Had my Hijab pulled off in Public by a Guy!

[IbnAbdulHakim]

you did the right thing.



be like nuseyba bint kaab

 

[Banu_Hashim]

Yanoorah, you're very brave mashaAllah. And alhamdulillah those boys left. But they could've hurt you or worse, so next time take care and maybe ask more people for help before you jump in yourself. As I read your story, I couldn't help but feel anger at how they disgraced you. But inshallah you'll be rewarded for your actions and intentions.

I can't believe every single person on the bus left without saying or doing anything. Muslim or not; didn't they have some guilt or conscience ? Anyways, what matters is that you and that girl are OK, Alhamdulillah.

 

[Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн]

Wow! SubhanAllah sis Yanoorah, that's sooooooooooooo bravee of you mashaAllah. I think what you did was good because as Muslims we always stand for justice no matter WHAT happens and that you did! Allah(swt) was with you definitely and why not? You being a girl stood up to those punks mashaAllah. Dont listen to anyone sis, what you did was right, but definitely keep something with you to protect you inshaAllah. Honestly I applaud you. I actually have pepper spray with me I'd have used it lol if i was with you.

Btw sis, what happened after they left? The girl, did she say anything?
Think of it this way sis, that was a major DAWAH what you did. A Muslim girl in a hijab protecting another by HERSELF against a bunch of lil sissy's. Pshh, thats called guts!

 

[Intisar]

Salaam/Peace;



normally we ignore these & don't want to put ourselves in to trouble. I am happy that sis protested but in the way she acted that was not wise. She should have asked for help from others or tell the driver to stop the bus or told mom to call Police etc etc.

The sister already mentioned that even when the bus driver saw her there defending the girl, he didn't do anything nor did any of the onlookers. If she just stood there doing nothing, God knows how far they could've gone with that girl they were harassing.

 

[Najm]

AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

Sister i am soooooo Proud of you!!! Your the best!! May Allah continue to keep you firm in Faith. Ameen

I understand your action and your desire to protect the girl... But knowing that you didn't have an upper hand, it would've been better for you to ignore those drugged beasts.

A very very extremely poor choice of response. The sister has been very very brave. She must be feeling extremely emotional. Have some mercy and sympathy.

Please choose your "choice of advice" very carefully.

We need people like Uhkti Yanoorah in our lives.

FiAmaaniAllah

 

[Güven]

A very very extremely poor choice of response. The sister has been very very brave. She must be feeling extremely emotional. Have some mercy and sympathy.

Please choose your "choice of advice" very carefully.

We need people like Uhkti Yanoorah in our lives.

FiAmaaniAllah

no, I know where the ruler is coming from.

It's good that she was brave and all but she could've done something else, instead of going head on against 5 guys.

I wish braveness was enough to end all fights. But it's NOT always enough.

these guys were cowards.

what if that guy was a sick psychopath? what if that guy punched her instead of taking her hijab? what if she stabbed her? etc.
She could've end up worse.
but Alhamdullilah this time she didn't.

there MAY be no next time, if she does this again.

The world is not as easy as you think it is.

 

[-Elle-]

Firstly, May Allah(swt) bless you, it takes a lot of courage to do what you did, and most people would say, "yeah, I'd react," but as you mention, when you're actually in a situation like this, you don't know whether you will do something or not.

On a Bus!

. I don't know wat gottten into me.

It sounds like you even surprised yourself;:statisfie Mash'Allah,today you descovered you had an amazing trait; may it always be with you

Think of it this way sis, that was a major DAWAH what you did. A Muslim girl in a hijab protecting another by HERSELF against a bunch of lil sissy's. Pshh, thats called guts!

So true!

I don't know where you live sis, but I am truly suprised that NO ONE reacted...Dear Lord, here, I truly believe people would've never ever let that happen!...

But we do live in a very multicultural place...so I guess less prejudice?


Anyway, Stay Strong!

(and the pepper spray idea is an excellent one!)

 

[Banu_Hashim]

^^ I agree with Guven. In a perfect world, everyone would stand up for the underdog, even if it was 10 v 2, and justice would prevail. But in the real world, you have to understand the mentality of some idiots and know you the limit of your power in certain situations. That's what I think was trying to be said.

 

[Mysterious Uk]

Yanoorah.. what an astounding yet inspirational situation! mashallah you are so brave. It is so easy to say 'oh if i got in this situation i would do this' but to actually stand up to a bunch of guys almost instinctvly shows courage and what a good person you are. Alhamdullilah, you were not hurt by the pathetic losers.

