Coping with Depression, stress and anger

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Re: I am really sad brothers and sisters :(

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Salam brothers and sisters i am really sad :(
I am upset because of our Ummah, muslims themselves are being in denial most are going astray i know that people should worry for themself like i have been told but it really makes me sad! I am upset when i try to preach sisters but all i get is the cold shoulder or just nothing from them they say Insh`Allah i change but they never :(
I am so sad and feel like crying when i think about all the muslims that are suffering around the world! Why isnt our Ummah strong we know the future we know what is going to happen why are muslims denying the word of Allah swt why are they so naive to think they will live forever?
I am sad that i cant wear my niqab in this country because of University policy :(
I am so very sad i make Dua to Allah swt i wish i could do more this is really upsetting brothers and sisters
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one thing be patient think about the future, for ''everything in the heavens and on earth and all in between shall disapeare but forever shall abide the Face of thy lord Full of Honour and Majesty''
Ah! Allah said it perfect indeed!!!:w: :thankyou:
 
Re: I am really sad brothers and sisters :(

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Bro and sis... Allah will not burden His slave more than their ability. Im sure all muslim feel sad about the reality of this ummah, but dont you ever read hadith that said "If you see one denial, use ur hand to fix it, if you cant then use your tongue (words) and if you still cant then by heart and its the weakest iman". So...do we can change this ummah with our hands? "hands" in this hadith means power and its addressed for the shulton (leader). Do we have power? No, we just usual muslim. Do we can fix this ummah with our words? No...its Ulama who have to do the job cause theyre the one who have capability to do this. So what we should do? All we can do for now is pray and study Islam more. And while doing it we can do self introspection and clean our self from deviate activities. Cause not all muslims may talk about Islam, and make a decision about haram and halal. Only them who have strength in knowledge who able to do this.
This dien, ISLAM is so so wide in knowledge. And to do our obligatory in Islam is so easy, cause Islam is easy and light, and it cant be burden for a good muslim. But to spread Islam and dawa is so hard and full with obstacles, so someone who want to do dawah then they must have enough knowledge with the right understanding too. So every muslim must study and study and study if they really care for this ummah. So they can have ability to do dawah, and to do the tashfiyah (purification) in this dien. With a good knowledge according Al Qur'an and sunnah on the right glorious path of salafus shalih we can help do da'wah to this ummah, step by step so the ummah have ability to separate which is syirk and which is Tauhid, they can separate sunnah and bid'ah, so Islam will be back to the original way just like when Rasulullah shalallahu alaihi wasallam wafat (dead).
Akhee and ukhtee, we may feel sorry about this ummah but we cant follow our spirit without ilm and do something thats against the syariah and reasoning we are trying to make this ummah better. For example when we know our ikhwah in Iraq been attacked by USA. We felt truely sad surely, who doesnt right, while Rasulullah said "Muslims like one body, if one part bleeding then the other part of the body will feel it too with fever". And we may help our brothers in Iraq, but we should see our capability first, what we can do? Do we can help them with weapons? Or with soldiers? Or with missile? No, we cant do anything except praying or collected money for our brothers there (or anywhere else on earth) so at least they still can have something to eat. But...theres many muslims these days, in order just to show their simphaty then they choose their own way, they did political demonstration on the street, gathering together and ikhtilat (mix) between men and women and they made yales to curse USA and their gangs. Is it along with syar'i? No. Its haraam, and its bid'ah, something that Rasulullah never do. And Rasulullah said "something new in this dien called bid'ah, and bid'ah is deviate and deviation go to hell". And also he said "whoever do some amaal which has no example from us, then their amaal will be rejected". And also by doing demonstration, its usually causing something thats even more worse. And also none of our ulama ever do demonstration, only egnorant siyasah people who doing it. Cause its not Islam, Islam never know demonstration, its sunnah of kafereen. And the first people who did demonstration is them who surround calyph Uthman bin affan under their leader munafiqun Abdullah bin Saba' and ended with the killing of Uthman bin Affan radhiallahu anhu.
And another example when those damned people make a picture of a man (they claimed its Rasulullahs pic but Rasulullahs name still as pure as it can be forever alhamdulillah), and eeeeeeeevery muslims from over the world flooding to the street cursing the painter, whats for? It would just mubazeer (and mubazeer friend of devil) to do so. How much money that had thrown away just like that, and there was many ikhtilat (mix) between men and women, a lot of dstruction of public properties, and lot of muslims bleeding, and what is the profit? Cause they (kafeer) help eachother among them and they will not silent till they can bring muslim into their religion, and the painter also wont get punished eventhought we do demonstration eeevery week. Let Allah punish them, and He has punished them a bit, they got punished by their own dirty hands by their own movie called "the da vinci code", its make their own religion looked real bad in front of them self masha Allah. And the almighty's punishment will be there till yaumul qiyamah for them Wallahi. Even muslim who underestimate sunnah will be punished by Allah subanahu wa ta'ala. How about non muslim?
So, if you really love this ummah, you can start by fixing your self, do tashfiyah to your self, read books of our scholars of salaf and then do tashfiyah to your family, and then to your neighbour and friends, and if you have enough capability of ilm you can do dawah to people insha Allah. But for the meanwhile just pray and make your self busy with study Islam with the right sources.
Wallahi, the victory will be ours insha Allah, but first we have to bring back this dienul Islam to the time of Rasulullah with his companions ridhwanallahu alaihim ajma'een. We gotta have tauhid like them, ibadah like them, akhlaq like them, muamalah like them, and we may not adding or decrease something from this dien, cause its bid'ah and it will make dienul Islam blur, and it will make the line between the wrong and the right become blur. And if we let bid'ah then Islam will be like jews and christian, the genuine thought will be unidentified cause so many bid'ah in their thoughts. And in the end Islam will be forgotten. But Allah have promised that He will protect Quran and He azza wa jalla Him self also will protect Islam till yaumul qiyamah. So we have to do like Rasulullah and His companions do so we can have the glory on earth. Dont we remember that history have proven that in Rasulullahs and the companions time the jews, christian and other ummah were so small, they have no izzah at all in front of muslims. And their destiny lied in muslims hands. So if we want to have a strong ummah, so we have to do Islam like Rasulullah and his companions, and have faith like them, tauhid like them, ibadah, akhlaq, muamalah like them. With no addition or decreasing. And slowly but sure we will be the leader of the human on earth insha Allah wa bi idhnillah :brother:
 
