forced to wear hijab

being_forced said:
Pakistan.
Here u don't see brides wearing hijab.
And the kind of bridal dresses available in our culture. They don't go with the hijab :/
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Well if he's asking you to wear the hijab on your wedding but doesn't want to have the wedding segregated that's a little confusing ..... A man who wants his wife to practice Islam will ensure that she enjoys the wedding AND it is segregated.
 
^ You better not to talk with him about using hijab but tell him that forcing makes you feel unhappy.
 
If you are disagreeing with him so much over this, are you sure he is the one for you? It's your fiancee right and not your husband? What if he forces you to do other things once you are married (Islamic or just normal things even), would it be worth getting married to him?

I'm not a lady, I don't understand the issues of why some ladies want to have their uncovered at times and not at others. I won't go there.

However, if you do cover your hair, don't do it for him, do it for your Allah. There was a bayaan a few years ago and since then the girl next door (not the oppressive evil jaheel side, the other side) has worn a scarf. She never wore one before and had her hair done in all kinds of fancy manners each day. Since that bayaan not a day has gone when she has not had her scarf on. Even if she goes out to throw the dustbin, she will have her scarf on. Even at weddings, when all her friends are there without scarves, she will have one on. She is not married or engaged, fully single, and she must have done it to please her Creator.

Good luck though and I hope it goes OK for you. All the best.
 
Bhabha said:
Well if he's asking you to wear the hijab on your wedding but doesn't want to have the wedding segregated that's a little confusing ..... A man who wants his wife to practice Islam will ensure that she enjoys the wedding AND it is segregated.
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He's a very good man. He wants a segregated wedding. But it's just not possible. That's how our society is. :/
 
ms are you religious? are you starting to become practising?

i need to know where you stand to fully understand your situation
 
hisnameiszzz said:
If you are disagreeing with him so much over this, are you sure he is the one for you? It's your fiancee right and not your husband? What if he forces you to do other things once you are married (Islamic or just normal things even), would it be worth getting married to him?

I'm not a lady, I don't understand the issues of why some ladies want to have their uncovered at times and not at others. I won't go there.

However, if you do cover your hair, don't do it for him, do it for your Allah. There was a bayaan a few years ago and since then the girl next door (not the oppressive evil jaheel side, the other side) has worn a scarf. She never wore one before and had her hair done in all kinds of fancy manners each day. Since that bayaan not a day has gone when she has not had her scarf on. Even if she goes out to throw the dustbin, she will have her scarf on. Even at weddings, when all her friends are there without scarves, she will have one on. She is not married or engaged, fully single, and she must have done it to please her Creator.

Good luck though and I hope it goes OK for you. All the best.
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Thanku. Yes i need to think about this.
 
being_forced said:
He's a very good man. He wants a segregated wedding. But it's just not possible. That's how our society is. :/
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I'm a westerner if that's even considered a culture and I will have a segregated wedding. Do you mean to tell me Pakistani people who are more Muslim than westerners refuse to have a segregated wedding?
 
Kiro said:
ms are you religious? are you starting to become practising?

i need to know where you stand to fully understand your situation
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I pray regularly. I try my best to be kind with people around on me. Whether they are an office peon of the cfo. I have started covering my head i.e the hijab (on his forcefulness) for most part of my time. I used to dress modestly before as well. I just want to take it off occasionally. Like at my own wedding. Or my cousin's or sister's wedding. These things happen once in a blue moon. I just want to look pretty. My definition of pretty.
 
Bhabha said:
I'm a westerner if that's even considered a culture and I will have a segregated wedding. Do you mean to tell me Pakistani people who are more Muslim than westerners refuse to have a segregated wedding?
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We have segregated weddings, as in there will be a partition in the marriage hall. But no body really follows the partition :/
 
being_forced said:
I pray regularly. I try my best to be kind with people around on me. Whether they are an office peon of the cfo. I have started covering my head i.e the hijab (on his forcefulness) for most part of my time. I used to dress modestly before as well. I just want to take it off occasionally. Like at my own wedding. Or my cousin's or sister's wedding. These things happen once in a blue moon. I just want to look pretty. My definition of pretty.
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what do you mean occasionally? you only need to wear it in front of non-mahrams

and regularly as in exactly 5 times a day?
 
being_forced said:
Pakistan.
Here u don't see brides wearing hijab.
And the kind of bridal dresses available in our culture. They don't go with the hijab :/
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Yes, I know. I often watch videos from Pakistan, including wedding videos.
 
Kiro said:
what do you mean occasionally? you only need to wear it in front of non-mahrams
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in our culture, in the wedding ceremonies, mehrams and na mehrams are together, for example, my cousins are na mehrams, but in weddings everyone can see and talk to eachother
 
being_forced said:
in our culture, in the wedding ceremonies, mehrams and na mehrams are together, for example, my cousins are na mehrams, but in weddings everyone can see and talk to eachother
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I don't like this. Lol never marrying a Pakistani boy [emoji39]
 
I see it´s strange that culture has so big role when getting marriage, not only the religion. But I think it´s same with every religions. Anyways, that was off topic comment (sorry Mods).
 
being_forced said:
in our culture, in the wedding ceremonies, mehrams and na mehrams are together, for example, my cousins are na mehrams, but in weddings everyone can see and talk to eachother
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is the wedding segregated? so males only section and females only section or can non-mahrams see you?
 
being_forced said:
in our culture, in the wedding ceremonies, mehrams and na mehrams are together, for example, my cousins are na mehrams, but in weddings everyone can see and talk to eachother
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Depends how religious you are etc. Some people will have absolutely NO mingling of men and women. Some will have some mingling. Some will have an all out party including dancers and drummers.

If it's your wedding, you put the rules down!
 
hisnameiszzz said:
Depends how religious you are etc. Some people will have absolutely NO mingling of men and women. Some will have some mingling. Some will have an all out party including dancers and drummers.

If it's your wedding, you put the rules down!
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If only i could do that :(
 
Where did "obedience to the husband" ever show up in my post?? You read way too much into simple things. I did talk about obedience....to Allah. I even said in another post that it defeats the purpose of any religious action if they are forced to do it. If you love Allah, then you would do the action without question, if you don't then you won't. No one should force anything.


EgyptPrincess said:
Ah yes, obedience. We women are slaves to our husbands... I forgot.

This is what I absolutely loath about the thought of getting a Muslim husband :o
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Oh gosh, Pakistani and Afghani weddings....astaghfirullah. To make them halal is a struggle, smh.
 

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