learned so much here. My prayers are for justice for all people in these troubled times, I feel it is so important to support each other, despite our differences. I have stood with Muslim taxi drivers and others in our town, when people have been hurling abuse at them.

I would hope there is still room for both of us on this forum, and may your journey through life be blessed,

Eric
 
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