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Du'as for anxiety/difficulty

اللَّهُمَّ إنِّي أعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْهَمِّ وَ الْحَزَنِ ، وَ الْعَجْزِ وَ الْكَسَلِ ، وَ الْبُخْلِ وَ الْجُبْنِ ، وَ ضَلَعِ الدِّيْنِ وَ غَلَبَةِ الرِّجَالِ
Allahumma inni a'udhubika minal hammi wal hazan, wal 'ajzi wal kasal, wal bukhli wal jubn, wa dhala'id-dayni wa ghalabatir rijaal
O Allah! I seek refuge in You from grief and sadness, from weakness and from laziness, from miserliness and from cowardic

O Allah! I seek refuge in You from grief and sadness, from weakness and from laziness, from miserliness and from cowardice, from being overcome by debt and from being overpowered by men (other people)
[Sahih al-Bukhari 7:158]


اللَّهُم¡ ; اِنِّى اُنْزِلُ بِكَ حَاجَتِىْ وَ اِنْ قَصُرَ رَابِىْ وَ ضُعْفَ عَمَلِى افْتَقَرْت ;ُ اِلى رَحمَتِكَ
Allahumma inni unzila bika haajati wa-in qasuura rubbi wa du'fa 'amali iftaqartu illa Rahmatika
O Allah! I ask You to answer my needs, though my intellect is weak, and my actions are defective, O Allah! I am in need of Your Mercy

Innaka 'ala ma-tasha'-u qadeer wa anta hasbeeya wa na'mal wakeel
O Allah! You do whatever You wish, and You are my Availer and Protector and the best of aid.
 
Re: I am really sad brothers and sisters :(

Salam,
the most comforting verse in the quran from my point of view is 'fabassheeril mo'mineen' = 'give glad tidings to the believers'. i found this verse very relieveing in times of stress etc. and for things to change, we must first change ourselves. dont worry sis, we are with you. and whats more, Allah is with us. peace! smiles!
 
Im so depressed :(

I know I will sound really bad for going out with this guy (or any guy for that matter) but I need to get this off my chest, I need your help and advice, i'm suffering so much.

I'm a Sunni female and he is an Ahmedi, I know it's really bad but I only found about him being Ahmedi after I got too attached to him, people have told me to keep away as Ahmedi's are known as kafir and they are no good. But i always found it hard as i'd fallen head over heals for him.

I split up with him about a month ago and its been torture for me, I can't seem to move on, I know it's for the best but why can't I accept that it's over and just move on. He never felt the same as i did, i know he liked me alot at the start but i guess his feelings faded. I cant handle the pain of rejection and the pain of him leaving me.

Im finding this soooooooo hard, there's no words to describe this pain. i start crying for him for the silliest reasons, like when i hear a song on the radio, or i go to a place where me n him went... anything and everything reminds me of him and i cant get away from it. I cry myself to sleep at night thinkin about the times we spent together, and my heart breaks into a millions pieces when i think about how he's moved on & forgotten about me so easily.

My heart is not in peace, i need some kind of peace, i have been praying namaz and doing dua in my mind to feel peace, but things r just getting worse and worse and im crying all the time. i dont know wot to do!!!! I have no self control. Im a total mess. Please help. :cry:
 
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An islamic point of view I can not give you but I can give advice from a woman's point of view. I know the pain of a broken heart and I can tell you that the only thing that will make it better is time. Give yourself time to heal. Time to grieve. But don't let it take over your life. It will get better. Everyday you will find yourself missing him a little less and then one day you will wake up and wonder why you ever missed him in your first place. If he didn't have the same feeling in return then he never deserved your feeling in the first place. Guard your heart until you find someone who will love you the way you deserve to be loved. Keep yourself distracted until then. Find a hobby or spend time with your friends and family. I hope this helps and I hope you feel better soon.
 
Re: Im so depressed :(

It take's a lot of courage in doing what you have done after becoming attached. You did the right thing and it will be best for you to find alternative activities to help you recover from it.
 
Re: Im so depressed :(

think of it this way.
its a blessing he rejected you sooner rather than later.
Sometimes we may think we know what we want in life but Allah may have something better in store.
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
Hope this helps.
 
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Re: Im so depressed :(

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sis to him it probably was a "Hit and Run" if you get my drift? Forget about him they're plently of good bros out there.
 
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it takes a while to get over a broken heart but remember sister what you were doing was haraam. feel regret over it-dont wish for it to be as it was. the shaytaan loves misguiding people in these ways.
anything that reminds you of him get rid of. if you can help it dont go to the places that remind you of him.
have much regret in what you did and repent to Allah. remember this pain although it seems much is only a temporary pain and youll get over it.
if he does convert to islam that has to be on his own accord not because of you.
keep yourself very occupied so you dont keep thinking about him...
 
Re: Im so depressed :(

salamualikum.
Ukthi first think to your self do you wana go 'out' with a Gahr-Mehram in islam do we tolerate that is it allowed to go out with having like Bf/Gf:? i may sound harsh here ukthi but am doing this for your good, you need to ask your self these questions && think is this fella going to be with you when you be questioned by your lord? is he going to stand up for you when you get hurt? will he be there for you?, if you really like him arrange marriage... am very concerned does your parents know your in contact with the opposite gender? what are they gonna say if they do? do you know the third person with you at that moment of time when your in contact with that fella is 'SATAN'.

Are we suppose to sit beside 'SATAN'? NO we are suppose to fight against him so best thing to do is ingnore this fella && forget him i know it's not easy but do it for your lord Ukthi Strive for Taqwah, in this Duniya it's a test for us, this life is eternal (Life after death) Akhirah..okay you may get away with this now but what are you gonna do in the other future 'Akhirah' :cry:

It's good that you have spilited away from him, but you need to get over him now Ukthi all these 'fake' love is worthless!

Ukthi this is 'satan' whom is getting in your way i suggest you to do Ablution purify your self with the right Niyah (Intention) && get all these waste of dudes out of ya mind && just ask for fogivness from Allah subahwnatallah thats the least you can do now Ukthi.
Ma'assalama
 
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Re: Im so depressed :(

tomtomsmom said:
An islamic point of view I can not give you but I can give advice from a woman's point of view. I know the pain of a broken heart and I can tell you that the only thing that will make it better is time. Give yourself time to heal. Time to grieve. But don't let it take over your life. It will get better. Everyday you will find yourself missing him a little less and then one day you will wake up and wonder why you ever missed him in your first place. If he didn't have the same feeling in return then he never deserved your feeling in the first place. Guard your heart until you find someone who will love you the way you deserve to be loved. Keep yourself distracted until then. Find a hobby or spend time with your friends and family. I hope this helps and I hope you feel better soon.
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Thank you sis, I appreciate everyone taking time out to reply, thank u very much. I would try and take my mind off him but there's nothing else to distract me. I don't know why i'm so hooked on him. Some people have good jobs, money, good family and good frriends to get them thru, but me.... I have absolutely nothing.

I got married at 21 in Pakistan and it lasted no more than 6 months, i hated him and felt very pressurised into it. So my dad thru me out and said he dont want to know me because the marriage didn't work, he's very backwards my dad and he blames the girls never the men.

So im living alone, i will lose my job soon because its only temp, i dont really have much chance of getting another 1 as im not very educated, i have no money, i will be homeless in about 1 month because the friend im living with is getting a 1 bedroom place and she told me to find somewhere else as there wont be no space. Now thats another stress on my head, i feel so lonely and hopeless, Im being tortured left right and centre, there's is no hope for me, i'm even crying while typing this i cant control myself.

I feel as though i will never move on from him, i loved him like iv never loved before. I pray as much as i can but it seems pointless, people who dont pray have a much happier life than me, trust me iv seen it and i know people who only pray once a year in ramazan, and they are so happy. It's not fair, I feel like im being punished. I want to die sometimes :cry:
 
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Sister, all this is a test from Allaah.. keep praying to Allaah, He is hearing your prayers.. if you give up on Allaah, who else can you turn to for help? You will find a gradual change insha'Allaah as time progresses, for the time being - try checking these links in regard to your situation:


http://www.islamicboard.com/cyber-counselling/33643-dont-sad.html

http://www.islamicboard.com/basics-...ake-away-his-distress-grief-replace-ease.html

http://www.islamicboard.com/islamic-etiquettes/34168-dispelling-anxiety-ibn-hazm-al-andalusi.html


http://www.islamicboard.com/cyber-counselling/35448-threads-archive.html



We will keep you in our prayers.
 
Re: Im so depressed :(

Fi_Sabilillah said:
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Sister, all this is a test from Allaah.. keep praying to Allaah, He is hearing your prayers.. if you give up on Allaah, who else can you turn to for help? You will find a gradual change insha'Allaah as time progresses, for the time being - try checking these links in regard to your situation:


http://www.islamicboard.com/cyber-counselling/33643-dont-sad.html

http://www.islamicboard.com/basics-...ake-away-his-distress-grief-replace-ease.html

http://www.islamicboard.com/islamic-etiquettes/34168-dispelling-anxiety-ibn-hazm-al-andalusi.html


http://www.islamicboard.com/cyber-counselling/35448-threads-archive.html



We will keep you in our prayers.
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Thank you for all your help I do appreciate it. I hope things get better, InshahAllah :cry:
 
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Tanya Khan said:
I feel as though i will never move on from him, i loved him like iv never loved before. I pray as much as i can but it seems pointless, people who dont pray have a much happier life than me, trust me iv seen it and i know people who only pray once a year in ramazan, and they are so happy. It's not fair, I feel like im being punished. I want to die sometimes :cry:
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No one has ever been tested as much as our beloved Prophet (s.a.w) has, and He is the most dearest to Allah of all.

Allah tests those that he loves. Sis don't lose hope. Inshallah one day you will be compensated.
 
Re: Im so depressed :(

You have to find something to distract you and you just said the first thing you can use. You said you can't find a job because you don't have a good education. Focus your energy into that. Go back to school and work your butt off to make something of yourself. Go to your local mosque and see it they can help you get back in school and about your housing situation. You control your life. It will not get better unless you try to make it that way. May Allah give you the strength to move on and be better.
 
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Tanya Khan I am in the chat room if you want to talk.
I invite any other SISTERS there to help her in this time of need.
Please out of respect no brothers. Sorry.
 
Why are Muslims finding all types of reasons not to be together? Aren't we divided too much as it is? Forgive my ignorance, but you're both Muslims, and the differences you both have are traditional and cultural. They are not differences of the scripture (the Qur'an).
 
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MinaJ said:
Why are Muslims finding all types of reasons not to be together? Aren't we divided too much as it is? Forgive my ignorance, but you're both Muslims, and the differences you both have are traditional and cultural. They are not differences of the scripture (the Qur'an).
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Sectarian debates are aginst forum rules, do your own research and you'll see the diffrence.
 
Re: Im so depressed :(

Sister what I'm going to say might come across as severe and judgementle, but know that judging you is not my intention. And if I'm severe in speech it's because I think it's best for you. What you're going trough is exactly the reason why one shouldn't go out with non-mehram. It leads to these feelings and makes following the straight path harder. It is time to leave the past for what it is and think of the future. The feelings you have are to be avoided, just like the feeling you have from hearing forbidden songs on the radio, we like those songs that much because we're addicted to the way they make us feel, but we should stay aware that all these things come from Shaytan. MashaAllah for splitting up, that was a good choice. And it must have been hard I haven't always been a muslim, so I know what it is you're going trough. But trust me sister your were heading in the wrong direction but you did the right thing. Now Shaytan is bombarding you with thoughts to make you go back because he's frustrated with the good progress you made, don't let'm get to you. Whenever you feel he is tempting you read qur'an or do zikhr or something that will get you reward, that way he is more likely to leave you alone. Emotions are our weakest point, and he know just the right things to say to make us regret and desire. May Allah subhana wa ta'ala help you and make it easy for you and place reward in teh hardships you endure.
 

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