will someone answer my questions please?

[ramen-thelegend]

Ask as many questions and I'll try my best.

:statisfie:embarrass you guys are sooo nice! thank you. in return i'll only ask one more question.(for today i mean;D)

25) is biting nails haram/disliked in islam? i cant overcome my habit of biting nails. i get it they're dirty blah blah but what if i do that after cleaning my hands? and we already be eating so much junk so what if theres a liiiiiittttllleee more coming from my nails?

 

[noraina]

I believe from an Islamic perspective it would be discouraged, although not 'haraam' - as you said it is not a particularly clean habit, and some people can bite their nails so hard they can cause soreness or bleeding, and Islam is way of life. It is about trying to remove all bad habits, however small, from your life, and replacing them with ones which are good and more beneficial.

Sometimes it is caused by anxiety, or from boredom, try to do dhikr on your fingers when you get the urge to bite your nails, it may help. Or chew some gum, with a little practise you'll forget all about it.

When you stop biting your nails, your hands will look so nice.

 

[Kiro]

:statisfie:embarrass you guys are sooo nice! thank you. in return i'll only ask one more question.(for today i mean;D)

25) is biting nails haram/disliked in islam? i cant overcome my habit of biting nails. i get it they're dirty blah blah but what if i do that after cleaning my hands? and we already be eating so much junk so what if theres a liiiiiittttllleee more coming from my nails?

I believe from an Islamic perspective it would be discouraged, although not 'haraam' - as you said it is not a particularly clean habit, and some people can bite their nails so hard they can cause soreness or bleeding, and Islam is way of life. It is about trying to remove all bad habits, however small, from your life, and replacing them with ones which are good and more beneficial.

Sometimes it is caused by anxiety, or from boredom, try to do dhikr on your fingers when you get the urge to bite your nails, it may help. Or chew some gum, with a little practise you'll forget all about it.

When you stop biting your nails, your hands will look so nice.

Something is haram if the negatives outweigh the positives as far as I know. For example, Allah says in the Qu'ran there is some good in alcohol but the negatives outweigh the positives more.

Nails are very dirty underneath so try avoiding it. Maybe try fasting for self control.

Also respect your parents and speak to them nicely. Don't shout at them, just remain calm. Don't ever talk behind their backs. :heated::heated::heated::heated::heated::Emoji44::Emoji44::Emoji44::Emoji44::Emoji44::Emoji44::Emoji44::Emoji44::Emoji44::Emoji44:
Courtesy towards parents will help you reach Jannah!

but know they're Humans and can be wrong at times

 

[ramen-thelegend]

i've considered all your previous answers but i cant make any promises on this one

I believe from an Islamic perspective it would be discouraged, although not 'haraam' - as you said it is not a particularly clean habit, and some people can bite their nails so hard they can cause soreness or bleeding, and Islam is way of life. It is about trying to remove all bad habits, however small, from your life, and replacing them with ones which are good and more beneficial.

Sometimes it is caused by anxiety, or from boredom, try to do dhikr on your fingers when you get the urge to bite your nails, it may help. Or chew some gum, with a little practise you'll forget all about it.

When you stop biting your nails, your hands will look so nice.

i dont know what causes me to do that. i'll just usually find myself doing that. i've tried the idea of chewing gum, but as soon as it looses flavour, i'll swallow it up. which is even worse. i cant controle it:heated: i just want to be eating something 24/7. i have to carry emergency chips with me. at times i even secretly put a potato in my bag...and i've been caught:embarrass

my hands dont look nice anyway. i've been a dishwasjer for over a year. i've got rashes on my hands and often scrap off my skin. and i've got those white patches on my nails too. tbh, i dont even care. especially when it comes to peoples view about it. i'm currently working as a helper for a cook, so i've started playing with KNIVES too. well ...now i've got scars too!
so caring about how my hands look is sooo out of convenience.
i tried dhikr too. doesn't really seem to work out. again, i'd find myself biting my nails and lost count.

Maybe try fasting for self control.

self-controle....is something sooo unattainable for me. outta ma league! unless it is haram.

