I think I'm becoming a misogynist

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Salaamz,

I thought this account was disabled after my request but anyway. I know this topic might be frowned upon cos it may cause a gender war, but it's true, I am starting to hate women very deeply and can't seem to control it....having a hard time getting over things.

I know it can't be healthy, but am I sinful if I only harbour it in my heart but don't hurt anyone?
 
You should ask yourself why you are thinking by this way. Who or what has put kind of thoughts to your mind.

Hate is a bad feeling as it eats you own mind empty and fruitless and makes you feel unhappy.

Now; who is the one who wants the mostly that you are sad, full of bad feelings and wants to destroy all happiness in your life?
 
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Do you hate them, Paprika?
 
Paprika said:
Salaamz,

I thought this account was disabled after my request but anyway. I know this topic might be frowned upon cos it may cause a gender war, but it's true, I am starting to hate women very deeply and can't seem to control it....having a hard time getting over things.

I know it can't be healthy, but am I sinful if I only harbour it in my heart but don't hurt anyone?
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you'll only be hurting yourself.

Scimi
 
My dear brother Paprika.

If you were a misogynist, then you would seduce the women as much as you could, made them fall in love with you, but then you leave them and you laugh when you see they fall into broken heart.

No, you are not misogynist. You are just an innocent young man who have phobia toward women because you afraid the women would lead you to fitnah. So you build a hate toward women as your self-defense mechanism.

Is it healthy to keep a hatred like this?. Of course not. One day you will get married, and this hatred will makes you treat your wife in the bad way. It will hurt her.

What you shall do now is try to eliminate your phobia toward women through know them better. You can start through the women who really need your love, the poor old women. Give your attention to them, give your care to them, give your kindness to them.

In Shaa Allah, it will raise a love in your heart, and this love will erase hatred in your heart.

Trust me Paprika, you will be very happy if an old women tell you while smile "May Allah give you a good wife who will make you happy, young man".

:)
 
No women = no life on this planet (human). Hating women is just as silly as hating oxygen. Think about it.
 
"Do not afraid of women, but always afraid you will make a woman's life miserable because women are not created as the enemies who will ruin the men's life, but created as the partners in life who will make the men understand what love is"

- Ardianto
 
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ardianto said:
"Do not afraid of women, but always afraid you will make a woman's life miserable because women are not created as the enemies who will ruin the men's life, but created as the partners in life who will make the men understand what is love"

- Ardianto
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MashaAllah TabarakaAllah brother Ardianto has inspirational mini speeches (although you have always been inspirational in your own unique way and Allah know best)
 
ardianto said:
"Do not afraid of women, but always afraid you will make a woman's life miserable because women are not created as the enemies who will ruin the men's life, but created as the partners in life who will make the men understand what love is"

- Ardianto
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we have a philosopher in our midst :)

Scimi

edit: just noticed that paprikas avatar is from the anime of the same name, i'd know - i own it lol... very crazy story that one.
 
sister herb said:
You should ask yourself why you are thinking by this way. Who or what has put kind of thoughts to your mind.

Hate is a bad feeling as it eats you own mind empty and fruitless and makes you feel unhappy.

Now; who is the one who wants the mostly that you are sad, full of bad feelings and wants to destroy all happiness in your life?
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It's just the way women behave, makes me very angry. So demanding, manipulative and very insensitive with their words, they rarely think when they speak. The most frustrating part is you can't live with them and you can't live without them, they are all around you, it's a lose lose.
 
ardianto said:
My dear brother Paprika.

If you were a misogynist, then you would seduce the women as much as you could, made them fall in love with you, but then you leave them and you laugh when you see they fall into broken heart.

No, you are not misogynist. You are just an innocent young man who have phobia toward women because you afraid the women would lead you to fitnah. So you build a hate toward women as your self-defense mechanism.

Is it healthy to keep a hatred like this?. Of course not. One day you will get married, and this hatred will makes you treat your wife in the bad way. It will hurt her.

