My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightmare,

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Brother, one of your family members gonna get hurt one day and suffering persecution like that is bad enough.

Can you afford a night security guard to watch over your house? (probably a stupid question as your just working class...)

I'm getting angry at what's happening to you... I feel like telling you to do revenge attacks on their house but that might bring more trouble! :Emoji19:

- prostrating to Allah and crying - "Thank you Allah! Thank you Allah! Thank you Allah! I thank you Allah that you have decreed for me to not get married! I thank you Allah for making me single! Thank you Allah that I do not have children! I don't deserve your mercy! Allah Akbar!"

New young men who want to get married, read this post first then ponder the risks after all that if you still want to get married, do it.
 
Every night for the past 2 weeks I have been reading 4 units of nafl prayer and the last 3 ayats of surah bakarah and praying for protection for myself, my family members, our property and all muslims. Last night I finished praying and read surahs and got into bed, five minutes later ....... BANG! Everyone checking and eventually i find Glass smashed front of the house. We got em on cctv this time but faces blurry. It is people from london.

Anyone else face this kind of intimidation and persecution?


Good news! I talked to a very high end professional accountant in my company and he said DO NOT GO TO THE MEDIA...they will make matters worse. He said instead hire a private investigator. They know the laws in your country and they used to be police themselves. They are not very expensive. They will get all the evidence and everything you need to take it to court. The court will stop them and if they still do it, they will be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law!
 
- prostrating to Allah and crying - "Thank you Allah! Thank you Allah! Thank you Allah! I thank you Allah that you have decreed for me to not get married! I thank you Allah for making me single! Thank you Allah that I do not have children! I don't deserve your mercy! Allah Akbar!"

New young men who want to get married, read this post first then ponder the risks after all that if you still want to get married, do it.

LOL don't take it to extremes, marraige is a great sunnah and most marraiges work out. This brother has just been unfortunate to have married the 'wicked witch of the east' :(

Bruv, you're missing out big time! Don't you wanna taste the 'pleasures of the birds and the bees? You should get married! :)
 
LOL don't take it to extremes, marraige is a great sunnah and most marraiges work out. This brother has just been unfortunate to have married the 'wicked witch of the east' :(

Bruv, you're missing out big time! Don't you wanna taste the 'pleasures of the birds and the bees? You should get married! :)


you know you say it in jest but its probably closer to the truth than you imagine.

having a good women with you brings better planning for the future.


..you may become cannibals but at least you would be winning.



most of our souls are wickedly corrupt, its a good thing we dont know about them.


honestly it hurts me more than you know, but what can you do?

feels like i found everything BUT god.


dont get me wrong, im really happy with my family..

i just have a hard time seeing how people use them.
 
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you know you say it in jest but its probably closer to the truth than you imagine.

having a good women with you brings better planning for the future.


..you may become cannibals but at least you would be winning.

LOL @you may become cannibals! I hope that isn't anything rude :Emoji46:
 
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Our Imraan brother is going through serious distress so we shouldn't turn this thread into one of fun and laughter guys!.
[MENTION=43069]Imraan[/MENTION], I got an idea bro, whether you can manage to get clear images out of the cctv footage or not, you can tell your inlaws family that you got clear images and if them boys return once more, you'll give them to the police!.
 
you know you say it in jest but its probably closer to the truth than you imagine.

having a good women with you brings better planning for the future.


..you may become cannibals but at least you would be winning.



most of our souls are wickedly corrupt, its a good thing we dont know about them.


honestly it hurts me more than you know, but what can you do?

feels like i found everything BUT god.


dont get me wrong, im really happy with my family..

i just have a hard time seeing how people use them.

Brother, I can hardly understand anything you say. I think you mentioned once that you got some waswas problem.... Just do your prayers brother and everything will be OK :)
 
Our Imraan brother is going through serious distress so we shouldn't turn this thread into one of fun and laughter guys!.

[MENTION=43069]Imraan[/MENTION], I got an idea bro, whether you can manage to get clear images out of the cctv footage or not, you can tell your inlaws family that you got clear images and if them boys return once more, you'll give them to the police!.

maybe he should fight, at least then people will know what hes complaining about.

...maybe it will go the other way and he can finally answer the demons in his head.

although intent is everything.. so dont kill anybody.


im kidding, you cant fake it.. some people are just bad news.
 
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maybe he should fight, at least then people will know what hes complaining about.

...maybe it will go the other way and he can finally answer the demons in his head.

although intent is everything.. so dont kill anybody.

Nah he shouldn't fight as they are strong (having goons from London to do their dirty work) but Imraan is a peaceful brother not into fighting.

Fighting will just cause them to get more vicious and attack even more or in worse ways.

I think he should just give his ex the 3 talaqs they're after and get some murabbis to talk and sort it out
 
Nah he shouldn't fight as they are strong (having goons from London to do their dirty work) but Imraan is a peaceful brother not into fighting.

Fighting will just cause them to get more vicious and attack even more or in worse ways.

