Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

I've heard that this is what a lot of the Indonesian couples do - as soon as they get married go for hajj. Whether or not it's for Mahr I don't know. But this would be the perfect Mahr I would have thought.
 
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Alhamdulilah Somali Practising Sisters and families don't ask for nothing like what has been mentioned above, the average would be £1500 and £3000 is usually the Max. But personally I wouldnt pay more than £2000, because in Somali culture the man pays for all the wedding costs, and in Somali culture the new couple move into there own place and not in to the brothers families house like Indo/Pak culture so you have to include furniture costs which isn't cheap.

.....Yes I've planned it all and done my Maths......imsad lol :exhausted
 
IbnuFarah said:
Alhamdulilah Somali Practising Sisters and families don't ask for nothing like what has been mentioned above, the average would be £1500 and £3000 is usually the Max. But personally I wouldnt pay more than £2000, because in Somali culture the man pays for all the wedding costs, and in Somali culture the new couple move into there own place and not in to the brothers families house like Indo/Pak culture so you have to include furniture costs which isn't cheap.

.....Yes I've planned it all and done my Maths......imsad lol :exhausted
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Yeah, xalwad doesn't cost much either lol...and that's the main delicacy at any aroos. Ilahay ha ku gargaro inshaAllaah.
 
I kinda got into this but have never been married so take this for what its worth. I think more than a month's salary is being unfair to a brother.

Also, I don't think it is permissible to offer hajj as a mahr as that is obligatory anyway. There were talks about offering umrah as a mahr though.
 
convert said:
Also, I don't think it is permissible to offer hajj as a mahr as that is obligatory anyway. There were talks about offering umrah as a mahr though.
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Actually, about hajj, I've heard that it is the father that is obliged to take his daughter to hajj, not the husband. This is because the woman reaches puberty while under his care. Also, I'm pretty sure even a husband is not obliged to take his wife on hajj- if she has her own money she uses it, if not, she is unable to perform hajj, and will not be held accountable for it. However of course, if a man does pay for his wife making hajj, then it is all considered sadaqah on his part.

I've heard this and read this in other places, but inshaAllah I'll look for an online source about it.
 
Banu_Hashim said:
I've heard that this is what a lot of the Indonesian couples do - as soon as they get married go for hajj. Whether or not it's for Mahr I don't know. But this would be the perfect Mahr I would have thought.
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wow mashallah what a perfect Mahr!
 
Ameena* said:
Yeah, xalwad doesn't cost much either lol...and that's the main delicacy at any aroos. Ilahay ha ku gargaro inshaAllaah.
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O yes we can't forget the Halimad mashalllah lol.

Ameen Ameen lol

O yeah did I mention the Gold set, Somali Women love Gold :exhausted Mashallah.

Bani Hashim: Mashallah I think going to Hajj together as Mahr is perfect mashallah.
 
IbnuFarah said:
O yes we can't forget the Halimad mashalllah lol.

Ameen Ameen lol

O yeah did I mention the Gold set, Somali Women love Gold :exhausted Mashallah.
Bani Hashim: Mashallah I think going to Hajj together as Mahr is perfect mashallah.
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u joking?+o(
okay im exaggerating a bit i dont hate gold that much but its the last thing i want as a wedding gift! I know a lot of girls that share the same view as me! Go on ask your sisters (if you've any)
 
Ar-RaYYan said:
u joking?+o(
okay im exaggerating a bit i dont hate gold that much but its the last thing i want as a wedding gift! I know a lot of girls that share the same view as me! Go on ask your sisters (if you've any)
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Yes its sad, the sisters of the 21century prefers rare diamonds, coated with even rarer diamonds. :exhausted
 
I would want a private jet and a porsche carrerra GT covered with the rareest type of diamonds spelling out my name (=

Joking, pious sisters will normally ask for a little more than the minimum amount of money, eternal love and strong deen.

Aww :D
 
If i dnt have much money for a Mahr then id say this to my wife:

Hey listen wifee i don't have much money but i promise you ill spend most of my time with you and not with the hoor al ayn if we get to Jannah :P
 
nebula said:
If i dnt have much money for a Mahr then id say this to my wife:

Hey listen wifee i don't have much money but i promise you ill spend most of my time with you and not with the hoor al ayn if we get to Jannah :P
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Ahaha, that will get you nowhere bro.
Come on, some of us might be religious, but were not angels - sadly youre gonna have to cough up some pennies. You aint gonna get away with being dirt cheap lol.
 
Ill sell my ps3 and a few games, maybe ill have about £500 should do the job :thumbs_up
 
IbnuFarah said:
Why Copper when you can make it yourself, i'll make her my own set of jewellery from playdow and my lego playset, that way you can show your love and your skills (DIY).
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You can also show off your new bruises after shes done with you.
Bro, dont do it, you will be black and blue, and a few other colours too if shes a tough one lol.
 
ill put myself as the mahr... :X either way your stuck with me muhahah
 
idk said:
You can also show off your new bruises after shes done with you.
Bro, dont do it, you will be black and blue, and a few other colours too if shes a tough one lol.
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I can take her to court for domestic abuse and call it a attempt to honour kill me.
 
IbnuFarah said:
Yes its sad, the sisters of the 21century prefers rare diamonds, coated with even rarer diamonds. :exhausted
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yeah! whats wrong with that! Your wife would appreciate you much more :p

on a serious note i was just saying that not all somali sisters want gold as a wedding gift and i wasnt even thinking about diamonds at the time! Just because a sister dont want a gold it doesnt mean she wants something that cost more rather something she can always value and appreciate.

You can also show off your new bruises after shes done with you.
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ditto :thumbs_up just what i was thinking!
 
Ar-RaYYan said:
yeah! whats wrong with that! Your wife would appreciate you much more :p

on a serious note i was just saying that not all somali sisters want gold as a wedding gift and i wasnt even thinking about diamonds at the time! Just because a sister dont want a gold it doesnt mean she wants something that cost more rather something she can always value and appreciate.


ditto :thumbs_up just what i was thinking!
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Yes mashallah are sister are going to make it easy for us and them, I was just kidding with you guys.
 

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