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Re: Bullying

Muezzin said:
Kick

Their

Ass

You'll get all this lah-de-dah advice, but with habitual bullying that has not stopped when all other avenues have been exhausted, that's the only viable solution short of calling the police.
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I was going to say similar thing, but a non-muslim will say "See muslim's teach violence"

Actually. I still will not advice him to take that root, only in self defence. I am sure his not getting beaten up.

Your freinds scenario is funny. :giggling:
 
Re: Bullying

Muezzin said:
Kick

Their

Ass
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I tried that on the younger guys after they threw mud, but that didn't work, they just threw even more at me. Chavs hang around in gangs, and they like 'smacking people up', so that is a bad choice, and chavettes have cigarette butts and nails to use as weapons. They are also girls, which means that it is a school taboo to hit them. Chavettes are also perverted, and have been known to grab guys down below too.
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Do you know their names, Fishman? If they've actually injured you, you could try going to the cops.

Skillganon said:
I was going to say similar thing, but a non-muslim will say "See muslim's teach violence"
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That's why I said 'when all other avenues have been exhausted'. I.e. if the bully and the bullied can't sort it out non-violently, and the bullied has told the teachers but they can't do squat, and the bullied is tired of running, the only thing left for the bullied person to do is fight back or call the police.

Actually. I still will not advice him to take that root, only in self defence. I am sure his not getting beaten up.
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Exactly. Self defence.
 
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Re: Bullying

Muezzin said:
That's why I said 'when all other avenues have been exhausted'. I.e. if the bully and the bullied can't sort it out non-violently, and the bullied has told the teachers but they can't do squat, and the bullied is tired of running, the only thing left for the bullied person to do is fight back.


Exactly. Self defence.
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I don't actually think there is anything teachers can do about it except for expelling the bully permanently, which they don't do. and I don't know the names of most of these people anyway.
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Re: Bullying

This is what I advise yuo to do.

Show them that your not scared, i.e. if they say anything to you act calm.

Also respond to them with things that they don't expect, some people actually want a fight so they hope that you speak bad to them, so say to them "Fear God" or "Your going to beat me up? Thats real smart, why are you so insecure?" or "Do what you want to me, I aint done nothing to you! Why cant you act normal?"

I've never tried these as I wasnt ever really confronted, but some will catch them by suprise and it would be good da'wah.
 
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Al Habeshi said:
This is what I advise yuo to do.

Show them that your not scared, i.e. if they say anything to you act calm.

Also respond to them with things that they don't expect, some people actually want a fight so they hope that you speak bad to them, so say to them "Fear God" or "Your going to beat me up? Thats real smart, why are you so insecure?" or "Do what you want to me, I aint done nothing to you! Why cant you act normal?"

I've never tried these as I wasnt ever really confronted, but some will catch them by suprise and it would be good da'wah.
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They don't want a fight, they just do it because they think it's all a good joke...
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Are you the only one they single out coz your a revert? or does it happen to others also but less often maybe?

The only thing you can do by the looks of it is avoid them, run if they near by if you must. Insh'Allah this phase will pass. I wouldn't know what else to do as teachers and Police don't seem to be of much help.

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Greetings, Fishman

Bullying is something the school should be addressing!
There should be policies and action plans in place!

Have you told all this to your parents? Have you and/or they spoken to your teacher and/or the head teacher?

If you keep this to yourself and don't tell anybody about it, you cannot expect the adults to help you.
Telling us here is all well and good - but we cannot really help you!

I would advise you to seek help.
Keep a record of who has been bullying you, and when, and whether there were witnesses.
Don't suffer alone. It is alright to ask for help!

Peace :)
 
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WnbSlveOfAllah said:
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Are you the only one they single out coz your a revert? or does it happen to others also but less often maybe?
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No, it's nothing to do with religion. They do not single me out for any reason, they just do it because ''it's Oliver!''.
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Well if it is a girl. Than I advise you to kiss her on the cheeck and tell her she is beutiful. Or compliment them, like I think you have nice eye's.
 