I think he should just give his ex the 3 talaqs they're after and get some murabbis to talk and sort it out

Wait! All of this mess is because he have not divorced her yet and they are looking for the divorce? Man! Just divorce her. She will pay the consequence with Allah in the afterlife. Remember the ahadeeth about any woman who ask for divorce for no Islamic reason will not smell the fragrance of paradise? Well in that case let them have that against them. Why do you care? Divorce her man! They are doing all that because they do not want her to pay Khula to you. It is all about money, Khulla and how they want to avoid paying you back. Money comes and goes, children comes and goes, just divorce her and move on. Finish this war once and for all and live your life happily. Is this drama worth it?
 
https://islamqa.info/en/answers/162...m-to-divorce-his-wife-with-a-threefold-talaaq

Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:

If a man is forced to issue a divorce by means of physical harm or damage to his property, or threats to do such things to him or he is threatened with imprisonment, by a person with power who he thinks most likely will carry out his threat, the divorce does not count as such in that case.

It says in Zaad al-Mustaqni‘: Whoever is forced to do something unjustly by means of harm caused to him or to his child, or by having property taken away from him, or by means of threats to do one of these things by a person with power who he thinks can carry out the threat, and he issues a divorce on that basis, it does not count as a divorce. End quote.

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said: The Sahaabah ruled that the divorce issued by one who is forced to do it does not count as such. It was narrated from ‘Umar that a man suspended a rope so that he could collect honey from the mountain; his wife came to him and said: I shall certainly cut the rope if you do not divorce me. He adjured her by Allah not to do that, but she insisted, so he divorced her. He came to ‘Umar and told him what had happened, and he said to him: Go back to your wife, for this is not a divorce. The opinion that it does not count as a divorce was also narrated from ‘Ali, Ibn ‘Umar and Ibn al-Zubayr (may Allah be pleased with them).

End quote from Zaad al-Ma‘aad, 5/208

And he (may Allah have mercy on him) said: He [i.e., Imam Ahmad] said according to the report of Abu’l-Haarith: If one who is forced issues a divorce, the divorce is not binding. If something similar is done to him as was done to Thaabit ibn al-Ahnaf, then he has been forced, because they squeezed Thaabit’s leg until he issued a divorce. Then he went to Ibn ‘Umar and Ibn al-Zubayr, who did not think it counted for anything. And Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): “except him who is forced thereto and whose heart is at rest with Faith” [al-Nahl 16:106]. This verse was quoted as evidence by Imam al-Shaafa‘i (may Allah have mercy on him) to prove that divorce issued by one who is forced does not count as such.

In Sunan Ibn Maajah it is narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Allah has let my ummah off for mistakes, forgetfulness and what they are forced to do.

End quote from I‘laam al-Muwaqqi‘een, 4/51.

Based on that, your divorce does not count as such and your wife is still married to you.

You have to refer your case to the shar‘i court to cancel the divorce and take back your property.

Secondly:

The threefold talaaq counts as one talaaq according to the correct scholarly view. So whoever divorces his wife with a threefold talaaq – willingly – it counts as one talaaq and it is permissible for him to take her back during the ‘iddah.

Thirdly:

If the wife knows that her husband’s talaaq was issued under duress, it is not permissible for her to marry another husband, because she is still married to the first one; her second marriage is invalid and it is zina (adultery).

And Allah knows best.


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HA! Let him divorce her under force and threat like they are doing (all to avoid giving the husband the khula and his right) let them do it! Divorce her Imraan under the intention you are been forced and you don't mean it so that they fall under the misconception that they found a loop hole against Allah's law so that they fall under kuffar. If they are that evil, let them do it. If they don't have the intention of finding a loop hole against Allah's law but believe by forcing you and you issue the divorce they are free from you, let them fall under major sin as when she starts having relationship with other men she is committing zina. EITHER WAY YOU WON and they lost. Either through you and their evil way they have left of Islam or they allow their daughter to commit Zina and steal from you and steal from your property and use Kafir law to oppress a Muslim brother and in return you are getting higher and higher and higher and higher level of paradise.

Also with her evil way she is cutting ties between father and daughter believing like majority of women that THEY HAVE FULL RIGHTS AND CHILDREN ARE THEIR OWN PROPERTY and men are nothing more than a sperm donor....this woman will be punished for cutting ties between child and father and you will be taking and taking and taking and taking and taking and taking and taking her good deeds. Brother....prepare and be ready. You are going to take all the good deeds from your ex-wife, you are going to take all the good deeds from her mother, from her father and from any of her family who did not stop this evil way and who conspired against you...maaaaan.......- runs and gives you a huge hug - Allah loves you! Allah loves! :cry: :cry:
 
Our Imraan brother is going through serious distress so we shouldn't turn this thread into one of fun and laughter guys!.

[MENTION=43069]Imraan[/MENTION], I got an idea bro, whether you can manage to get clear images out of the cctv footage or not, you can tell your inlaws family that you got clear images and if them boys return once more, you'll give them to the police!.

CCTV has already been given to the police... the police in the uk are so slow.
 
Nah he shouldn't fight as they are strong (having goons from London to do their dirty work) but Imraan is a peaceful brother not into fighting.

Fighting will just cause them to get more vicious and attack even more or in worse ways.