What you shall do now is try to eliminate your phobia toward women through know them better. You can start through the women who really need your love, the poor old women. Give your attention to them, give your care to them, give your kindness to them.

In Shaa Allah, it will raise a love in your heart, and this love will erase hatred in your heart.

Trust me Paprika, you will be very happy if an old women tell you while smile "May Allah give you a good wife who will make you happy, young man".

:)
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Ai man you have got it all wrong, I don't have no phobia, I have been married for over a decade and I don't treat my wife badly. I never hated women before but do think I am starting to hate them now.

After so many years of marriage I feel there is "nothing good" in women. I have seen the good and the bad and feel the bad far outweighs the good, this is not only in my own experience but general observation as well. Everything people speak about in marriage that is supposed to be good, love, affection, companionship, understanding, it's all absent, almost non existent. No matter how hard you try you always finish second best.
 
ardianto said:
"Do not afraid of women, but always afraid you will make a woman's life miserable because women are not created as the enemies who will ruin the men's life, but created as the partners in life who will make the men understand what love is"

- Ardianto
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Yea have heard these quotes before, but unfortunatley haven't seen anyone live up to them.
 
You tried to tell her what you don't like in her behaviour?
 
Paprika said:
It's just the way women behave, makes me very angry. So demanding, manipulative and very insensitive with their words, they rarely think when they speak. The most frustrating part is you can't live with them and you can't live without them, they are all around you, it's a lose lose.
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Dear brother, I have met several men during my life whose are demanding, manipulative and very insensitive. Should I now hate all of them? Oh no. I have also met many men whose are kind, caring and sensitive. Also women with kind of habit of mind.
 
sister herb said:
Dear brother, I have met several men during my life whose are demanding, manipulative and very insensitive. Should I now hate all of them? Oh no. I have also met many men whose are kind, caring and sensitive. Also women with kind of habit of mind.
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True story, there are different kinds of people in both genders. Just as a Muslim can be bad so can a Jew (it's not the religion our gender our what ever it's the person itself), you can't judge an entire race just because of a few people :D .

And it should't be women in general you shoud be hating it is just the one that you don't like and you shouldn't hate them just stay away from them and find something better to do :D If I for example would want to get married and I find someone but she isn't someone I would like to live the rest of my life I won't say "Oh, women are so bad never going to get married"

PS. I think in Islam we should love each other :D
 
Im unmarried and 40.... if anyone has a right to me a misogynist - its me.... anf I believe I secretly am...

Blame me?

After all these years i am bitter and hurt. Shame that.

Scimi
 
Paprika said:
Ai man you have got it all wrong, I don't have no phobia, I have been married for over a decade and I don't treat my wife badly. I never hated women before but do think I am starting to hate them now.
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You have been married for over a decade?. Hmm, frankly, I assumed you are teen boy because that was impression that I got from your previous posts in the forum. Even before you said that you live in South Africa I thought you actually live in Pakistan but you wanted to confuse people through "I'm not from Pakistan!".

After so many years of marriage I feel there is "nothing good" in women. I have seen the good and the bad and feel the bad far outweighs the good, this is not only in my own experience but general observation as well. Everything people speak about in marriage that is supposed to be good, love, affection, companionship, understanding, it's all absent, almost non existent. No matter how hard you try you always finish second best.
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If you feel nothing good in women after many years of marriage it's because you have assumed that nothing good in a woman since you were unmarried. Maybe because you never tried to understand a woman.

I have seen the good and the bad too, but since I always see the world in positive view then the good always far outweigh the bad. When I was kid I saw marriages that worked well. It raise a want in my heart to have a good married life in the future. Of course I have seen marriages that did not work well too. And it gave me lessons about the mistakes that I should avoid in my married life.

Love cannot be forced to come in marriage because love does not come from the outside. Love come from the inside, from the heart of husband and wife, from the great intention to give happiness to each other.

In good marriage husband does not finish second or first, but husband and wife always walk side by side, together in happiness and in sadness.
 
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