Also respect your parents and speak to them nicely. Don't shout at them, just remain calm. Don't ever talk behind their backs.
Courtesy towards parents will help you reach Jannah!

but know they're Humans and can be wrong at times

thats very nice
i cant speak to my mom nicely tbh. i've tried to stay quite lately though and i do whatever she asks for, everything. she never talks to me nicely. i ask her for something, she asks me to get it myself. i want her permission for something, she asks me to go to hell.

not a day has passed for years when she didn't curse my brother and i, prayed that we die and let her live in peace. i dont understand why she adopted me when she didn't love me, or knew she couldn't afford it.

every other day our neighbours complain about how much they're tired of the noise coming out of our house. she and my brother verbally abuse each other every other day.

this happens every midnight, ruining my sleep. i already have to wake up at 04 30 for prayers and then recite quran and head on for work and then school, then work again then blah blah blah. but who cares?? they dont.

i try to stop them. at times by asking them to listen to each other. or take ones side so the other stays quite, or at times they both turn up against me.

whats worse is the only thing my mom is concerned about is i stay away from islam. well actually i've been in loads of trouble because of it, so i dont blame her. but i hate how she wants me to get educated in a private school because she was a spoiled rich kid. she suffered because of it and she thinks the only reason for me and my brother living is we get loads of money, otherwise she's going to her mom in america or dad in australia and we can go to hell.

i guess i should stop now. i couldn't lie i respect her, i mean talk to her nicely. but ONLY because islam says so, i've been trying to stay quite. i silently do whatever she asks me to do. that has kind of helped in stopping her everyday cursing in spanish but ...

i guess thats a very extensive topic and not what i'd like to discuss here. although we dont have that normal human connection i hate talking about her that way. and if someone mentions her in bad words, i really cant take it.

thanks for the advice.

 

[Kiro]

i've considered all your previous answers but i cant make any promises on this one

i dont know what causes me to do that. i'll just usually find myself doing that. i've tried the idea of chewing gum, but as soon as it looses flavour, i'll swallow it up. which is even worse. i cant controle it:heated: i just want to be eating something 24/7. i have to carry emergency chips with me. at times i even secretly put a potato in my bag...and i've been caught:embarrass

my hands dont look nice anyway. i've been a dishwasjer for over a year. i've got rashes on my hands and often scrap off my skin. and i've got those white patches on my nails too. tbh, i dont even care. especially when it comes to peoples view about it. i'm currently working as a helper for a cook, so i've started playing with KNIVES too. well ...now i've got scars too!
so caring about how my hands look is sooo out of convenience.
i tried dhikr too. doesn't really seem to work out. again, i'd find myself biting my nails and lost count.




self-controle....is something sooo unattainable for me. outta ma league! unless it is haram.





thats very nice
i cant speak to my mom nicely tbh. i've tried to stay quite lately though and i do whatever she asks for, everything. she never talks to me nicely. i ask her for something, she asks me to get it myself. i want her permission for something, she asks me to go to hell.

not a day has passed for years when she didn't curse my brother and i, prayed that we die and let her live in peace. i dont understand why she adopted me when she didn't love me, or knew she couldn't afford it.

every other day our neighbours complain about how much they're tired of the noise coming out of our house. she and my brother verbally abuse each other every other day.

this happens every midnight, ruining my sleep. i already have to wake up at 04 30 for prayers and then recite quran and head on for work and then school, then work again then blah blah blah. but who cares?? they dont.

i try to stop them. at times by asking them to listen to each other. or take ones side so the other stays quite, or at times they both turn up against me.

whats worse is the only thing my mom is concerned about is i stay away from islam. well actually i've been in loads of trouble because of it, so i dont blame her. but i hate how she wants me to get educated in a private school because she was a spoiled rich kid. she suffered because of it and she thinks the only reason for me and my brother living is we get loads of money, otherwise she's going to her mom in america or dad in australia and we can go to hell.

i guess i should stop now. i couldn't lie i respect her, i mean talk to her nicely. but ONLY because islam says so, i've been trying to stay quite. i silently do whatever she asks me to do. that has kind of helped in stopping her everyday cursing in spanish but ...