 

[Abdul Fattah]

selam aleykum,
MashaAllah!
Just remember, the memory might haunt you know, and it probably won't haunt them, but over time you will forget and over time the memory will haunt them.

 

[Najm]

no, I know where the ruler is coming from.

It's good that she was brave and all but she could've done something else, instead of going head on against 5 guys.

I wish braveness was enough to end all fights. But it's NOT always enough.

these guys were cowards.

what if that guy was a sick psychopath? what if that guy punched her instead of taking her hijab? what if she stabbed her? etc.
She could've end up worse.
but Alhamdullilah this time she didn't.

there MAY be no next time, if she does this again.

The world is not as easy as you think it is.

AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

SubhaanAllah. I never said if the rulers advice was right or wrong. There maybe wise words that she said.

What im saying is, this girl has just gone through a emotional rollercoaster, and she would want our support. Patronising and being negative towards her, can put her off the edge.:raging::raging::raging: It can haunt her even more. She may go to sleep feeling terrorised.

If your sister came home and you found out that happen do you....

A) make sure shes ok and take care of her needs
OR
B) shout at her and tell her off:raging::raging:

what would you do? What "if" something happened to the other girl? Would you sit there and watch?

We should have no problem fighting in the way of Allah. We maybe losers of this world, but only winners of the Hereafter inshaAllah.

Lets see peoples first responces...

Who shows encouragement, mercy, sympathy or patronising??

I am so sorry to hear that sis, youre probably feeling very bad right now but please don't, just try to remember that your endurance for the sake of ALLAH will inshaallah be rewarded.

Tell us more about what happened.

:raging::raging::raging::raging::raging::raging::raging::raging::raging::raging:

Omgggg
Yanoorah my brave darling i wish i could give you a massive HUGGGGG!

I cant believe u stood up2 those bullies

I cant believe no one helped...well.acatully i can.....how terrible....im speechless....

Omg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yanz Im so sori!!!! :'( imsad

I hope that never EVER happens to you again or anyone else, inshaAllaah,

What sissys! The bus driver is stupid aswell, please report this, most buses have cams, don't let them get away with it!

I wish I was on that bus.

I understand your action and your desire to protect the girl... But knowing that you didn't have an upper hand, it would've been better for you to ignore those drugged beasts.

Im not picking on anyone. Lets just show some respect.

Forgive me if i said anything wrong.

FiAmaaniAllah.

 

[Snowflake]

SubhanAllah what an awful thing to go through! Your anger obviously provoked that guy to do that. The best way to tackle a situation like this in the future is to talk to them in a way which reminds them of humanity and makes them feel guilty. There really is a way to do this. And I know from experience it works. If you insult people, you will have to face consequences and hamdulillah this time as horrible as it was, it wasn't worse. Please don't put yourself in a situation like that again sis - unless you're a black belt.

 

[Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн]

I think you guys took bro Najm all wrong.

We should have no problem fighting in the way of Allah. We maybe losers of this world, but only winners of the Hereafter inshaAllah.

Exactly!!!

Allah(swt) protected her because she chose to stand for justice and that is what Muslims should be doing, no matter what harm comes way. At the end of the day we know that Allah(swt) is with those who r just and do good! Especially those who go out of their way to protect those in need! Think about the countless men and women who fought for this deen especially justice.

 

[Güven]

AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

SubhaanAllah. I never said if the rulers advice was right or wrong. There maybe wise words that she said.

What im saying is, this girl has just gone through a emotional rollercoaster, and she would want our support. Patronising and being negative towards her, can put her off the edge.:raging::raging::raging: It can haunt her even more. She may go to sleep feeling terrorised.

If your sister came home and you found out that happen do you....

A) make sure shes ok and take care of her needs
OR
B) shout at her and tell her off:raging::raging:

what would you do? What "if" something happened to the other girl? Would you sit there and watch?

We should have no problem fighting in the way of Allah. We maybe losers of this world, but only winners of the Hereafter inshaAllah.

Lets see peoples first responces...

Who shows encouragement, mercy, sympathy or patronising??




Im not picking on anyone. Lets just show some respect.

Forgive me if i said anything wrong.

FiAmaaniAllah.

Your not saying anything bad, Akhee, I understand what you are trying to say.

First of all, No one is patronizing, no one is shouting , no one is telling off , no one is being negative and no one is disrespecting this sister.

Everybody on this thread are with the sister , Everbody on this thread supports the sister and trying to advice her as much as possible.

She did what She did and it was good. Im not saying it was bad what she did BUT she could've done it without taking this risk.

She may has an emotional rollercoaster , May Allah make it easy for her.
but atleast she is alive , right? Alhamdullilah.

don't take this situation so lightly.

