My wife has gone, back to Allah

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Thank you for sharing that moving story, brother ardianto.

Make sure you look after yourself and give yourself some rest when you can. May God bless you and your family. I seem to remember that you have a son. How is he coping?
 
glo said:
Thank you for sharing that moving story, brother ardianto.

Make sure you look after yourself and give yourself some rest when you can. May God bless you and your family. I seem to remember that you have a son. How is he coping?
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I have two sons, 15 and 9 years old.

In the last two days they did not look so sad. Perhaps because they comforted by the presence of their cousins from both parties. Maybe the next day they will be sad, but I will try to strengthen them.

Thank you very much, Glo. God bless you too.
 
Inna Lillahi Wa Inna Ilayhi Rajioon
May Allah forgive her sins and grant her jannat'ul firdaus, May Allah grant you patience.
 
Alhumdulillah just finished making the picture, the best part is this time i made it from scratch took me 1.5 days to learn the bokeh effect and to practice it and i finally finished the pic :) i know its v late buh i really wanted to post it as soon as i finish so here u go i hope u like it uncle ardianto... :p nemo worked hard lol just kidding.
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May Allah keep you happy always in this life and the here after ameen .
 
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Sorry to hear about your loss akhee.

Inn lillaahi wa inna ilayhi raji'oon.

For the person who suffered the calamity it is sunnah to add:

"Allaahumma ujurni fi museebati wa akhlif khayran minha." which is translates as "Oh Allaah, take me out of my plight and bring to me after it, something better". Sahih Muslim 2/632

It must be a very difficult time for you. I have also lost someone dear to me. It's not easy and it can take a long time to come to terms with it. Talking to family members and close friends helps.

This life is just temporary. Look for the good in what's happened and ask Allaah to keep you/us steadfast on this Deen until we meet Him.

:ia: you will see your wife again soon.
 
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Periwinkle18 said:
Alhumdulillah just finished making the picture, the best part is this time i made it from scratch took me 1.5 days to learn the bokeh effect and to practice it and i finally finished the pic :) i know its v late buh i really wanted to post it as soon as i finish so here u go i hope u like it uncle ardianto... :p nemo worked hard lol just kidding.



May Allah keep you happy always in this life and the here after ameen .
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Beautiful card. I love it. I'll save it in my computer. :D

I like rose, aunty Inna too.

Today me and my sons visited her grave. After sent du'a, my oldest son put two red roses on the top of her wooden headstone, then my youngest son added with white and yellow roses. It's to make their mother new home more decorative. I just smile when I saw what they were doing.

Yes, I must leave the time of sadness because I know, aunty Inna doesn't want me always sad. I still have duty to raise our children.

She has left my home, but she is still in my heart. I still can love her with du'a.

Jazakillah Khayr, niece Nemo. May Allah always give you good health and happiness.

:)
 
ardianto said:
Beautiful card. I love it. I'll save it in my computer. :D

I like rose, aunty Inna too.

Today me and my sons visited her grave. After sent du'a, my oldest son put two red roses on the top of her wooden headstone, then my youngest son added with white and yellow roses. It's to make their mother new home more decorative. I just smile when I saw what they were doing.

Yes, I must leave the time of sadness because I know, aunty Inna doesn't want me always sad. I still have duty to raise our children.

She has left my home, but she is still in my heart. I still can love her with du'a.

Jazakillah Khayr, niece Nemo. May Allah always give you good health and happiness.

:)
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Alhumdulillah i'm glad you liked it :) just wanted to make something that mite make u feel a bit better , i know losing a loved one is really hard buh remember Allah loves you and He's still there. ;)

aww i love roses too subhanAllah they're so beautiful.

I Pray that Allah gives aunty Inna a garden full of roses in jannah inshaAllah ameen.

ameen to your beautiful dua.

Stay strong uncle ardianto

May Allah keep you happy in this life and the hereafter and may He grant you jannah ul firdos inshaAllah ameen.
 
Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji'un.
Very sad news. My prayers are with you and your family.
 
I regret that I haven't known about your loss until today. My condolences and prayers for your family and especially for you, my kind, patient and wise friend.
 
Assalamu alaikum, brother Ardianto, I am sorry to hear of your wife's passing. In sha Allah, you will find comfort in knowing she died as a Muslim. May Allah (swt)forgive her and reward her for the best of her deeds.
 
Lonely. This is what I feel now.

But In Shaa Allah, I will try to be patient.

:)
 
ardianto said:
Lonely. This is what I feel now.
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God willing, time is a healer.

You have cared for your wife so intensively that her passing must have left a huge gap in your life and heart and daily routine. You will never forget her, but you will learn to move on.
Allow yourself time and be kind to yourself.
 
ardianto said:
Lonely. This is what I feel now.

But In Shaa Allah, I will try to be patient.

:)
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Asalamu Alaykum
Inshallah itll get easier, continue making dua.
Allah tests those he loves.
May this be a reason for your rank in jannah to rise. Ameen.
 
I just back from supermarket near my home when I wrote that post.

Actually, for almost a year I often visited that supermarket alone since my wife health gone bad, and usually I bought something for her.

Today when I was there I saw cookie, I thought "Oh, I must buy it for my wife". But suddenly I realized that she has gone, and I felt lonely.

But don't worry, I'm okay. :)
 
ardianto said:
I just back from supermarket near my home when I wrote that post.

Actually, for almost a year I often visited that supermarket alone since my wife health gone bad, and usually I bought something for her.

Today when I was there I saw cookie, I thought "Oh, I must buy it for my wife". But suddenly I realized that she has gone, and I felt lonely.

But don't worry, I'm okay. :)
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I understand this feeling, having lost 3 close family members in 3 years, 2 of whom we moved in with to care for in their illnesses. Your comment hit home.

I reread this thread again this morning and shed a tear, understanding in some ways your feeling.

Seeing your patience, kindness, wisdom, faith and strength over the years, I wholly believe you will continue to be a great man and father to your children. I pray for your peace. I pray for your strength. I pray your faith leads to comfort.
 
GodIsAll said:
I understand this feeling, having lost 3 close family members in 3 years, 2 of whom we moved in with to care for in their illnesses. Your comment hit home.

I reread this thread again this morning and shed a tear, understanding in some ways your feeling.

Seeing your patience, kindness, wisdom, faith and strength over the years, I wholly believe you will continue to be a great man and father to your children. I pray for your peace. I pray for your strength. I pray your faith leads to comfort.
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I'm sorry to hear what happened to your close family members. Please accept my condolence.

Left by those who we love is a sad thing. But we must always realize, soon or later we will leave those who love us too. Nothing lasts forever in this world, all will be return to God. Me too, you too, all of us. So, we must prepare ourselves for the last journey.

In Shaa Allah, I will try to always be good father for my children. And become a better man.

Thank you very much, brother.
 
Futuwwa said:
You were the perfect husband all brothers looked up to for inspiration,
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Nobody perfect, me too. :)

I have a long list of my wife complains on me. And actually there were a few things from my wife that I did not like. But we tried to understand each other.

There is no man who born to become good husband. Become good husband is the result of learning process. Every man can be a good husband if he is willing to learn.

Okay, I'll give a tip for brothers who want to learn to become good husband.

Always remember, your mother is a woman, your sister is a woman, your wife is a woman too like your mother, like your sister. Be kind to your wife like you kind to your mother and your sister. And when you start rude to your wife, just imagine how you feel if your sister husband rude to your sister.
 
Assalamu alaikum. I am very sorry for your loss. I believe you have been a very good husband for her. This thread has brought tears to my eyes. May Allah (swt) give you strength and sabr to get through this very difficult time, may Allah (swt) reward you for your good deeds of constantly being there for her, and may Allah (swt) grant her entrance to the highest realms of Jannah. Ameen.
 

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