i guess thats a very extensive topic and not what i'd like to discuss here. although we dont have that normal human connection i hate talking about her that way. and if someone mentions her in bad words, i really cant take it.

thanks for the advice.

u talk a lot

 

[Serinity]

u talk a lot

soo cold. imsad:heated::heated::heated::heated::heated::heated::heated::heated::heated::heated::heated::heated:

 

[ramen-thelegend]

u talk a lot

oops sorry! if anyone of you ever met me in real life......trust me i cant even even my mouth. no more than yes and no. thats the real me...i work undercover;D...i mean kinda...

well i dont talk much in real life.

soo cold.

yeah, right!

anyroad heres some more questions;D;D

26) does ALLAH swt change plans? or he knows what going to happen a million years from now, like all about everysingle moment and its for sure and he doesn't change plans?

27) if u come to know someone's doing something bad, do you complain about it or shut up? i know that hadith about hiding faults and about helping your brother, whether he is an oppressor or the oppressed but does that apply to someone who's doing something bad and you know it? AND its hurting someone too? do you still shut up or speak up?

28) if someone's lying and you already know the truth, how do you nicely tell them to stop lying because you know the truth? like hey stop, i know that ....but wont they be humiliated? that has happened several times and i just be like ok..and in btw i know the truth but i dont know how to tell them...

29) is being better in worship better or in worldly stuff? like if a person's reciting quran and another's taking care of some orphan, who's better? i mean should i take more time in worship or listen to/help my mom and my brother?

30) can someone like me:embarrass(...since you guys know me well enough now:embarrass......)perform i'takaf? or like you have to be someone really pious and someone who doesn't bite nails. there's also quite alot of bad language being spoken/profanity and loud music and cursing at my home. no one's going to get me food, i will get it myself. i can keep some chips and snacks and friuts with me, that'll do it for about ten days, yeah i guess it can! so is it ok? any other things i should keep in mind, i've searched and read a /lot about it but i dont think the rules are for someone like me:hiding:....

31) why does QURAN say "we" in some places? i mean many places? who is it referring to? like surah yusuf/12, ayah 3: "we narrate unto thee (Muhammad) the best of narratives...."

32) this might be a very broad topic but i'll try to shorten it up, looking at the muslims of today, those who hardly ever pray and utter more lies than truth and zakat is no obligtion to them. shouldn't jihad have been launched against them, atleast those those refuse to pay zakat? like hazrat Abu bakr did...i mean the apostasy movement...i mean obviously by the state, not me and not in non-muslim/western countries. yes or no? if this was happening in the times of the first four caliphs, they surely would have done that right? or are there different circumstances for it(u dont have to explain, a simple yes or no would do it)?

33) can i trust brother @Hamza @Kiro [MENTION=38408]Serinity[/MENTION] and sister [MENTION=38090]noraina[/MENTION] blindly??? do they answer from full knowledge about stuff that i ask for or do they "think" and give their owns views AT times? can they please mention when they give their own assumptions?
(thats just to be on the safe side)

if these get answered today, i have a couple of more(i mean for today)

 

[ardianto]

Assalamualaikum, ramen.

27) if u come to know someone's doing something bad, do you complain about it or shut up? i know that hadith about hiding faults and about helping your brother, whether he is an oppressor or the oppressed but does that apply to someone who's doing something bad and you know it? AND its hurting someone too? do you still shut up or speak up?

If someone make a mistake, it's doesn't men we must cover his/her fault to protect him/her. But we should not tell everyone about his/her fault. What we should do is advice him/her to not make the mistake again. Telling the third party about someone mistake can be done only with purpose to get help from the third party to give advice to this someone, by us, or by the third party. Not with the purpose to spread this someone mistake.

28) if someone's lying and you already know the truth, how do you nicely tell them to stop lying because you know the truth? like hey stop, i know that ....but wont they be humiliated? that has happened several times and i just be like ok..and in btw i know the truth but i dont know how to tell them...

It's indeed not easy. If you have told someone to not lie, but he/she was not willing to listen to you. Leave this case to Allah. At least you have done your duty.

