Zina has become widespread amongst Muslims but why?!

[Who Am I?]

lol, just wait till you find out how many muslim brothers and sisters aren't married/or ever have had relationships at 30 and plus ...not uncommon. the scenario is wayyyy too common...

I'm used to being alone. I've been alone for most of my life. I really don't think much about it anymore.

 

[flowergarden]

Salaam,
I also feel there are bad Muslims who hurt good Muslims... such as manipulation.

 

[ardianto]

Another statement from a local da'i.

"Zina happened because two factors, Intention and opportunity. If one of these two factors does not exist, zina will not happen. But actually the main factor is intention. If someone has intention, opportunity can be found".

 

[Abz2000]

marriage is a good measure to take - but that doesn't always stop it in a decadent society where the media push adultery as "cheating", and put pictures of mostly-naked women on front pages of their news sites, and when they constantly do interviews and stories with p""n actors (prost"""tes on film) p""n means prostitution, graphy comes from imagery - greek term. i can remember one bbc interview where they had a girl saying how her parents thought she was being used, then she told them how much money she makes and her dad was ok with it - it was as if they were promoting it, without mentioning that most of these women get lured into strip clubs and modelling in their college or uni days, and end up on the streets soliciting perverts when their looks fade away.
kids are growing up thinking it's normal and become desensitized to that crap - then their minds get perverted, then they turn into animals.
regarding the comment saying it's good that parents ensure their sons are earning loads to provide for the wife, i'm not sure if you're aware that

a woman was reported in sahih muslim to have come and offered herself to the Prophet (pbuh), he looked her up and down but didn't respond, finally one man responded saying i'll marry her, he asked, what do you have to give her as a dowry? the man said: the only property i have is the loincloth around my hips, the prophet, after gruelling him some more asked - even a ring of iron? the man answered: no, and was turning away in disappointment, the prophet asked: how much of the Quran do you know? the man said such and such, the Prophet is reported to have said: giver her (or teach her) these verses as a dowry. (3316).

the man will have to eat anyway, the woman will have to eat anyway, what's wrong with them avoiding decadence and eating anyway?

the companion of the Prophet (pbuh) Hanzalah (ra) is reported to have gotten married on the very day the battle of Uhud was announced, he fought and died and the Prophet named him 'Gaseelul Malaaikah' - the one bathed by the angels.

the Prophet (pbuh) married widows and so did his companions, there was not that type of stigma attached to divorce or marrying widows as there is in some cultures today, they saw it as a contract, if it wasn't working out, they'd divorce and remarry, but they wouldn't act it out like animals - they had structure, just as civilized humans do.

 

[Salahudeen]

^True abz if you've never been married and you marry a divorcee you're the talk of the town lol

 

[Abz2000]

while they forget that the first wife of the prophet was a widow who was older than him!

 

[ardianto]

^True abz if you've never been married and you marry a divorcee you're the talk of the town lol

That's in your town, not in abz town or my town. Some guys who I know married divorced women and they are not the talk of the town.

Not every divorced woman is 'bad woman', many of them are good women but they married 'wrong men'.

 

[Abz2000]

That's in your town, not in abz town or my town. Some guys who I know married divorced women and they are not the talk of the town.

Not every divorced woman is 'bad woman', many of them are good women but they married 'wrong men'.

lol i think you got salahuddeen all backwards, he seems to have mentioned the fact that in some cultures there is some wrongful stigma attached to it - where people think "they must have done something wrong", and when you listen to the women gossiping - it can be quite entertaining
but true - he should've emphasised that it's a stupid stigma which some ignorant people attach and that wise people should ignore it and see it as a way to change perceptions.
hell, here where i live - there's no stigma attached to men marrying men - so i wouldn't say that counts:statisfie

 

[Who Am I?]

When I was younger, I used to have a hang-up about not dating a divorced woman or a woman with kids. I know Muslims don't do the dating thing, but my point is that I realized as I got older that there's nothing wrong with divorced women or single moms.

 

[Salahudeen]

That's in your town, not in abz town or my town. Some guys who I know married divorced women and they are not the talk of the town.

Not every divorced woman is 'bad woman', many of them are good women but they married 'wrong men'.

I don't recall saying every divorced woman is a "bad woman" my mother is a divorced woman so if anyone understands the plight of divorcees and what they go through it's me. I agree with you :hmm: