Hijab or no hijab?

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Supreme, think about it this way: You have a (guy) friend and your sister has (girl) friend. They both are looking to get married soon to somebody reliable, trust worthy etc. You and your sister think they both would make an awesome couple so arrange a meeting between them. They both hold the belief that any sort of 'dating' before marriage is prohibited so they get married asap because they think they are compatible based on what they have seen of each other and what their well-wishers have told them.

Nothing forced about it. Now just assume it is the family of the people looking to get married that suggest the potentials to each other. Same principle.
 
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I guess I should make it clear....My marriage was not arranged....well....semi arranged.

Keep in mind I am Italian and my wife is Indian, any Indian will tell you....thats not typical, and probably would never happen in India?
 
Italianguy said:
An aranged marriage or "assited marriage" is different than forced.

I don't like forced marriage eitherimsad
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The fellow seems to suggest that Muslim marriages are 'forced' as an exist strategy to why the west practices the same principles to a far more deranged degree!

all the best!
 
Gossamer skye said:
The fellow seems to suggest that Muslim marriages are 'forced' as an exist strategy to why the west practices the same principles to a far more deranged degree!

all the best!
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Yeah i noticed, i was just trying to clerify it for him....i don't think it workedimsad

But....to each his own, right?

God be with you sister:D
 
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i think gossamer thinks were on the same intellectual level as her, haha
 
supreme said:
i never even implied such a thing. I just said that arranged marriages are oppressive, and also illegal.

well you can find many people's laws which aren't made the way they are for the people's interest. I respect your view (though i don't find it rational nor reasonable.)

not if the couple in question don't love each other. If you have 5 dates or 500 hundred dates with different people, i'm sure if you find the one you love in the end it's worth it and successful.

yes, as you said "if" they don't love each other (though that's not the case (/in most cases) and "if" the person in the end finds happiness. I'll just say that in the marriages (arranged) i've seen, the couple's love each other strongly and are happily married. Then again since i live in europe, i see alot of depressed people which i conclude are so because of loneliness. Plus, if i go randomly into a class, and ask the student's how many student's parent's have been divorced, i believe that about half of them would answer positively.
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Italianguy said:
Thank you. Am I the only one who notices this? We were at the mall a couple of hours ago........Like thats a suprise:hmm:

And at a Kiosk sat a Muslim woman wearing very very form fitting clothing BUT she was wearing a Hijab.....I'm an old-school Christian and if my daughter was wearing that......she wouldn't EVER leave the house:heated:

Even my wife wears clothing which totally covers her, like a sari or salwar kamee:D......besides her face....and feet you can't even tell shes brown;D...well, i guess the sari gives it away:hmm:

Keep in mind where I live it's business and shopping around here not much elseimsad
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Aslamu alaaykum .. The Women who wear tight jeans, may not be practising their faith as it should be done, and some may be unaware of this issue ie.to dress modestly!
These people need to be advised seriously , as it is a serious matter!:statisfie
wa alaaykum Salaam..
 
Muslim World 12 said:
Aslamu alaaykum .. The Women who wear tight jeans, may not be practising their faith as it should be done, and some may be unaware of this issue ie.to dress modestly!
These people need to be advised seriously , as it is a serious matter!:statisfie
wa alaaykum Salaam..
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True, but it's not my place to tell them, thats up to you sisters in Islam:D
 
Yeah no hard feelings, just saying whats what aye :P...Indeed we must all do our part in whatever way that is good for us! :)
 
tango92 said:
i think gossamer thinks were on the same intellectual level as her, haha
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I just substituted the P for a B really to tickle myself.. No intellect involved whatsoever just a basic vindication.. :D

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Supreme said:
I'm against arranged marriages irregardless of them being Islamic or otherwise.




No its not, it's a method of parent to control their offspring against the offspring's will. Now I've no doubt the offspring themselves can benefit, and the parents are doing it for the best interests of their children, but that still does not make it right.


Any verse in the Bible to prove this?



Maybe, but it's the choice of the individual, because it is the individual that is the one who is going to be most affected. It's the same with buying a house, if I was going to spend millions of pounds on a house I was going to live in for the rest of my life, I would at least go out and choose it myself.


Just because something is successful, it does not make it right.



And that's just it- you're conservative, I'm liberal. We're never going to agree on some things, and this is just one of those things.
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You are talking about forced marriages, mister. All of us are against forced marriages (it's wrong). Really, I don't think you know what arranged marriages are :hmm:
 

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