29) is being better in worship better or in worldly stuff? like if a person's reciting quran and another's taking care of some orphan, who's better? i mean should i take more time in worship or listen to/help my mom and my brother?

We have to be balance in relationship with Allah, and in relationship with people. We should not good only in ibadah but we neglect our duty to help the needy people. And also we should not good only in helping the needy people, but we neglect our duty in ibadah.

 

[ramen-thelegend]

:wa:
thanks for the answers

If someone make a mistake, it's doesn't men we must cover his/her fault to protect him/her. But we should not tell everyone about his/her fault. What we should do is advice him/her to not make the mistake again. Telling the third party about someone mistake can be done only with purpose to get help from the third party to give advice to this someone, by us, or by the third party. Not with the purpose to spread this someone mistake.

the kind of case i'm talking about is ...my brother does really bad stuff. i dont know if i should tell my mom or not? i've tried stopping him in many ways, but he will find another way out. do i tell my mom?

 

[ardianto]

thanks for the answers



the kind of case i'm talking about is ...my brother does really bad stuff. i dont know if i should tell my mom or not? i've tried stopping him in many ways, but he will find another way out. do i tell my mom?

It's okay if you tell your mom with purpose to make your mom tell your brother to not do something bad again. What you should not do is telling your friends, your neighbors, about your brother behavior only to make them know.

 

[Serinity]

[MENTION=38684]ramen-thelegend[/MENTION] I will make sure I don't answer what I have no knowledge about.

 

[ramen-thelegend]

@ramen-thelegend I will make sure I don't answer what I have no knowledge about.

hahaha;D how can you answer stuff that you dont have knowledge of anyway^o)???
i just wanted to make sure it's not your own view, but the islamic view, and if it is your own view, then i'd like you to mention it.:statisfie

 

[Serinity]

hahaha;D how can you answer stuff that you dont have knowledge of anyway^o)???
i just wanted to make sure it's not your own view, but the islamic view, and if it is your own view, then i'd like you to mention it.:statisfie

The Islamic view is the best view. So take not our views.

 

[ramen-thelegend]

i cant wait...4 more questions..

34) is sharing dreams that mean nothing ok? i mean dreams that are not deep or something? like gigantic green ants invade your home and you're hiding between 19 mattresses. or there's an annual lion day, on which an elephant sized lion is free to attack anyones home. or you're naruto, who's fighting goku......

35) i know the hadith that says we should not yawn, i mean stop it because satan laughs when we do that. but what if you cant always take it in? i hardly get 5 hours of sleep so i'm always yawning...i try to stop it and use the altenative, stretching, but that looks more bad...i still do that though, i dont care who thinks what. but i do care what islam says about it. so how do i deal with it?

36) physical fighting with the opposite gender is allowed right? i mean fight, not play fighting. what about arm wrestling?

37) i'm practicing hijab nowadays, not at home though. i want to know if i have to wear hijab infront of my relatives that'll be coming in a day. they include my grandparents, aunts and uncles and younger cousins. do i have to wear hijab infront of them? my mom doesn't want me to wear it infront of them( they're not at all religious people, and mock me for being one) and says i dont have to wear it in front of them since they are close relatives. but i want to make sure if thats ok?

 

[noraina]

can i trust brother @Hamza @Kiro
@Serinity
and sister
@noraina
blindly??? do they answer from full knowledge about stuff that i ask for or do they "think" and give their owns views AT times? can they please mention when they give their own assumptions?
(thats just to be on the safe side)

Sis, never trust anyone 'blindly', use you reason as well and if you have any doubts research it , a valuable lesson. I try to avoid giving my own assumptions, I will look something up if the question is one I am not familiar with. InshaAllah I'll try to give answers with solid evidence and if I'm not sure I'll say so, .

 

[noraina]

36) physical fighting with the opposite gender is allowed right? i mean fight, not play fighting. what about arm wrestling?

37) i'm practicing hijab nowadays, not at home though. i want to know if i have to wear hijab infront of my relatives that'll be coming in a day. they include my grandparents, aunts and uncles and younger cousins. do i have to wear hijab infront of them? my mom doesn't want me to wear it infront of them( they're not at all religious people, and mock me for being one) and says i dont have to wear it in front of them since they are close relatives. but i want to make sure if thats ok?