I would say the EXACT same things to my sister.


What I would do? Are you comparing ME with an harmless sister?
brother, I have experience with this stuff.

- I would stare them, giving them a feeling that im watching them.
- I would have waited and see if they are going to leave her alone after a while.
- swearing , (sexually) Harrassment? you gotta bear with it until It goes TOO much out of hand, then I will make my move.
- I would have walked to the buschauffeur and tell him about it and see what he does or what advice he gives me. You can't just sit and expect the bus chauffeur to help, maybe he has no idea what's going on.
- I would talk with the guys. ( Usually the best solution )
- I would scare them. (if necessary)
- I would call some of my acquaintances for back up. (If necessary)
- I would fight (if necessary.)
- I would support the girl after they are gone incase she goes pscyho.


Fighting in the way of Allah? what point does it have IF the sister died like that? she could've have saved the girl WITHOUT taking this huge risk.

It's DAYLIGHT and it's a PUBLIC transportation. No matter how tough they are (and by the looks of it they werent tough at all) they ain't going rape/kill/beat a girl ON A BUS.


But what's done is done it's not point in arguing about "If's".

Im just saying....Be careful the next time.

Allah(swt) protected her because she chose to stand for justice and that is what Muslims should be doing, no matter what harm comes way. At the end of the day we know that Allah(swt) is with those who r just and do good! Especially those who go out of their way to protect those in need! Think about the countless men and women who fought for this deen especially justice.

and Do you also know the numbers who died UNNECESSARILY?

Nobody said she shouldn't stand for justice. no , She did good to stand up for justice.

but let me give you an example; A girl walks on the street AT DAYLIGHT , she sees a girl being harassed by some dangerous looking gangsters.
A couple of blocks further there is a police station.

Would you just jump in and fight the gangsters?(with the risk of dying and having nothing achieved) or go to the Police station? ( a Huge chance to save the girl without getting hurt)


lol I can't believe I actually made a debate of this thread , Forgive me all. :exhausted

 

[TrueStranger]

;D

Can u believe Thaaaaaat?:exhausted

Salaam Aliakum Yanoorah

Feel bad? What is there to feel bad about? Wear it as a badge of honor sis. Muslims were tortured, abused, and harassed simply because they said “There God is Allah”, and Insha’Allah they will be award for being firm in their faith. Do the same sis, and Insha’Allah you will be reward.

I got in a fight back in middle School after some girls kept on pulling my hijab off, my fists landed on their faces few times and they stop touching my hijab after that day. It felt good. ;D

 

[Muhaba]

you're just lucky they didn't harm you. Allah helped you a lot, so do lots of shukr. the kaafirs are soo dangerous. they have no sense of right or wrong. I remember hearing about a bunch of girls stabbing one girl onthe subway (train) and none of the passengers did anythin to stop them. until finally when the train stopped and the door opened, the girl fell down dead.
so yeah, be careful and read lots of Ayatul Kursi.

 

[Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн]

Do you also know the numbers who died UNNECESSARILY?

Nobody said she shouldn't stand for justice. no , She did good to stand up for justice.

but let me give you an example; A girl walks on the street AT DAYLIGHT , she sees a girl being harassed by some dangerous looking gangsters.
A couple of blocks further there is a police station.

Would you just jump in and fight the gangsters?(with the risk of dying and having nothing achieved) or go to the Police station? ( a Huge chance to save the girl without getting hurt)


lol I can't believe I actually made a debate of this thread , Forgive me all. :exhausted

How is it dying unnecessarily?? Those Muslims who died for their deen, died as shaheed.

Your example isnt a good one because she wasnt near a police station first of all. Second, there were loads of people who did NOTHING to help the little girl. In the case she wouldnt have needed to ask anyone help the girl, they just as well were WATCHING and IGNORED it. It would have been worse on her part as a MUSLIM to see wrong and let it fly. She felt brave enough to do it and felt as if she COULD do something and so she did.

Had there been a station nearby, YES I would have gone there. She had a bus full of people, including adults. Even a bus driver who could have easily contacted the police, but he did SQUAT.

Now u tell me, if u were her in that situation and no one was helping her, would you have just sat and watched it pass?? If you were that girl, would u have not wanted help?

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

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[Muslim Woman]

Salaam;

... If you were that girl, would u have not wanted help?

yes , we should think like this . If we or our mom / sisters come under attack & no one bothers to move , I guess we will start cursing those who are not helping but just watching.

 

[north_malaysian]

you're one brave girl....

why they really hate the hijab... i hope no Muslim woman would end up like Dr. Marwa El Sherbiny..