Why is getting Married so Difficult....

[AnonymousPoster]

AsalamuAlykum,

I'm a young practising Somali brother, University Graduate and have a good job, so why is getting married so difficult?

 

[ahmed_indian]

salaam,

bcoz we are more into studying and job.

they are just looking for beauty, money and fun.

brother, keep praying to Allah and try to find a pious girl. ask ur parents or local imam.

 

[Sahabiyaat]

i think parents, especially a girl's, make it extremely difficult, its almost like they never went through this, the way they create so many obstacles!

 

[nebula]

Just have paitence i know its hard bro but make dua to Allah to give you a beautiful pious muslim wife, beautiful as in pleasing to your eyes
Allah is the provider akhi! and go to your masjid go to ur muslim brothers tell them you want to get married, she won't fall from the sky but you'll find her inshallah akhi!

 

[The Ruler]

... Because women, akhi, are complicated beings.

 

[nebula]

i dont think its the sisters that are complicated its just that marriage has been made complicated , you gotta have a marriage resume lol, and your experience and skills gotta be on it :X

 

[mathematician]

It's difficult because we want to choose our partners. In the past it was easy because everything was arranged. So you never had to do any work. Your parents find you someone propose for you, etc, and all you have to do is to agree to marry that person.

 

[Güven]

i dont think its the sisters that are complicated its just that marriage has been made complicated , you gotta have a marriage resume lol, and your experience and skills gotta be on it :X

no no no The Ruler is right!

Women are complicated :exhausted

 

[Yanal]

Its not complicated to get married it's complicated to find someone special to marry. You need to ask your family to find someone they think is suitable enough for you to marry,if they find one women,try to talk to her and find things she likes and her hobbies plus her past life and if she was involved with anyone else. In other words try to find small and big details about her.

Just keep trying and inshAllah you will find a sister suitable for you and your family. Don't overstress it's not like you are 40(hopefully). Don't stress or you might look tired when you "interview" her,just carry on with your regular life and routine and inshAllah Allah will make everything happen just right.

 

[islamlover_girl]

Don`t worry brother, in shaa Allah when u meet the one who Allah choose for u any difficult will disappear .

 

[S_87]

its not difficult, maybe youre just looking in the wrong places?

 

[Muslim Woman]

In the name of Allah , the Most Gracious , Ever Merciful

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... so why is getting married so difficult?

Match making is my hobby. From my experience , I found that men want nice looking women . It's a pity . Some women & their guardian also sometimes dont' prefer religious persons but look for rich & handsome men.

We all have so many things to learn from this true story.

A Hope for Desperate Souls

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[Imam]

AsalamuAlykum,

why is getting married so difficult?

peace

The answer is according to where you live....

in the developing countries the reason is not the parents nor the girl make it difficult ..in these countries most parents and girls welcome any proposal of marriage when the man have the minimum requirements to lead a matrimonial life...

so what is the problem?
It is that most young men don't have even the minimum requirements to lead a matrimonial life... and hardly afford a single life !


peace

 

[Mysterious Uk]

AsalamuAlykum,

I'm a young practising Somali brother, University Graduate and have a good job, so why is getting married so difficult?

High (sometimes unrealistic) expectations, both for guys and girls.

Just be patient brother because inshallah when you find the right girl she will be perfect!

 

[Sahabiyaat]

peace



so what is the problem?
It is that most young men don't have even the minimum requirements to lead a matrimonial life... and hardly afford a single life !

and what is that down to!
wrong parenting!

or they are just disappointingly lazy good for nothings! living off their parents money!

 

[convert]

AsalamuAlykum,

I'm a young practising Somali brother, University Graduate and have a good job, so why is getting married so difficult?

Brother, I hear you. I have a huge knock against me being as I am a white convert.

its not difficult, maybe youre just looking in the wrong places?

Subhanallah, what planet do you live on? I would like to visit.

 

[Imam]

athey are just disappointingly lazy good for nothings! living off their parents money!

I'm afraid it seems you talk from the prospective of a person not aware of how far the economic situation in the developing world arrived ,statements as:
(parents, especially a girl's, make it extremely difficult, they create so many obstacles!)

is mere old slogan ,hardly exist.....

It is not the parents neither the couples who create the obstacles...it is the economical situation who creates obstacles for All.....

anyone says otherwise is simply misinformed and needs to go and see with his,her own eyes...

peace

 

[convert]

Its not complicated to get married it's complicated to find someone special to marry. You need to ask your family to find someone they think is suitable enough for you to marry,if they find one women,try to talk to her and find things she likes and her hobbies plus her past life and if she was involved with anyone else. In other words try to find small and big details about her.

Just keep trying and inshAllah you will find a sister suitable for you and your family. Don't overstress it's not like you are 40(hopefully). Don't stress or you might look tired when you "interview" her,just carry on with your regular life and routine and inshAllah Allah will make everything happen just right.

Once again, I would disagree. I find it harder than pulling teeth.

 

[Sahabiyaat]

(parents, especially a girl's, make it extremely difficult, they create so many obstacles!)

is mere old slogan ,hardly exist.....

maybe in your world its not. But in mine, its a harsh reality.

oh..

Just to add.Im pakistani.that might exaplin it! *rolls eyes*!

 

[Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн]

I agree with sis Sahabiyaat. I'm pakistani too sis Loool.

Just because its easy for you, doesn't mean it's easy for the next person! Parents DO make it difficult and I know this because I'm starting to see it with my mother....:/ Her list includes a dude with a silly PhD, good paying job and then DEEN. Basically she'd be rejecting half the population of bros that are practising and she doesnt seem to mind that. I've given her examples of nice bros and she rejects one after another...I'm gunna lose my mind.

So those of you who think its NOT TRUE and just a silly slogan, your wrong buddy!

A parents definition of suitable varies. Most have expectations too HIGH and I might miss out on a good brother just because its about the education and job!