I'll leave 34 and 35 to someone else.

No, you should really avoid arm-wrestling with someone from the opposite gender, especially if both of you have passed puberty. In Islam even hand-shaking shouldn't be done so it is best to avoid physical contact.

You do not have to observe hijab in front of your grandparents or uncles (close uncles as in your mother's and father's brothers), however anyone who is more distantly related and definitely any males cousins (even first-cousins) are not your mahrams and so you should observe hijab in front of them. Try to gently explain to your mother the requirements of hijab, or I suppose you could say if someone takes a photo and sticks it up on social media somewhere you want to be wearing hijab on.

May Allah reward you for your interest and enthusiasm in Islam. xxx

 

[ramen-thelegend]

No, you should really avoid arm-wrestling with someone from the opposite gender, especially if both of you have passed puberty. In Islam even hand-shaking shouldn't be done so it is best to avoid physical contact.

its not like i always do that. i did once or twice and then everybody's challenging me! so i cant say no......its a compulsion then. its not like this happens everyday though.

You do not have to observe hijab in front of your grandparents or uncles (close uncles as in your mother's and father's brothers), however anyone who is more distantly related and definitely any males cousins (even first-cousins) are not your mahrams and so you should observe hijab in front of them. Try to gently explain to your mother the requirements of hijab, or I suppose you could say if someone takes a photo and sticks it up on social media somewhere you want to be wearing hijab on.

i've stopped talking back to my mom for a while now, i guess if i argue any more i'll loose temper again. my cousins are all alot younger than me. is it still not ok?

 

[ramen-thelegend]

answer me people!

30) can someone like me(...since you guys know me well enough now......)perform i'takaf? or like you have to be someone really pious and someone who doesn't bite nails. there's also quite alot of bad language being spoken/profanity and loud music and cursing at my home. no one's going to get me food, i will get it myself. i can keep some chips and snacks and friuts with me, that'll do it for about ten days, yeah i guess it can! so is it ok? any other things i should keep in mind, i've searched and read a /lot about it but i dont think the rules are for someone like me....

31) why does QURAN say "we" in some places? i mean many places? who is it referring to? like surah yusuf/12, ayah 3: "we narrate unto thee (Muhammad) the best of narratives...."

32) this might be a very broad topic but i'll try to shorten it up, looking at the muslims of today, those who hardly ever pray and utter more lies than truth and zakat is no obligtion to them. shouldn't jihad have been launched against them, atleast those those refuse to pay zakat? like hazrat Abu bakr did...i mean the apostasy movement...i mean obviously by the state, not me and not in non-muslim/western countries. yes or no? if this was happening in the times of the first four caliphs, they surely would have done that right? or are there different circumstances for it(u dont have to explain, a simple yes or no would do it)?

33) can i trust brother @Hamza [MENTION=37786]Kiro[/MENTION] @Serinity and sister @noraina blindly??? do they answer from full knowledge about stuff that i ask for or do they "think" and give their owns views AT times? can they please mention when they give their own assumptions?
(thats just to be on the safe side)

34) is sharing dreams that mean nothing ok? i mean dreams that are not deep or something? like gigantic green ants invade your home and you're hiding between 19 mattresses. or there's an annual lion day, on which an elephant sized lion is free to attack anyones home. or you're naruto, who's fighting goku......

35) i know the hadith that says we should not yawn, i mean stop it because satan laughs when we do that. but what if you cant always take it in? i hardly get 5 hours of sleep so i'm always yawning...i try to stop it and use the altenative, stretching, but that looks more bad...i still do that though, i dont care who thinks what. but i do care what islam says about it. so how do i deal with it?

as for [MENTION=37786]Kiro[/MENTION] you have to answer all the questions, i mean where you left i.e from question no.26.
for your convenience i'll jolt them down again:

26) does ALLAH swt change plans? or he knows what going to happen a million years from now, like all about everysingle moment and its for sure and he doesn't change plans?