Re: Bullying

Skillganon said:
Well if it is a girl. Than I advise you to kiss her on the cheeck and tell her she is beutiful. Or compliment them, like I think you have nice eye's.
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Astagfirullah! :heated:

Why would I want to kiss somebody who smells of smoke anyway?
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if a bully calls you a name then you call him a name and if a bully hits you you hit him back but make sure you hit him harders so hell get the message trust me thats the only way it will work
 
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mohammed farah said:
if a bully calls you a name then you call him a name and if a bully hits you you hit him back but make sure you hit him harders so hell get the message trust me thats the only way it will work
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That doesn't really work, calling them or hitting them just makes them more aggressive.
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Re: Bullying

Assalmualikum.
Akhi this is Bullying which can not be tolerated anyway you need to stand up for your self do not fight back just go && tell a teacher inshallah, never keep it to your self tell an adult && what they did was not right at all because...

1. bullying is not allwoed anywhere
2.as there are kids report them
3. don't be scared
4. stand up for your self them more your going to let them get away with it thats how much there going to do it worse

&& about kissing a gyal HARAM!! why would he kiss her gyal!!! NAUTHUBILLAH!
Ma'assalama
 
Re: Bullying

mohammed farah said:
if a bully calls you a name then you call him a name and if a bully hits you you hit him back but make sure you hit him harders so hell get the message trust me thats the only way it will work
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Assalmualaikum
why do you want a person whom is getting bullied to fight back! people think about what your saying we don't anyone to have a fight best of all to an adult!
Ma'assalama
 
Re: Bullying

Assalmualikum.
some of you don't realise bullying is a very big issue which can not be tolerated therefore it's best to go && tell an adult because bullying can be name calling,pushing you around every time,swearing, picking on you. thy littlest thing is bullying therefore you can't just keep it in but you need to speak aloud && be heard the more your goign to let them away with it you never know next day they can do somethign else && also as you are at school in a mixed gender stuff like this happen thats why yopu have teachers there for you, if not tell your pal to go with you && report to the headmisstress && also don't be scared you need confidence in you Akhi. maybe report them to your parents.
Ma'assalama
 
Re: Bullying

The first and most difficult step is to overcome fear. Bullys thrive on the knowledge they have instilled fear. That is difficult and the hardest task you will face in this situation.

First acknowledge you do have fears, not just here, but truly let yourself know you have fear. (I know you are going to say you can feel it you don't need to prove to your self you have fears) Stop and think about how you feel because of this fear.

Second ask yourself if you like this feeling. what about the feeling don't you like. What is the single part of the feeling is strongest.

Now, look and tell yourself why you want this feeling to leave you. This is the time to make some very serious Du'as and ask for the strength and the ability to stop these feelings.

Keep this up until you have the knowledge Allah(swt) has given you the ability to be stronger than the fears.

Once you have overcome the feeling of the fears, you begin to eliminate the cause of them. That can be done in one of three manners.

Remove the cause from your environment.
Remove yourself from the environment.
Change your attitude about the cause.

You most likely will have no control over 2 of them choices. So concentrate on what is the choice left for you. With guidance from Allah(swt) make a workable plan as to how you can accomplish that. Be absolutly certain that you only think of Halal methods, or shaytan will poison your mind and cause you to make an unworkable plan. Make Du'a often, ask for knowledge, srtength and the ability to forgive the bullys.

Now carry through with what you can do and stand tall with no feeling of fear. With the fear conqured you have removed the strongest weapon the bullies had and you have overcome them, even if they do not change.
 
Re: Bullying

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bro if you can defend yourself then defend yourself, if its 100% chance that you'll get sent to a hospitol then avoid it.

lol bro, may you get shaheed (lol wat, thats a good thing :D)
 

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