Would you lie to get your friends to stop fighting?

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Would you lie to get your friends to stop fighting?

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Asalaamualaikum

i would only lie as a last resort, if id exhausted all other methods. i cant really imagine a situation where i would need to lie to make two friends lubbly jubbly again anyway. *scratches head*. because if they became friends and then talked about it all and then realised someone had told a lie... then back to square one it is!
 
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Abd'Majid said:
it is allowed if it makes peace between two people :eek:
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salam,

well bro they should know better you should just tell em the right not ''lie'' :heated:
as you would say ''if a dog barks then don't feed em''

w.salam
 
Assalamu alaikum

No, i wouldn't lie because lie's always come out in the end and that may cause more harm then good. I've been caught between two bickering friends on more than one occassion and i prefer to sit them both down and ask them to talk over their differences in a civilised manner. That works more effiecently, as it usually gets to the bottom of things quicker. They can either chose to put it behind them and be friends or go their separate ways if they really can't sort it out, without any real hard feelings and learn to tolerate each other if they are in each others company.

Ma'assalama
 
Noope i wouldn't!! u know y?? cuz i been through it before..every time i lie to make peace, i lose trust from people, and same when others do it to me..i lose trust in them..BUt i guess if it was that bad u can lie to make peace at the time, and then say the truth.godd..i hate the word "lie" soo much!! May Allah forgive us all!!
 
The jury is out in the poll situation though ... 1/3 for each option! :rollseyes
 
Muslimaatan said:
Noope i wouldn't!! u know y?? cuz i been through it before..every time i lie to make peace, i lose trust from people, and same when others do it to me..i lose trust in them..BUt i guess if it was that bad u can lie to make peace at the time, and then say the truth.godd..i hate the word "lie" soo much!! May Allah forgive us all!!
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in islam there are three cases when u r allowed to 'lie' or deceive-i think its when u r doing jihad (u cn deceive the enemy), to stop an argument between husband and wife (like 4 eg-the husband pretends to like something so as not to hurt his wife's feelings) and to make peace between two parties-but this isn't so simple and straightforward-no matter what we are NOT allowed to abuse these rights to 'lie'
 
49:9 If two parties among the Believers fall into a quarrel, make ye peace between them: but if one of them transgresses beyond bounds against the other then fight ye (all) against the one that transgresses until it complies with the command of Allah; but if it complies then make peace between them with justice and be fair: for Allah loves those who are fair (and just).

I think It says it all... you do not need to lie... it couldn't be said any better!
 
Assalamu Alaikum

Sister nurofislam, if it is between two of my Muslim friends then yes I would as you have written there that this is one of the very few parts a Muslim can lie but if it is with one Muslim and a Non-Muslim then no and if it is with two Non-Muslims then no.

Assalamu Alaikum
Shakirah

P.S. What about you Sister nurofislam?
 
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R_Mujahed said:
49:9 If two parties among the Believers fall into a quarrel, make ye peace between them: but if one of them transgresses beyond bounds against the other then fight ye (all) against the one that transgresses until it complies with the command of Allah; but if it complies then make peace between them with justice and be fair: for Allah loves those who are fair (and just).

I think It says it all... you do not need to lie... it couldn't be said any better!
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yeah, but if neither 'trangresses beyond bounds' but just feel ill towards eachother...then?:?
 
Lying is an extremely bad sin but fighting is even worse. So i suppose if two people are fighting then u can lie to make them make up. And if the Quran says something then u shouldn't question it - "enter islam completely"
 
marge1 said:
in islam there are three cases when u r allowed to 'lie' or deceive-i think its when u r doing jihad (u cn deceive the enemy), to stop an argument between husband and wife (like 4 eg-the husband pretends to like something so as not to hurt his wife's feelings) and to make peace between two parties-but this isn't so simple and straightforward-no matter what we are NOT allowed to abuse these rights to 'lie'
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thanxzz 4 that..:-D
 
marge1 said:
yeah, but if neither 'trangresses beyond bounds' but just feel ill towards eachother...then?:?
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When you are thinking it, is different then when you apply it... so unless someone trangresses against the other, then there will not be a fight... just hold it in yourself and do not display it! but if you do then the one that does not stop... you fight against!
 
R_Mujahed said:
49:9 If two parties among the Believers fall into a quarrel, make ye peace between them: but if one of them transgresses beyond bounds against the other then fight ye (all) against the one that transgresses until it complies with the command of Allah; but if it complies then make peace between them with justice and be fair: for Allah loves those who are fair (and just).

I think It says it all... you do not need to lie... it couldn't be said any better!
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jazakhAllah and if u dont mind i would just like to post the next verse after this which goes on to say
"049.010 The Believers are but a single Brotherhood: So make peace and reconciliation between your two (contending) brothers; and fear Allah, that ye may receive Mercy. "
 
Muslimaatan said:
Noope i wouldn't!! u know y?? cuz i been through it before..every time i lie to make peace, i lose trust from people, and same when others do it to me..i lose trust in them..BUt i guess if it was that bad u can lie to make peace at the time, and then say the truth.godd..i hate the word "lie" soo much!! May Allah forgive us all!!
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Exactly.. who trusts a liar?..When a person can so easily lie in such circumstances. Instead of telling the truth that would bring peace.

When a person lies to me, I never again take what they say as truth...I take everything they say with a pinch of salt. Their word means nothing at all.
 
Nicola said:
Exactly.. who trusts a liar?..When a person can so easily lie in such circumstances. Instead of telling the truth that would bring peace.

When a person lies to me, I never again take what they say as truth...I take everything they say with a pinch of salt. Their word means nothing at all.
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salam.
i definately agree with you why lie though one way or another they will find out and also god is watching telling the truth is better than lieing cause that leads to even bigger issue!
w.salam
 
salaam,

nope i would use other techniques that involves a beating...:p ....

but seriously...lying may even make it worse...so i'd just try and make them sort it out using good Islamic ways :) inshAllah

wassalam :peace:
 
i think it depends on the situation and it also depends on your friends.

it's pretty risky business because if they find out u've lied to them then they're gonna argue with u, so i wouldn't unless it was the last resort.
 

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