27) if u come to know someone's doing something bad, do you complain about it or shut up? i know that hadith about hiding faults and about helping your brother, whether he is an oppressor or the oppressed but does that apply to someone who's doing something bad and you know it? AND its hurting someone too? do you still shut up or speak up?

28) if someone's lying and you already know the truth, how do you nicely tell them to stop lying because you know the truth? like hey stop, i know that ....but wont they be humiliated? that has happened several times and i just be like ok..and in btw i know the truth but i dont know how to tell them...

29) is being better in worship better or in worldly stuff? like if a person's reciting quran and another's taking care of some orphan, who's better? i mean should i take more time in worship or listen to/help my mom and my brother?

30) can someone like me(...since you guys know me well enough now......)perform i'takaf? or like you have to be someone really pious and someone who doesn't bite nails. there's also quite alot of bad language being spoken/profanity and loud music and cursing at my home. no one's going to get me food, i will get it myself. i can keep some chips and snacks and friuts with me, that'll do it for about ten days, yeah i guess it can! so is it ok? any other things i should keep in mind, i've searched and read a /lot about it but i dont think the rules are for someone like me....

31) why does QURAN say "we" in some places? i mean many places? who is it referring to? like surah yusuf/12, ayah 3: "we narrate unto thee (Muhammad) the best of narratives...."

32) this might be a very broad topic but i'll try to shorten it up, looking at the muslims of today, those who hardly ever pray and utter more lies than truth and zakat is no obligtion to them. shouldn't jihad have been launched against them, atleast those those refuse to pay zakat? like hazrat Abu bakr did...i mean the apostasy movement...i mean obviously by the state, not me and not in non-muslim/western countries. yes or no? if this was happening in the times of the first four caliphs, they surely would have done that right? or are there different circumstances for it(u dont have to explain, a simple yes or no would do it)?

33) can i trust brother @Hamza [MENTION=37786]Kiro[/MENTION] @Serinity and sister @noraina blindly??? do they answer from full knowledge about stuff that i ask for or do they "think" and give their owns views AT times? can they please mention when they give their own assumptions?
(thats just to be on the safe side)

34) is sharing dreams that mean nothing ok? i mean dreams that are not deep or something? like gigantic green ants invade your home and you're hiding between 19 mattresses. or there's an annual lion day, on which an elephant sized lion is free to attack anyones home. or you're naruto, who's fighting goku......

35) i know the hadith that says we should not yawn, i mean stop it because satan laughs when we do that. but what if you cant always take it in? i hardly get 5 hours of sleep so i'm always yawning...i try to stop it and use the altenative, stretching, but that looks more bad...i still do that though, i dont care who thinks what. but i do care what islam says about it. so how do i deal with it?

36) physical fighting with the opposite gender is allowed right? i mean fight, not play fighting. what about arm wrestling?

37) i'm practicing hijab nowadays, not at home though. i want to know if i have to wear hijab infront of my relatives that'll be coming in a day. they include my grandparents, aunts and uncles and younger cousins. do i have to wear hijab infront of them? my mom doesn't want me to wear it infront of them( they're not at all religious people, and mock me for being one) and says i dont have to wear it in front of them since they are close relatives. but i want to make sure if thats ok?

what do you think huh? i'm going to leave you alone? NEVER!! :raging::Evil::argue: now answer me! i dont care if its sunday!

 

[colinberry1]

Well my little sister you seem to be a very intelligent one, if everyone in the world ask questions like you the world would be a much better place. The Problem is that the majority of people do not have their own mind and conscience to answer questions they need to know, and always depend on others to tell them or show them the way, that is all right if we live in a perfect world..

I think as time go by your conscience will speak to you, whether you want to listen to what it has to say will make you the person you will become.

 

[ramen-thelegend]

Well my little sister you seem to be a very intelligent one,

hell no i'm not.

The Problem is that the majority of people do not have their own mind and conscience to answer questions they need to know, and always depend on others to tell them or show them the way

you're referring to me right?

I think as time go by your conscience will speak to you, whether you want to listen to what it has to say will make you the person you will become.

so you mean i should stop asking questions?

could you please be straightforward and simple? sorry, i'm not that intelligent. imsad