I think he should just give his ex the 3 talaqs they're after and get some murabbis to talk and sort it out

They look at me and my family as vulnerable, they want to bully us into submission. We want to end it all off course, hopefully the right way. I'm not sure giving 3 talaqs and taking all blame and potentially end up in court over asset claims is the right thing to do, anyway what if they carry on?

Looking for my own might for protection and retaliation. Can be hard getting involved in that especially if we ain't been involved before. Praying and hoping Allah swt will get justice for me in this life... we need his assistance and infinite might right now... been waiting for it for a while actually !!!
 
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They look at me and my family as vulnerable, they want to bully us into submission. We want to end it all off course, hopefully the right way. I'm not sure giving 3 talaqs and taking all blame and potentially end up in court over asset claims is the right thing to do, anyway what if they carry on?

Looking for my own might for protection and retaliation. Can be hard getting involved in that especially if we ain't been involved before. Praying and hoping Allah swt will get justice for me in this life... we need his assistance and infinite might right now... been waiting for it for a while actually !!!

Putting your trust on Allah is the very first thing you need to do. It is requirement on every single human being. Prayer is also another thing you need to do (believe in) and put your trust that Allah is the answer of all prayer. You have done two of three things. Finally, the third thing is action. You need to stand up and play the initiative role and do your action. Don't sit still and wait for your problem to be solved to you. You have to stand up, after doing praying and putting your trust on Allah is to fight. Get the sword that is hanging on the wall collecting dust, wear your chainmail, helmet and gloves. Grab the shield and tell your mom, "Mom! I am going out to fight the war that have been declared on us! Pray for me!" Get out of that four confined walls called your home...slam the door shut...take a deep breath, grin (knowing that Allah is with you), left that sword to reflect on the sun light and shout "AAAAAAaaaahh!" (after shouting "Allah Akbar" of course)!

Chaaaaarge baby! Chaaarge! Fight! Fight like you have never fought before! Fight! All the advise I have given you apply it! Apply it!! - shakes Imraan causing his head to tilt back and forth - Fight for justice!!!!

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They look at me and my family as vulnerable, they want to bully us into submission. We want to end it all off course, hopefully the right way. I'm not sure giving 3 talaqs and taking all blame and potentially end up in court over asset claims is the right thing to do, anyway what if they carry on?

Looking for my own might for protection and retaliation. Can be hard getting involved in that especially if we ain't been involved before. Praying and hoping Allah swt will get justice for me in this life... we need his assistance and infinite might right now... been waiting for it for a while actually !!!

BRother it's best to just sort it out as amicably as possible. Giving 3 talaqs won't be rendering yourself liable to blame, it will just free her to marry again and you should do that anyway out of taqwa so she don't fall into zina sin.

Don't take all blame in court, infact don't take any blame in court as she is the guilty one in this break up.

I think telling your inlaws that you have clear cctv footage and threatening to give it to police might get them to stop the persecution

Getting a private detective like xbox suggested is a good idea too. He can gather evidence of them culprit stone throwers' connection to your inlaws...

MY dua is with you and your family bro. I wish I knew you personally so I can send my goons round to threaten the life out of your inlaws and stop this persecution once and for all, however you yourself keep to the peaceful path as fighting isn't worth it,, it will just makes things worse.
 
Just stay patient with them and remember to be good when someone does bad to you. Be strong with iman. Be patient and know that Jannatul Firdaus is for all of us.
 
Just stay patient with them and remember to be good when someone does bad to you. Be strong with iman. Be patient and know that Jannatul Firdaus is for all of us.

i have my elderly mom and sister at home. have to look into ways to stopping it, not sit there n take it twice in three weeks and more.... Allah swt is always with us and we pray to him everyday for protection and calamity prevention.... but it still happens. believe we have to take some kind of action, not getting much assistance from police here either so what does a vulnerable family like us do? my mom is always saying dont do anything back or else it will get worse and to just wait it out. but repeat damage and harrassment should never be something an individual should tolerate.
 
BRother it's best to just sort it out as amicably as possible. Giving 3 talaqs won't be rendering yourself liable to blame, it will just free her to marry again and you should do that anyway out of taqwa so she don't fall into zina sin.

Don't take all blame in court, infact don't take any blame in court as she is the guilty one in this break up.

I think telling your inlaws that you have clear cctv footage and threatening to give it to police might get them to stop the persecution

Getting a private detective like xbox suggested is a good idea too. He can gather evidence of them culprit stone throwers' connection to your inlaws...

MY dua is with you and your family bro. I wish I knew you personally so I can send my goons round to threaten the life out of your inlaws and stop this persecution once and for all, however you yourself keep to the peaceful path as fighting isn't worth it,, it will just makes things worse.

Thanks for everyones prayers, Jazak Allah, still waiting for relief and justice in this world. [MENTION=17452]Ahmed.[/MENTION] you've got your own goons?

the divorce should be mutual but their mentality is something else. if i give triple talaq and have a islamic divorce certificate issued, having spoken to legal experts in the past, that same certificate can be used in UK courts and they can make all sorts of financial claims.
 

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