forced to wear hijab

EgyptPrincess said:
It sounded like you were based on your sudden wearing of the hijab. Did you not wear it growing up?

I'm not exactly what to judge lol but if your husband is simply refusing to compromise and you are refusing to accept what he says then just cancel the marriage. Search for a more casual Muslim.
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No i did not grow up wearing it. Infact i didnot grow up even covering myself properly. Both our families are extremely casual muslims. You know how ppl take being born as a muslim for granted. That way. He's religious mashaAllah.
In the recent years i had been evolving gradually. Stopped showing my skin. Started wearing loose clothes. Stopped wearing see thru clothes. I wanted to start the hijab too. I was coming towards it gradually. This forcing has just put me off it :"(
Though i've started wearing it. Its been almost a month. I wear it everywhere. I just want to be able to take it off in my wedding ceremonies. It won't be segragated. Its just for a few hours.
The problem here isn't right or wrong. I know hijab is right. But pakistani weddings, as sister Bhabha mentioned above. are very unislamic. All i wanted was to look pretty. Wear a full sleeved loose dress. even cover my head. But not like with a scarf. not cover it completely. Its his sterness and his forcefulness which is making me cry. :cry:
 
s.ali123 said:
"Casual Muslim". So many variety is available today :D
I think she is happy with him and wants to marry him as well. Like she said before that he is very nice person.
What bhabha said is really good advice. You should talk with your parents
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She can't be that happy... If I really loved someone I would certainly try to make some compromise, she isn't even willing to compromise on the most basic of things lol. When people love each other they mak compromises for each other and come to an understanding. They're not even married and already *****ing about something as simple as a hijab lol.
 
Sister, Islam is not harsh, and all of us vary in Imaan. A new convert would not be able to carry out all obligations all at once, from the start, or all 5 prayers. it is a gradual step.. 1 prayer, then 2 prayer, to 5 prayers a day.

A muslim pressuring a convert "pray 5 times now!" or something, when the convert hasn't learnt, isn't afaik, how it is supposed to do.

Just like any other obligation, it may take time, some are fast, some are slow. As long as you see it as obligatory, then you are good. Just try to do it slowly.

Pls correct if I am wrong, but in Islam as muslims we should not force new or otherwise muslims with weak imaan to do all obligations. It takes time. The sahabahs r.a. didn't stop drinking alcohol all at once. It took 20 years afaik.

As long as you try to do your best in your obligations, then OK. Allah SWT knows best. Allah SWT does not overburden you, ever.
 
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Just imagine. What if, Allah takes you right as you are walking down the isle not wearing the hijab? What if at that moment, your soul leaves your body. How will you respond to اللهُ when you are asked, why you were not wearing the hijab.

It's like the girl at her wedding who washed out all of her make up to do whudhu and her mother was so angry. She had told her daughter to do isha another time, but her daughter ما شاء الله‎ went and did whudhu to pray salat and she died in the middle of salat. But she died worshipping اللهُ and obeying him to her last breath. [emoji24][emoji24][emoji24][emoji24][emoji24][emoji24][emoji24]
 
Bhabha said:
Just imagine. What if, Allah takes you right as you are walking down the isle not wearing the hijab? What if at that moment, your soul leaves your body. How will you respond to اللهُ when you are asked, why you were not wearing the hijab.

It's like the girl at her wedding who washed out all of her make up to do whudhu and her mother was so angry. She had told her daughter to do isha another time, but her daughter ما شاء الله‎ went and did whudhu to pray salat and she died in the middle of salat. But she died worshipping اللهُ and obeying him to her last breath. [emoji24][emoji24][emoji24][emoji24][emoji24][emoji24][emoji24]
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Lol even you know this story of wudu :D i thought this story is more common in desis :P Stories spread very fast. Are you sure you are not desi from some acesstor :P

About the wedding why dont you both try to convince simple wedding without all the Pakistani expenditures, in masjid. Even much money will be saved for honeymoon ;)
Even otherwise it is only nikkah right now.
 
EgyptPrincess said:
She can't be that happy... If I really loved someone I would certainly try to make some compromise, she isn't even willing to compromise on the most basic of things lol. When people love each other they mak compromises for each other and come to an understanding. They're not even married and already *****ing about something as simple as a hijab lol.
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Again. Very quick to judge. Its between him and me what compromises i've already made.
 
~ Sabr ~ said:

Your definition contradicts Allaah's commands.

F.Y.I you have no idea what I've been through, so that was a flop comment. :lol: ;D
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You're rude and judgmental attitude contradicts islam's teachings :)
Like i said. We all sin, just differently.

No one knows what the other has been thru.

Take care sister. May Allah guide us all.
 
If u think ur time is being wasted. Then please donot comment on this thread :)
The rest of the members can speak for themselves.

Some sisters and brothers here have given me honest advice in a very kind non-judgemental and understanding way. I am thankful to all of them. May Allah bless them all :)
 
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being_forced said:
If u think ur time is being wasted. Then please donot comment on this thread :)
The rest of the members can speak for themselves.

Some sisters and brothers here have given me honest advice in a very kind non-judgemental and understanding way. I am thankful to all of them. May Allah bless them all :)
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The purpose of Hijab afaik, is to conceal your beauty, and to protect you from the gaze of men.

May Allah SWT forgive me if I said anything wrong. Ameen.
 
Serinity said:
The purpose of Hijab afaik, is to conceal your beauty, and to protect you from the gaze of men.

May Allah SWT forgive me if I said anything wrong. Ameen.
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It's actually a bit strange the concept of a hijab because it overs the head, not the face and surely the face is that which holds the beauty, not the head?
 
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EgyptPrincess said:
It's actually a big strange the concept of a hijab because it overs the head, not the face and surely the face is that which holds the beauty, not the head?
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The hair of a woman empowers the beauty of her face.

If you are very beautiful you can put on Niqab.

I honestly ain't knowledgable

Btw, what is awrah of women? what isn't?

Allahu alam.
 
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being_forced said:
If u think ur time is being wasted. Then please donot comment on this thread :)
The rest of the members can speak for themselves.

Some sisters and brothers here have given me honest advice in a very kind non-judgemental and understanding way. I am thankful to all of them. May Allah bless them all :)
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if you don't be judged correctly then you won't ever discipline yourself.

The religion of Allah isn't about fun and peace. It requires sacrifice and submission to Allah.

Do it for him or stay in misery and deception.
 
Serinity said:
The hair of a woman empowers the beauty of her face.

If you are very beautiful you can put on Niqab.

I honestly ain't knowledgable

Btw, what is awrah of women? what isn't?

Allahu alam.
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Well personally I think it's private parts. Top and lower.

Of course this isn't the case in Islam I think that is why we are to cover our bodies with just face, hands and feet for show.

Perhaps it's all based on personal opinion. Feet are ok to show, but there are some people with foot fetishes which means for them, the feet are very attractive body parts. Weird creeps.
 
The most commonly accepted definitely of a woman's awrah is that it is everything apart from her feet, hands, and face.

Sister [MENTION=38872]being_forced[/MENTION], may Allah SWT relieve you of any stress and make it easy for you. Hijab is a big step, but believe me once you wear it you will never look back - I appreciate how difficult it is coming from a non-practising Muslim family, to both keep to your deen despite discouragement and having others be overly harsh on you when they believe you are lacking in iman, not knowing your background or how hard you have struggled.

I have stressed this before and I will again. Learn to what status Islam has elevated us women Alhamdulillah, and how Allah swt only wants us to be honoured and respected. And when you wear the hijab, don't wear it for him or for your parents, wear it for Allah swt and because you want to. x
 

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