would it scare off a bro?

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so your are at the meeting and you have heard good about the sis (obviously, otherwise you wouldn't be there :p) only to find out that this sis is dead shy lol. the only men that have been in her lives have more or less been her brothers and dad, so basically, she doesnt really know how to cimmunicate with this potential.
its not out of immaturity that shes shy, but yeah just inexperience, i guess. so shes not much of a talker :-[

would that scare a brother off, becuse he may see her as too shy, etc :? im saying this sis is dead shy :-[

and also, what you-as a bro- advice us shy sisters how to handle it and be relaxed and talk to him, not just answer his questions.
 
Would it scare a bro off is the sister wasn't shy?
I don't mean she'd be all over the dude, I mean just able discussing things normally, having a regular conversation, that sort of thing?
 
nah it would make me think shes amazing, lol not scare me off.

her bein contact with nothing but mahram men is a HUGE plus
 
^exactly , shyness is good as long she is not arrogant and has an attitude :exhausted
 
Hey it works both ways. Both men and women get shy. I could understand in a situation like this why there would be those quiet moments and all but, that would not scare me off. Not sure why it would scare anyone off.

As far as advice goes well, just be yourself. It is better for both of you to see that in the beginning, rather then later on. If I meet someone, I don't want them to act perfect and try to pretend to be something they are not. I'd rather try to have a good time because people tend to be more open in a situation like that. And well if your 'potential' has an exam prepared for you, good luck
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This just being my opinion of course.
 
It wouldn't scare me off, i would be pleased to know that she is like that becuase then that means she would only feel comfortable talking to me! :D aweesome
 
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What if she was the opposite, not forward or anything, but able to keep the conversation going, being at ease? would that have the opposite effect?
 
some people love the whole shyness thing :rolleyes:

What if she was the opposite, not forward or anything, but able to keep the conversation going, being at ease? would that have the opposite effect?
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i dont think it should scare anyone off unless they are easily intimidated... id personally hate being in a silent room twiddling thumbs or something. ugh that whole process is not something i ever want to do
 
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anonymous said:
so your are at the meeting and you have heard good about the sis (obviously, otherwise you wouldn't be there :p) only to find out that this sis is dead shy lol. the only men that have been in her lives have more or less been her brothers and dad, so basically, she doesnt really know how to cimmunicate with this potential.
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Wouldn't you prefer things to be that way?
 
shy any day , its really attractive to me , modesty.

Dont see many shy girls anymore,
 
nightstar said:
shy any day , its really attractive to me , modesty.

Dont see many shy girls anymore,
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The way the brother described the sister in the first post, it gave me an impression of a sister who mumbles, mutters and squeaks. That's not modesty... That inconfidence and utterly pathetic.

AlfAlf said:
Nah, not really a bad thing. Just as long as she isn't loud/arrogant/prideful or comes across as a snotty 'lil-miss-know-it-all' in her speech.
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That's just confidence, boke.
 
Proudly_Muslim said:
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What if she was the opposite, not forward or anything, but able to keep the conversation going, being at ease? would that have the opposite effect?
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Me personally, I'd rather be around someone who is more outgoing than not.
 
I personally think what matters is the opinion of the bro you'll be marrying.
Hope it all goes well Insha'allah.
 
The Ruler said:
The way the brother described the sister in the first post, it gave me an impression of a sister who mumbles, mutters and squeaks. That's not modesty... That inconfidence and utterly pathetic.
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disagreed


but hey we all have our opinions.

my bro described my bhabi as red in the face n neva eva raised her head up wen he went to see her.

and trust me, she is CONFIDENT and not pathetic at all!



so yeh



assalamu alaikum
 
Alpha Dude said:
That's rather insulting. Did you know that the Prophet Musa Alaihe Salam used to be a shy man and that he'd have trouble articulating himself at times? I know you wouldn't dare call him pathetic.
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also our prophet sallallahi alaihi wasallaam was described as more shy then a virgin in her chamber or something to that affect, mashAllaah
 
^I read about that the other day, true.

A girl like that would have a lot of haya.
 
Sometimes, I hate my instincts for being right. Sigh.

Fighting4Iman said:
my bro described my bhabi as red in the face n neva eva raised her head up wen he went to see her.

and trust me, she is CONFIDENT and not pathetic at all!
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Did she squeak and mumble replies? Perhaps the image I had of her is different to the one you have of a shy person.

That's rather insulting. Did you know that the Prophet Musa Alaihe Salam used to be a shy man and that he'd have trouble articulating himself at times? I know you wouldn't dare call him pathetic.
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There's a big difference. I don't know if that was Musa (as) in a crowd or just a small group of people.

also our prophet sallallahi alaihi wasallaam was described as more shy then a virgin in her chamber or something to that affect, mashAllaah
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And yet we know what an amazing commander he (saw) was during the Battle of Uhud. Truly amazing.
 

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